Whats more attractive on a guy... being tall, or being intelligent and/or masculine?

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Bo

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I used to be really insecure cause im not tall coming from a father whos 6'2 and brother whos 6'3.... but theyre both not attractive at all, yet it seems on this forum girls talk about the tallness thing as a big thing. Is it really that big of a thing?
 
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Ugly

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I'm not a woman, but i can provide some insight nonetheless.
Well, you don't say your height, so it will be hard for a woman to make a determination as far as your height. But it is not just women on this forum. Taller men are viewed as stronger, more commanding and better leaders. Also a full head of hair. There are various traits viewed, both by men and women, that causes people to make assumptions about the type of man they're looking at. And those traits will be more appealing, on average, to women.
But, much like men, women come in different heights. Even if you are not taller, there are women who will be shorter and will see you as taller than they are, and still maintain that attraction. Or even a woman your height.

Height is only ONE factor of attraction, also. When these women are speaking of height, they are also considering other factors. I think the concept here is that they want a man to be taller than they are. Whether they're 5'4" or 5'9". Long as you can be taller than them, that seems to be the priority. Not just being tall.
But at the end of the day, it's irrelevant. You can't change your height. So no point in focusing on it. Just go out there, be yourself, and you will fit into someones ideas of attractive.
 

rachelsedge

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Echoing what Ugly said, I'd prefer that my future guy be taller than me (and I'm taller than the "average" woman, at 5'7") but it certainly isn't the determining factor. There are many more important aspects than height in both initial attraction and a relationship. :)
 
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Relena7

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If you want to seem tall to someone, find a petite woman. Problem solved. You'll be tall in her eyes. ;)
 

dliz

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If you want to seem tall to someone, find a petite woman. Problem solved. You'll be tall in her eyes. ;)
hehehe. good answer.
 
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Tintin

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It's important to be tall, bearded, geeky and modest. It's important to be Tintin.

(I'm 6'5).
 

Cherry4Christ

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What is very attractive to me is a man having a open-line relationship with God.
 
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Since these ideas are important for women... Will those high heels of Gene Simmons (KISS) still being in fashion?

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Jullianna

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I used to be really insecure cause im not tall coming from a father whos 6'2 and brother whos 6'3.... but theyre both not attractive at all, yet it seems on this forum girls talk about the tallness thing as a big thing. Is it really that big of a thing?
It is to some people, to others not so much. Most women would prefer a man to be at least as tall as they are, especially since they know it is an issue for a lot of men more than for their women. Some guys are highly sensitive about their height and it can become a HUGE issue (there's even a syndrome - see "Napoleon Complex").

Extreme height differences can make some things awkward. I'll just leave it at that. Ask some of the tall guys what I'm talking about.

But..ummm...aren't you the guy who said in the body type thread that you prefer "semi-short" women? I'm truly not trying to be rude or trollish. Just trying to point out that the height door swings both ways, you know? Some people care about height, some don't.
 

Fenner

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I've always liked intelligent men. If you can't hold a conversation with someone it would be hard to have a relationship with them.
 
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I've always liked intelligent men. If you can't hold a conversation with someone it would be hard to have a relationship with them.
What about a man who's somewhat intelligent but can't seem to hold a conversation to save his life? (me) :/
 
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Roots

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Taller than me would be ideal, but as most people have said it's not the most important quality in a mate. A person's height is only one of many traits that determine attraction. And, in a serious relationship, I'd say it's pretty low on the list of important qualities and traits.

In answer to your question, if I could only choose one of the three options proposed (tall, intelligent, masculine) giving up the other two, I would choose intelligent.
 
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DecentGuy

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I used to be really insecure cause im not tall coming from a father whos 6'2 and brother whos 6'3.... but theyre both not attractive at all, yet it seems on this forum girls talk about the tallness thing as a big thing. Is it really that big of a thing?
Hey there brother Bo, I am all of the above....I am also 51 and highly intelligent blah blah
It appears to me that you are also intelligent and a sensitive man.
I have had women come on to me....I went from barley able to walk (car crash)into a good looking gregarious and physically good looking man , I look 10 years younger. Lost 80 pounds and am committed to the gym.

Back on point...yes women appreciate a nice looking man with a toned body...guess what ...if you are intelligent and kind to women, you are way ahead. Women IMHO, respect a man that treats them well. They go through their bad boy phase and then realize the man they want is someone like you.

Reliable, a bit adventurous and kind to them and their children. The older a man gets, usually he becomes a real man...just sayin" a real man takes care of his family and treats his woman with respect and kind feelings.

Sounds like you are on track, I am still working on that aspect and will not date until I feel I am ready...if that makes any sense.

First and foremost...treat your lady well, if you are funny and make her laugh..huge bonus. Women are attracted to confidence, carry yourself well.

My best you
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BananaPie

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Bo, think outside the box where God dwells. ...and all the cool thinkers hang-out. :)

 
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jkalyna

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What about a man who's somewhat intelligent but can't seem to hold a conversation to save his life? (me) :/
that's not a problem, find a girl who likes to hug instead,,, emotions say a lot. Be yourself. You are made perfect for someone just the way you are..
 
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jkalyna

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My mom married my step dad who was a lot shorter than her, and she is short, and she married in heels, was about 5 inches above him. What makes a good self confident character, is that a man knows where he stands, he's not a whimp in God's eyes, and the women from the LOrd should look up, to him no matter what, no I said a joke about I'd rather be single and wear heels than to be with a man who's slightly shorter, that's why jk means just kidding. :) To me height, and age just should not matter, Love is real. :)
 
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MissCris

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What good is it to be with a tall guy if he's a jerk? Better to have a...less tall...guy who treats you right and can talk to you than a guy who's...you know, just height, no heart.

Don't mind me, I'm not even really awake yet.

 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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I wouldn't date some one who was my height or shorter. 5'7 to 6'1.

Being smart is awesome, however it wouldn't make up for the fact my potential date and i could probably fit in the same clothes....
 
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Donkeyfish07

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I've been insecure about a lot of things in my life but my height has never been one of them. I'm 5'4......I've dated women that are almost 6 feet tall. I've also dated girls that are well known for having taste in tall, built men. It doesn't have a negative effect on me at all. I believe it's a mental thing. If your insecure about it, the insecurity is what's causing the problem. Not your height. I've known dudes that are 5'8 to be very insecure about how short they are.....I laugh at that sometimes, I'm like what's the big deal guys?

My answer to your thread question would be......masculine is the only important thing you listed. Tallness and even intelligence are insignificant. Stupid people get pretty girlfriends all the time, lol. Not that either is a bad thing to have, but it's not important.