Why and How Single Christian Women Should Start Pursuing Men

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Why and How Single Christian Women Should Start Pursuing Men!

by Lester Barrie, Christian minister and comedian -> Lester Barrie Enterprises — Blog


[video=youtube;TWEZQ-yl8Ok]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TWEZQ-yl8Ok[/video]
 
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Seriously...get real. I will be alone as long as I want to, no man is gonna convince me otherwise.I am a good woman and I always been loyal but I always get treated badly so i am not taking the chance anymore. Men can be my friend. I hate relationships and just because I am a single good female does not mean I need to run out looking for a man. I am not sure how you want to interpret proverbs 18:22. Sure I will be his friend but I am not going to love a man again and I do NOT want men falling for me. they always do and it ruins the friendship.
 

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Women that pursued men in the Bible:

Delilah
Jezebel

Yeah...those are the two women I want to be associated with.

He has bought into the feminist mindset big time...as have many others. Essentially, the true role of men has been robbed and diminished and brought down. Seriously, guys. Be the man that God made men to be. Be the head. Be the leader. Be the one that stands up. This guy totally double talks himself. "Oh, look, I opened a can of worms. Let me change what I said and make it a friendship rather than a romance."

Boaz approached Ruth, not the other way around, in the first place. So did Ruth initiate the relationship? Nope. Boaz did. Then, from his starting to care for Ruth and look out for her, Naomi, who knew the culture, told Ruth what to do and Ruth obeyed her mother-in-law. Ruth did not say. "Hey, look at that handsome man that I think I could marry one day. Let me pursue a friendship with him." That is not what the Bible says at all. This is twisting Scripture to make your point legitimate, at least in your eyes.

I am avidly against aggressive women and weak men. And I always will be. And this is my opinion. And now, I am done. :)
 
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this is a very interesting video! Its quite amazing how he refers to biblical scripture concerning a story of how Ruth initiated a friendship and eventually it was her who asked for marriage. Maybe the fall and sin of the world has made this concept so far from reality when indeed maybe god would want both genders to pursue equally!
 
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CW, what scriptures do you think support your premise?
 

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this is a very interesting video! Its quite amazing how he refers to biblical scripture concerning a story of how Ruth initiated a friendship and eventually it was her who asked for marriage. Maybe the fall and sin of the world has made this concept so far from reality when indeed maybe god would want both genders to pursue equally!
This would all be well and good if Ruth had, in fact, been the one to initiate the friendship, but she wasn't. Boaz noticed her, asked about her, cared for her and when Ruth told her mother in law, Naomi then told Ruth that Boaz was the kinsman redeemer and told Ruth what to do and then Ruth obeyed her mother in law. Ruth did not pursue Boaz first. Boaz pursued Ruth and then Ruth responded to that pursuit.
 

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Hmmm...who pursued who? Let's see:

Boaz asked his young servant who was foreman over the farm hands, “Who is this young woman? Where did she come from?”
6-7 The foreman said, “Why, that’s the Moabite girl, the one who came with Naomi from the country of Moab. She asked permission. ‘Let me glean,’ she said, ‘and gather among the sheaves following after your harvesters.’ She’s been at it steady ever since, from early morning until now, without so much as a break.”
8-9 Then Boaz spoke to Ruth: “Listen, my daughter. From now on don’t go to any other field to glean—stay right here in this one. And stay close to my young women. Watch where they are harvesting and follow them. And don’t worry about a thing; I’ve given orders to my servants not to harass you. When you get thirsty, feel free to go and drink from the water buckets that the servants have filled.”
10 She dropped to her knees, then bowed her face to the ground. “How does this happen that you should pick me out and treat me so kindly—me, a foreigner?”
11-12 Boaz answered her, “I’ve heard all about you—heard about the way you treated your mother-in-law after the death of her husband, and how you left your father and mother and the land of your birth and have come to live among a bunch of total strangers. God reward you well for what you’ve done—and with a generous bonus besides from God, to whom you’ve come seeking protection under his wings.”
13 She said, “Oh sir, such grace, such kindness—I don’t deserve it. You’ve touched my heart, treated me like one of your own. And I don’t even belong here!”
14 At the lunch break, Boaz said to her, “Come over here; eat some bread. Dip it in the wine.”
So she joined the harvesters. Boaz passed the roasted grain to her. She ate her fill and even had some left over.
15-16 When she got up to go back to work, Boaz ordered his servants: “Let her glean where there’s still plenty of grain on the ground—make it easy for her. Better yet, pull some of the good stuff out and leave it for her to glean. Give her special treatment.”
17-18 Ruth gleaned in the field until evening. When she threshed out what she had gathered, she ended up with nearly a full sack of barley! She gathered up her gleanings, went back to town, and showed her mother-in-law the results of her day’s work; she also gave her the leftovers from her lunch.
 
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LOL well i cant argue with scripture haha! Ill have to read the whole book of ruth to understand it instead of listening to a video. I still do agree with what is being said in the video tho! It is mostly a social standard we have adapeted to when the man pretty much always pursues a woman.

I think when women show interest and give hints is some form of persuing
 

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Ruth didn't have to show interest for Boaz to start pursuing. She had to respond to the pursuit in order for marriage to happen, but that is what courtship is all about. :D
 
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A "LADY" who knows what she has to offer doesn't pursue...She makes a choice.
 
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LOL well i cant argue with scripture haha! Ill have to read the whole book of ruth to understand it instead of listening to a video. I still do agree with what is being said in the video tho! It is mostly a social standard we have adapeted to when the man pretty much always pursues a woman.

I think when women show interest and give hints is some form of persuing
Might be social standard because I heard of places where women are the ones who buy Valentine gifts and propose to their future spouses, etc. Culture difference it seems. Sometimes the relationship actually look more genuine and long lasting than the ones here in America. Too bad most people are picky.
 

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Yeah. Don't you just hate it when a woman has standards and doesn't cave to feminism and cultural excuses?

Sarcastic, I know. Sorry. Just one of those days...nothing personal. As I said, I am against aggressive women and men that refuse to be headship. If I were to start a relationship, I promise you that I would run said relationship. Women were never meant to take on the role of men, yet, thanks to feminists taking a good idea way too far, women work, men stay home, women pursue, men giggle.
 
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When I was an active Christian for 11 years after my 2 child was born, I was celibate the entire time and it was some of the best and freest years of my. When I stopped practicing Gods laws and began practicing a life of fornication again, having a few unmarried relationships. I was unsatisfied and disappointed. Christ wasn't kidding when he was talking up single life. Singleness is blessing on so many levels.
Satan sells sex, making it look like it's the best thing in life. In reality, it's only great when we're in love and married to someone who loves and serves God the way we want to. Anything short of that is always short in everything else.
 
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What part of Rev. 21:27 did you quote? and I know that Randy Alcorn didn't write it. You thru the scripture in as if that's what you were quoting, but actually quoted some man instead. What looked obvious is that you didn't quote God. You obviously felt that Randy's wisdom was more appropriate.

Whatever...just squeeze the knees and keep it clean like God told us to.
 
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Why and How Single Christian Women Should Start Pursuing Men!

by Lester Barrie, Christian minister and comedian -> Lester Barrie Enterprises — Blog

[video=youtube;TWEZQ-yl8Ok]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TWEZQ-yl8Ok[/video]
That is so great, thanks so much for posting this. It has just confirmed what I did recently to pursue a Godly friendship with a Godly man it is early days yet but thanks I love this :) bless you for sharing.
 

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What part of Rev. 21:27 did you quote? and I know that Randy Alcorn didn't write it. You thru the scripture in as if that's what you were quoting, but actually quoted some man instead. What looked obvious is that you didn't quote God. You obviously felt that Randy's wisdom was more appropriate.

Whatever...just squeeze the knees and keep it clean like God told us to.
It is a reference to that Scripture, not the Scripture itself, and it was taken directly from his book, hence his name added to it. If I were quoting Scripture, the reference wouldn't be in parenthesis. For example:

And there shall in no wise enter into it any thing that defileth, neither whatsoever worketh abomination, or maketh a lie: but they which are written in the Lamb's book of life.

Revelation 21:217, KJV
But thank you so much for focusing on my signature, rather than the content of my writing above. I truly appreciate the distraction from the point of this thread.
 
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Yeah. Don't you just hate it when a woman has standards and doesn't cave to feminism and cultural excuses?
I think a woman named sister Mystdancer is really good Bible teacher.
 

mystdancer50

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I think a woman named sister Mystdancer is really good Bible teacher.
:) Sometimes I am overly passionate...God is working on me. One of the hardest things for me is to continually say things in a loving way, as I'm sure you may notice even in this thread. That is one of the things that I constantly have to bring before God and ask Him to help me change. I so want to be salt and light in this world and speak truth. :D I am often apologizing when I get too adamant about my beliefs.
 
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:) Sometimes I am overly passionate...God is working on me. One of the hardest things for me is to continually say things in a loving way, as I'm sure you may notice even in this thread. That is one of the things that I constantly have to bring before God and ask Him to help me change. I so want to be salt and light in this world and speak truth. :D I am often apologizing when I get too adamant about my beliefs.
LOL! There are so many false teachers in the world today that passion for the world of God is quite beneficial.

Thanks to all for contributing to this thread!