So, usually we see many a thread posted on CC that saying such and such is evil and we should never partake in such things. This isn't going to one of those times.
Let me clarify, i don't see dating as something that is wicked, but rather how it is carried out a majority of the time is just plain reckless and well...stupid. Stupid is a good word for it. But I'm not going to be getting into the whole ''let's come up with the proper ways to date" I'll leave that to another thread.
In this thread, I've kind of had this on my heart to say this. I think it's a major trend nowadays among many people (younger usually) that set up idols in their heart that pertain to having a bf/gf or having a husband/wife.
Let me be clear. I have always been single myself and I know what I'm saying when i say it's easy to make that relationship you want so bad, be an idol in your heart. Think of it like this. If you USE God solely as a means to an end (which is the relationship) then you have the wrong mindset. I'm not saying it's wrong to pray to God for the right one, but I am saying that it is wrong that you;re just calling yourself pure, and using the brand name of Christianity so you can bag yourself a good'un. Or really, is your mind focused so much on that future "perfect" relationship that everything else is a backseat and a second priority? Are you more worried about your relationship with a girl/guy than you are with God? Then your priorities aren't straight and you'll easily lose your way and let your morals bend when the rubber hits the road.
Also when you get that relationship, all things will not be better, but more issues will arise in your life and if you're not strong and prepared, you will have even more problems, that is why if you are stilll single, take every effort to improve yourself and love God and when he sends you someone you will be prepared.
But overall, please do not set up idols in your heart with dating and marriage thinking it will solve all your problems. Only God can deal with our issues wholly. Everything else you depend upon like a god to help you in such a way IS an idol.
i love all of you and i hope this helps someone!
End rant lol
Let me clarify, i don't see dating as something that is wicked, but rather how it is carried out a majority of the time is just plain reckless and well...stupid. Stupid is a good word for it. But I'm not going to be getting into the whole ''let's come up with the proper ways to date" I'll leave that to another thread.
In this thread, I've kind of had this on my heart to say this. I think it's a major trend nowadays among many people (younger usually) that set up idols in their heart that pertain to having a bf/gf or having a husband/wife.
Let me be clear. I have always been single myself and I know what I'm saying when i say it's easy to make that relationship you want so bad, be an idol in your heart. Think of it like this. If you USE God solely as a means to an end (which is the relationship) then you have the wrong mindset. I'm not saying it's wrong to pray to God for the right one, but I am saying that it is wrong that you;re just calling yourself pure, and using the brand name of Christianity so you can bag yourself a good'un. Or really, is your mind focused so much on that future "perfect" relationship that everything else is a backseat and a second priority? Are you more worried about your relationship with a girl/guy than you are with God? Then your priorities aren't straight and you'll easily lose your way and let your morals bend when the rubber hits the road.
Also when you get that relationship, all things will not be better, but more issues will arise in your life and if you're not strong and prepared, you will have even more problems, that is why if you are stilll single, take every effort to improve yourself and love God and when he sends you someone you will be prepared.
But overall, please do not set up idols in your heart with dating and marriage thinking it will solve all your problems. Only God can deal with our issues wholly. Everything else you depend upon like a god to help you in such a way IS an idol.
i love all of you and i hope this helps someone!
End rant lol
good post.
