Broke it off, feel broke off from God.

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GreenPenguin

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Ok, first post here, but i've been hiding in the shadows for quite some time now. I have myself a bit of a problem. I never thought I would have to say this, but it has to do with a girl. 0_o

A while ago, I re-connected with a girl I had a crush on when I was a bit younger. Things seemed to be going well and progressing smoothly until I met some of her friends. I wasn't impressed with her friends, and I felt this was God telling me to break it off. I prayed about this for a long and did break contact with her. After I did break contact I felt incredible, but ever since that point I've seemed to go downhill spiritually. I don't really talk with God all that often anymore, and I don't read all that often either. A close friend on mine told me it looks like I am resenting God for "taking away" her, and because of that I am pulling away from God. I don't feel that way since I felt God was leading me to break it off with said girl. At any rate I know I am not close to God at all, and that is starting to bother me more than ever.

I'm just looking for any advice or tips on how to get past this spiritual state I am in, and I figured at least one of you fellow singles would have some advice. I know i'm in a bad state and I need to get out, but honestly everything I've tried hasn't really worked yet. Help the green n00b please!
 
Liamson

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2 things...


Fast and Pray. Try it. Its awesome. Its sounds too simple too easy but, trust me on this one. Its worth it. ;)


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Girlfriend's friends are usually weird. I don't know why this is a thing, but it just is. This is why I could never date a Spice girl.


Her friends are usually odd ducks, or drug dealers, or LARP geeks. They are almost nothing like your friends or like her really. And there is about a 1 in 3 chance she has this guy friend who is super awkward and clearly has a crush on her. "Oh Larry, he's just a friend."

...yeah, uh huh.

 
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kenisyes

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It sounds to me like you feel bad about having had to make a tough decision. As far as God's concerned, it does not matter how you feel, He is still there. If you are angry with Him for telling you to break it off, tell Him so. He's used to that, and at least you will be talking to Him. Scream at Him if you have to.

There really is a better option waiting. At 22, I know that might be hard to believe. But single again as a widower at 65, I have lived long enough to know for certain. If (or eventually when) you are not angry with God, this better option is worth praying about, and considering with Him where your life is, where it is to go, and what kind of person He has for you to be with.
 
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GreenPenguin

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Liamson said:
2 things...


Fast and Pray. Try it. Its awesome. Its sounds too simple too easy but, trust me on this one. Its worth it. ;)


----------------------------------------Point 2--------------------------------------------

Girlfriend's friends are usually weird. I don't know why this is a thing, but it just is. This is why I could never date a Spice girl.


Her friends are usually odd ducks, or drug dealers, or LARP geeks. They are almost nothing like your friends or like her really. And there is about a 1 in 3 chance she has this guy friend who is super awkward and clearly has a crush on her. "Oh Larry, he's just a friend."

...yeah, uh huh.

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Thank you Liamson. I will look into point 1 and see what happens. As far as point 2, her friends weren't weird, I can handle weird. Her friends were not a good influence in any way imaginable. That bugged me more than anything, and Proverbs 12:26 came to mind.

kenisyes said:
It sounds to me like you feel bad about having had to make a tough decision. As far as God's concerned, it does not matter how you feel, He is still there. If you are angry with Him for telling you to break it off, tell Him so. He's used to that, and at least you will be talking to Him. Scream at Him if you have to.

There really is a better option waiting. At 22, I know that might be hard to believe. But single again as a widower at 65, I have lived long enough to know for certain. If (or eventually when) you are not angry with God, this better option is worth praying about, and considering with Him where your life is, where it is to go, and what kind of person He has for you to be with.
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I will try that Ken, thank you. As far as waiting, I have no problem with that. At 22, i realize that I am still young and there are still allot of years ahead of me (At least I hope there are).
 
CatHerder

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GreenPenguin said:
Ok, first post here, but i've been hiding in the shadows for quite some time now.
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Firstly, welcome to CC! I'm glad you decided to change from a "lurker" to a "poster." I hope CC challenges you to grow spiritually and have some fun and fellowship at the same time. :)

GreenPenguin said:
...I felt this was God telling me to break it off. I prayed about this for a long and did break contact with her. After I did break contact I felt incredible, but ever since that point I've seemed to go downhill spiritually. I don't really talk with God all that often anymore, and I don't read all that often either. A close friend on mine told me it looks like I am resenting God for "taking away" her, and because of that I am pulling away from God. I don't feel that way since I felt God was leading me to break it off with said girl. At any rate I know I am not close to God at all, and that is starting to bother me more than ever.

I'm just looking for any advice or tips on how to get past this spiritual state I am in, and I figured at least one of you fellow singles would have some advice. I know i'm in a bad state and I need to get out, but honestly everything I've tried hasn't really worked yet. Help the green n00b please!
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It seems to me that you may be depressed. Not as in clinically depressed, but having a case of situational depression. This seems understandable. You lost a relationship. Just because God led you to do this does not mean that you are going to have the warm fuzzies over this. Your friend may be right in that this is why you feel like you are "pulling away." He just may be wrong about you feeling angry.

The fact that it is bothering you that you don't feel close to God is a good thing! Start reading the Word, whether you feel like it or not. For you, Philippians is a great place to start. Just one chapter and let it sink in. Talk to God about it throughout the day.

And the advice you got about fasting is spot on!

Know that I - and probably many others now, are praying for you!

Blessings,

Steve
 
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Jesus_lover_of_my_soul

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Jeremiah 29:11-13 For I know the thoughts I have towards you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. Then you will call upon me and go pray to me, and I will listen to you. And you will seek me and go and pray to me, and I will listen to you. And you will seek me and find me, when you search for me with you're whole heart.

Maby you are losing faith because you don't see god working in you're life. Even though you might not see it, he is still there for you. Hope this helps. God bless you :)
 
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isaria

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Hope you will feel peace and joy again and let go of her and the thought of her.


The friends is a big "runner" for me also.
If the ones im in court with for crime they did (despite looking good outwards) then I would not date him who friends with them.

Friends bad to and for you affects you and how you feel, your behaviours etc.
You could of become a bad behaved man affected and influenced by their behaviours and if not it still is incredibly important what friends date has.
If they are to bad then no.


It was brave and strong of you to break it of.

You should feel brave and strong and not depressed.
Meet some one new.

Let go.
release and open up to the new.
You can not accept and welcome the new when you holding on to the old and not want to let go.
 
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GreenPenguin

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CatHerder said:
Firstly, welcome to CC! I'm glad you decided to change from a "lurker" to a "poster." I hope CC challenges you to grow spiritually and have some fun and fellowship at the same time. :)



It seems to me that you may be depressed. Not as in clinically depressed, but having a case of situational depression. This seems understandable. You lost a relationship. Just because God led you to do this does not mean that you are going to have the warm fuzzies over this. Your friend may be right in that this is why you feel like you are "pulling away." He just may be wrong about you feeling angry.

The fact that it is bothering you that you don't feel close to God is a good thing! Start reading the Word, whether you feel like it or not. For you, Philippians is a great place to start. Just one chapter and let it sink in. Talk to God about it throughout the day.

And the advice you got about fasting is spot on!

Know that I - and probably many others now, are praying for you!

Blessings,

Steve
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Thank you Steve, I have been reading though Philippians the past couple days and have been asking for insight and wisdom from God. I haven't had much time to read because of work schedule, but this week I will have more time todig in.

Jesus_lover_of_my_soul said:
Jeremiah 29:11-13 For I know the thoughts I have towards you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. Then you will call upon me and go pray to me, and I will listen to you. And you will seek me and go and pray to me, and I will listen to you. And you will seek me and find me, when you search for me with you're whole heart.

Maby you are losing faith because you don't see god working in you're life. Even though you might not see it, he is still there for you. Hope this helps. God bless you :)
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That may be true, because I somehow feel as if i'm at odds with God at times. I know It can't be true, but yet I still have those thoughts.

isaria said:
Hope you will feel peace and joy again and let go of her and the thought of her.


The friends is a big "runner" for me also.
If the ones im in court with for crime they did (despite looking good outwards) then I would not date him who friends with them.

Friends bad to and for you affects you and how you feel, your behaviours etc.
You could of become a bad behaved man affected and influenced by their behaviours and if not it still is incredibly important what friends date has.
If they are to bad then no.


It was brave and strong of you to break it of.

You should feel brave and strong and not depressed.
Meet some one new.

Let go.
release and open up to the new.
You can not accept and welcome the new when you holding on to the old and not want to let go.
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I really hope I can feel peace and joy again too. That's the reason I posted here, so I could get back to where I was. :)

I would get out and meet some new people, but where I'm at spiritually that probly isn't the smartest thing, but once I regain my footing, you can be sure I'll be on the lookout. ;)
 
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BRANNEN

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Place this relationship in the nail scared hand of Jesus and he will cover you and you will have an Awesome answer from him!! God Bless you this is how I got past the hurt and pain of a broken relationship
 
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