I know this thread is a few weeks old & apologize for resurrecting it,but I was bored and I was away for a while,so cut me some slack peeps. lol
I think honesty goes hand and hand with communication,at least for me. Communication is perhaps one of the core things I look for in any relationship I have,and even more so in a relationship I am pursuing at a romantic level.
I am a bit ashamed but I signed up at christian mingle for a total of maybe a week or two,and kinda just looked around & read profiles of women 35-47,and I'll be honest,I wasn't impressed at all. It was even more disheartening when I reduced my search to "local" women. One good thing came from going to the site I will say & that was taking this random questions survey they have to determine what "color" you are. I took it while rolling my eyes the entire time,but when I was done I was pretty shocked to read what I did. It was pretty much hitting the nail on the head about myself,how I view other's,the type of things I look for or expect in a relationship...I was really a bit amazed. I scored highest in Blue & got a 68% & my lowest was White,which I think I was 5% in,something very low..Red was #2 followed by Yellow. I'm not gonna go into what all this means,but those of you who've used the site know what I'm talking about.
Anyways,rambling here...but I kept getting all these crazy requests from women I was supposedly compatible with. I never answered back & I certainly wasn't about to pay $$$ to a company that randomly generates women for you to get to know. Bleh!
So honesty...yes...sooooooooooo important! No one likes to be deceived,and like I think Shoryu mentioned (concerning something as trivial as height) The person you are interested in is going to find out eventually all these things about you...so why lie??????? If you are so insecure about what you are or what you look like or what you job is,etc... then maybe you are not secure or ready enough to be thinking about dating or marriage. I understand that people want to present themselves in the best possible light,but really...the best possible light to present yourself in,is the light of the Holy Spirit. After all,the person you are looking to impress,should be impressed the most with the fact that you are sold out to Jesus & love Him with all your being. Everything else about that person that you come to love or be impressed by is just icing on the cake.