Help, And Don't Hurt/Helped People Can Hurt People

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It should be truism that no one who is a discontented single (Christian) person is so because of one reason that requires one solution, or even simple advice. Everybody is different, is in a different environment, and is going through different circumstances; they have different views and ideas, likes and dislikes, and everyone is raised differently.

Therefore, there are many reasons. And just because they are discontent of their state, that does not indicate a fault in their mindset, as if being sad over their loneliness was a sin, or should be regarded as wrong. Actually, in some ways, it's okay to be sad, to be confused, to despair, to be sorrowful, even to weep. Emotions are emotions, and who will ever try to find fault in someone for having an emotion? People that do will run the risk of showing a inconsiderate conceitedness, and, in their attempt to help (so they view it), will not much encourage at all. And as I point one finger at you, I have three facing me, and justly so.

I think of myself, and the reasons I feel that I'm single. Honestly, they're alot of reasons. Some are, I feel, my own personal expectations and preferences, and some are things that are beyond my control. And I feel that you're the same way. And if you're not, then consider yourself blessed, and enjoy your free will in this matter.

Of course, we don't have to be sad, and the place where we are joyful in whatever state we're in is the goal that Paul told us to seek (Philippians 4.11); getting there, though, is a different matter. My intent in the past threads I began was to find and form some sort of community. The truth is, if we're truly Christians, we will love one another as Christ loves us, and we will seek each other's company and fellowship. As Paul makes it clear, none of us can be perfected as saints, none of us can be edified in this life without each other.

I guess I'm just rambling. I probably should have blogged this lol.

So if you really have it in mind to help someone who is an unsatisfied Christian (because of their singleness), then try your best know the person, and don't spout out your 'cut and dry' advice comments; doing so will just reveal pride that's latent in you.




 
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