This is something we've been discussing in my group at church, and I was asked to speak on it.
So what exactly is a need? Most folks in the group decided that you need God, food, water, clothes, and shelter. That's it.
Sure, if your only purpose in this world is to survive, then yes, those are your only needs. But if you are called to a greater purpose (and you are), then you have greater needs. Are you called to be a musician? Then you need an instrument. Are you called to be an accountant? Then you need a calculator. Are you called to be a parent? Then you need kids. An artist? You need a creative mind.
Now what about a spouse? If you have a deep desire to get married, then I would argue that you are probably called to be a husband or wife. In that case, a spouse IS a need for you.
So God says that He will meet your needs. He takes care of the birds of the air, so why wouldn't He take care of you, someone much more valuable? So you have this need; a spouse. Why isn't God meeting this need? Well, it may be a need, but it's not an immediate need. So when? I have no idea. Maybe there is something you need to learn first. Maybe you're resisting. In that case, God is going to keep trying to teach you until you get it. Because if you're called to be a husband/wife, then you're called to be a GOOD husband/wife, not just a mediocre one. God knows that the best or only way for you to learn this thing is without a spouse. Trust me, He knows what's best for you. And He is not going to change His mind.
Anyway, take hope that, if you long to spend your life with someone, then having a spouse is probably a need for you. And if it's a need, then God sees it, He cares about it, and He will provide it (if you let Him). And that's an awesome thing.
So what exactly is a need? Most folks in the group decided that you need God, food, water, clothes, and shelter. That's it.
Sure, if your only purpose in this world is to survive, then yes, those are your only needs. But if you are called to a greater purpose (and you are), then you have greater needs. Are you called to be a musician? Then you need an instrument. Are you called to be an accountant? Then you need a calculator. Are you called to be a parent? Then you need kids. An artist? You need a creative mind.
Now what about a spouse? If you have a deep desire to get married, then I would argue that you are probably called to be a husband or wife. In that case, a spouse IS a need for you.
So God says that He will meet your needs. He takes care of the birds of the air, so why wouldn't He take care of you, someone much more valuable? So you have this need; a spouse. Why isn't God meeting this need? Well, it may be a need, but it's not an immediate need. So when? I have no idea. Maybe there is something you need to learn first. Maybe you're resisting. In that case, God is going to keep trying to teach you until you get it. Because if you're called to be a husband/wife, then you're called to be a GOOD husband/wife, not just a mediocre one. God knows that the best or only way for you to learn this thing is without a spouse. Trust me, He knows what's best for you. And He is not going to change His mind.
Anyway, take hope that, if you long to spend your life with someone, then having a spouse is probably a need for you. And if it's a need, then God sees it, He cares about it, and He will provide it (if you let Him). And that's an awesome thing.