Your initial and continued attraction to shallow/frivolous is a red flag to change.

[1still_waters]

What gets your attention?
What keeps your attention?

Is it someone/something that appeals to your sense of shallowness?
Is it someone/something that appeals to your sense of being frivolous?

For some reason, it's easy to be attracted, and maintain attraction to things/people/movements that appeal to our sense of shallowness/frivolous.

Sometimes we need to take a step back from the thing/someone/movement/etc. that attracts us, or is keeping our attention.

We need to ask, "Why is this attracting me and keeping my attention?"

If it's because it appeals to your desire for the shallow and frivolous, it may be a major red flag which indicates you need to change.

This isn't just about dating relationships.
It may be about movements we're involved in.

Just some food for thought.

 

[alexis]

I'm kinda confused like I'm fascinated by watching ducks on the water... Is that what you mean like wasting time just hanging out watching them and taking pictures?

I also spend tons of time playing guitar..

Or are you meaning like be drawn to physical beauty of people?
This has really made me think and sorry if I missed the point... Maybe I just had a blonde moment 0.o

 

[1still_waters]

I'm kinda confused like I'm fascinated by watching ducks on the water... Is that what you mean like wasting time just hanging out watching them and taking pictures?

I also spend tons of time playing guitar..

Or are you meaning like be drawn to physical beauty of people?
This has really made me think and sorry if I missed the point... Maybe I just had a blonde moment 0.o

MMmn not so much things like ducks on water.

More like..people who say the right things which appeal to the lower desires of self.
Movements that teach things which appeal to the less than ideal parts of self.

 

[alexis]

MMmn not so much things like ducks on water.

More like..people who say the right things which appeal to the lower desires of self.
Movements that teach things which appeal to the less than ideal parts of self.

Okay I get you... this is one of my short comings.. I know it doesn't matter but I want to be popular at school and sometimes I let my values waiver, like stay quiet when something isn't right. Not big things but little things. It's like this one girl who is really seen as "cool" well I kinda overlooked her bullying someone. I felt bad and later talked to the other person but in the moment I wanted her approval so overlooked what matters most.

I am trying hard to not do that stuff... Will do better.

I get you meant maybe like a boy thing or girl thing for a guy.. But it's kinda the same it's wanting approval acceptance and love.... But this gets me thinking I'm gonna stand up for my faith and beliefs and what I know is right.. Not concede to these wants

Great topic can't wait to see what others say

 

[DorothyG]

Things that usually get and keep my attention are things that bring me to others' attention. "Is this activity/thing/person going satisfy my selfish desires?" is my deep hidden motive. This needs to change.

I recently started playing piano again... for all the wrong reasons. That's why I'm not really getting anywhere. I need to focus on how I can honor God with this activity, not myself.

I want people to notice me and what I can do. That is one of the true desires of my flesh.

I would much rather prefer having a strong desire to capture people's attention and direct it straight to God.

Thank you for this post. This really made me think about my recent actions. This was extremely helpful in my walk with God and my service to him.

Again, Thank you so much.

 

[BananaPie]

Why? Well, some peeps worship their ego, and are easily attracted by anybody giving attention to such ego. They create drama; give advise, whatever fits..., but all along, it's attention to themselves what fuels them. They crave, perhaps starve for praise to their ego. Yikes!

Of course, those peeps won't admit that they are self-centered-attention-grabbers, snowflake flirts... but that goes with the territory...

 

[thebabygoose]

Wow, this is deep. I think God has been teaching me this in the past few weeks, it reminds me of those verses that say work for God instead of men, and thinking about things that are good and also 1 Corinthians 10:23: '"Everything is permissible"--but not everything is beneficial."Everything is permissible"--but not everything is constructive.' It's true what BananaPie said, it's easy to get obsessed with our ego, especially at a young age.. When society and others are so loud and attempt to get our attention and keep it, it tends to be the reason we're shallow in the first place...

 

[Relena7]

I'm not attracted to shallowness all that much. If someone seems too perfect on the outside, I just wonder what they're trying to hide. I feel like shallow things (cultural ideals of perfection, trendiness, other peoples dream careers, etc.) are all so artificial. And these "ideals" are constantly being pushed on me by the media, and occasionally other twentysomething-year-olds. But like a stubborn cat under a bed, the more they push, the more I refuse to come out and care about it.

 

[BananaPie]

What gets your attention? A groomed beard gets my attention.

What keeps your attention? Christ in you will keep my attention.

...yeah, I'm easily distracted...

 

[Jullianna]

What gets your attention?

Normally a great sense of humor/wit. If that is coupled with wisdom, a sense of adventure and compassion, I'm sunk.

What keeps your attention? Someone who knows who they are, but doesn't take themselves too seriously. Someone who wants to make a difference. Someone who wants life to count for something. Someone who is not afraid to take a stand. Someone who loves the Lord boundlessly. Someone who knows how to balance all of the above with the everyday joys of life.

Is it someone/something that appeals to your sense of shallowness?
Is it someone/something that appeals to your sense of being frivolous?

For some reason, it's easy to be attracted, and maintain attraction to things/people/movements that appeal to our sense of shallowness/frivolous.

I do have to be careful of this. My work is so full of serious and drama that I often feel the need to step out of it and into silliness as a form of release. It must be tempered with wisdom though, and I fail at this at times, especially lately.

Sometimes we need to take a step back from the thing/someone/movement/etc. that attracts us, or is keeping our attention.

We need to ask, "Why is this attracting me and keeping my attention?"

If it's because it appeals to your desire for the shallow and frivolous, it may be a major red flag which indicates you need to change.

This isn't just about dating relationships.
It may be about movements we're involved in.

Just some food for thought.

We do need to be mindful of this in movements/matters of faith. Having a passion for the Lord is a constant daily walk of faith, not something that ebbs and flows depending upon how we feel that day or what is going on around us.