How long is too long ? A question for the..........

[GreenNnice]

This question is for the ladies.

After an initial meeting and everything goes perfect, and, I mean p-e-r-f-e-c-t, he pushes you into hilarity or smirkiness toward his flirtations, maybe, one time, at your store, where you are cashier, kidding you into silliness, and, maybe, twice, kidding you silly, what, then , is the time limit, miladies, for how long until the moment is passed, and, that guy is h-i-s-t-o-r-y ?

Do you give him a week to get back to you AND ASK YOU OUT before completely writing him off, or, a month, or a year, or, longer?

Anything he can do, IF you've said 'sayonara' in your mind of him in your life ever, to change that feeling you're believing ?

Please explain your answers, thank you, we can use ALL the help we can get. The Lord leads. But, yeah, we can

 

[GreenNnice]

Guys, you're welcome to say some things, too, I know, we have ALL been in that 'boat' of flirting and then just not ever gettting up the nerve to EVER ask that girl out we really, really like. I think, and, I hate to say this, in some respects, that as much as I want to say the Lords' just never ever never made a situation perfectly right, I think, maybe, He has, and, I've just not had enough faith in His 'great' way for me in this way But, I am, too, content and thankful that God knows best and we do know where to go, led by Him, and, though we don't always follow, He, still, never leaves us nor forsakes us. We DO need to be aware though of our cowardliness and realize that God does want us to obey Him and, for some more than others, marriage is definitely His way for you, as Scripture is clear, that when our life just is going sin's way and it can be HELPED by finding a girl and, hopefully, then, marrying THAT GIRL, that 'it is better to marry than to burn with passion.'

Passion for Christ is perfect, but, if our passion is not built on serving Christ, and, turns to self, it will be perfect for evil to crouch at our door

Think about what that word 'burn' means and realize that it means a lot , I'm NOT judging you, guys, or, gal, for that matter, but, don't forsake God's BEST plan for you when YOUR going a worse way of sin and I won't get into that, just saying what's been said. The Lord leads, let's do our perfect best to rely on His strength in us--not our own---to follow Him

Pray to Him, that's what we need to do, for all things of our life, and when we pray give God all the glory for the goodness of your life.

But I say to the unmarried and to widows that it is good for them if they remain even as I. 9But if they do not have self-control, let them marry; for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

 

[GreenNnice]

Poll question should have 'The Lord leads' too, I think, but, yeah, I thought of putting that choice in there, and, didn't , my fault, sorry about that, miladies, I was just not thinking with all my greenness there.

So, six responses is NOT enough , there should be a 7th and then this poll would be perfect

But, anyway, I thought I should say that, I hope this thread elicits some response, eventually, or, I think, I will just keep on posting until I have a zillion posts on here. OH WAIT, I have to get up early tomorrow for work, OK, then, already, I will only post on my thread for another hour or so, and, then, we'll have to call that a 'zillion.'

Seriously, I just wanted to put that 7th poll choice, so, I am getting my green cents in otherwise, too. The Lord leads

 

[Donkeyfish07]

Guys, you're welcome to say some things, too, I know, we have ALL been in that 'boat' of flirting and then just not ever gettting up the nerve to EVER ask that girl out we really, really like.

I say if your going to do it, do it immediately. Otherwise your probably just going to end up talking yourself out of it, if your not going to do it when you first get the desire to....what's could possibly change in the next 5 minutes or 5 days that's going to make it any easier for you? I don't know about you, but I'd rather get a rejection and put it behind me than to think back on the situation for weeks kicking myself in the behind for not doing anything.

 

[Catlynn]

I don't think that I think about it much UNTIL he asks me. What if he's just a flirtatious guy? There are lots of those, ya know. Mostly I just roll with it. I say "yes" if I want to and "no" if I don't. As far as writing a guy off, I don't know that I do that just because he hasn't asked me out. I might if there are extreme personality and/or life conflicts, but not just because it's taking him a while to work up the courage to ask me. Sometimes, if I do like him and realize he may lack the courage, I tell him what my answer will be ahead of time, so as to make him more comfortable. lol That said, I haven't been on many dates lately, so maybe that's not the best approach. haha

 

[GreenNnice]

I think, the girl should be open to His leading. I really should have had that poll choice in the original poll. Oh well. I don't want 'the Lord leads' to seem like a cop-out but I do think it's important, miladies, that you REALLY listen to a guy who suddenly asks you out after having flirted with you 5-6-7 times and finally worked up the nerve to ask you out. MAYBE, the Lord will lead you to believe his reason for flirting and not asking you, flirting and not asking you, flirting and not asking you, flirting and not asking you, flirting and not asking you, flirting and not asking you, was, or, is, legit . That FIRST time you meet is important, granted, and, if he flirts and doesn't work up the nerve to ask you out then you could just think he's not into you enough, but, when he FINALLY asks you out, then, really listen to his reason why, for this could be just the guy God wants for you and his apprehension asking you out could say a lot about a lot of things about him, let's call it......


....a cautionary tale of true love. And, you both will look back at this time as the beginning of a beautiful, God-led relationship. Wait on Him and He will lift you up.... Isaiah 40:31 Was this guy waiting..... ?