Message board street smarts: Tips for using a message board without losing your mind.

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1still_waters

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Picture this as your inside cheat sheet of top secret information to assist you in joyful use of an online message board.


1. Captain chaos

Understand that there are people whom only desire to create chaos. Pay their antics no attention. Attention feeds the monster. The monster dies if you don't feed it.

2. The consenting hostage.

Unless someone is threatening to injure you or take your life, you have the full on right to leave a thread unopened. See a thread topic that gets under your skin? You don't have to open it and subject your sanity to all of the posts that will indeed get under your skin. Don't want none of the rage causing content? Then don't open one. Don't be the consenting hostage.

3. The I Don't Like This Topic Derailer - TIDLTTD for short.


There are people who only want to derail your thread. These people may see the topic of your thread and immediately become disgusted with the topic. They will enter your thread, and try to derail it from the start. You can easily spot them, because their first, second, third..etc posts in the thread, will have nothing to do with the topic at hand. They may make very indirect snide comments about said topic. Their desire is to create so much distraction in said thread, that they themselves become the topic of the thread. Once enough drama has been caused, they know people will become sick of said topic and give up.

They may hope that everyone will get in a fight over who started what! Due to their innate ability to start drama without actually being too direct, they're constantly able to avoid detection as the fire starter.

Don't take their bait. Just keep on topic.

4. The Control Copy/Paster

The control copy/paster is trying to wear you down and control you through attrition. For them it's not so much about giving information. Rather it's about giving you so much copy and pasted information, that you simply give up.

Tune it out and only interact with posts that have some personal thought.

5. 20 to life.

Feel that need to stay up until 3am arguing your perspective? Have you debated your side in the same thread over and over? Have you posted the same topic a buzillion times?

This is a message board. It has a log off button.

You're not stuck in a supermax prison, ordered to serve 20 years to life.

When it's 3am, or you have repeated yourself more than a skipping record, log off!
Chill.
Relax.
Regroup.

That's all I can think of for now.
I may add more later.

Feel free to tag on your own.
 
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BananaPie

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Why is it that upon reading this thread, about 8 frequent flyers come to mind? :D


 

mystdancer50

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Thank you for this post, 1still_waters. :) These are lessons that are hard learned. I have had to, on occasion, not return to a thread, especially if I feel very passionate about the topic. :) I have managed to do so.

I would add the intense desire to have the last word. I think many continue arguing and return to destructive threads because they want to have the last word or they want to be sure to defend themselves against what someone has said about them. It is hard at times to walk away from this, but we all should know that we can do so. It doesn't lessen us as a person or lessen our devotion to Christ if we walk away. :)

I hope I made sense...sometimes I am really clear in my head but what comes across is foggy to others. :)
 

DuchessAimee

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Stilly, you forgot the Jesus Juker and the I'm in Denial About Myself.



The Jesus Juker says, "How can you have fun?! We have to talk about the Bible 24/7!"


The I'm in Denial About Myself says, "I'm right, I'm perfect, and I'm just looking for someone to agree with me so I can feel good about what I'm doing."
 
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ServantStrike

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Stilly, you forgot the Jesus Juker and the I'm in Denial About Myself.



The Jesus Juker says, "How can you have fun?! We have to talk about the Bible 24/7!"


The I'm in Denial About Myself says, "I'm right, I'm perfect, and I'm just looking for someone to agree with me so I can feel good about what I'm doing."
I knew someone installed a hidden camera at my house...

 
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BananaPie

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1. Captain chaos

Understand that there are people whom only desire to create chaos. Pay their antics no attention. Attention feeds the monster. The monster dies if you don't feed it.
Dancing queen, feel the beat from the tambourine
You can dance; you can jive; having the time of your life.
See that girl; watch that scene, diggin' the dancing queen.
:rolleyes:


2. The consenting hostage.

Unless someone is threatening you..., you have the full on right to leave a thread unopened. ...don't open one. Don't be the consenting hostage. Use "Ignore List."

3. The I Don't Like This Topic Derailer - TIDLTTD for short.

There are people who only want to derail your thread. ...They will enter your thread, and try to derail it from the start. You can easily spot them, because their first, second, third... 4th, 5th, 6th, 9th, 12th, 15, 16, 17, :rolleyes: ...uh... What was the count for again? etc. posts in the thread, will have nothing to do with the topic at hand. They may make very indirect snide comments about said topic. Their desire is to create so much distraction in said thread, that they themselves become the topic of the thread. Once enough drama has been caused, they know people will become sick of said topic and give up. Drama queens. Use "Ignore List" & the thread reads easier to stay with the topic.

Don't take their bait. Just keep on topic.

4. The Control Copy/Paster

The control copy/paster is trying to wear you down and control you through attrition. For them it's not so much about giving information. Rather it's about giving you so much copy and pasted information, that you simply give up.

The control copy/paster is trying to wear you down and control you through attrition. For them it's not so much about giving information. Rather it's about giving you so much copy and pasted information, that you simply give up.

The control copy/paster is trying to wear you down and control you through attrition. For them it's not so much about giving information. Rather it's about giving you so much copy and pasted information, that you simply give up.

The control copy/paster is trying to wear you down and control you through attrition. For them it's not so much about giving information. Rather it's about giving you so much copy and pasted information, that you simply give up. Use "Ignore List" for these types.

Tune it out and only interact with posts that have some personal thought. You mean like stuff Maxwell says?

5. 20 to life. LOL

Feel that need to stay up until 3am arguing your perspective?
Take it easy (take it easy)
Better slow down girl
That's no way to go
Does your mother know?
Take it easy (take it easy)
Try to cool it girl
Take it nice and slow
Does your mother know?​

This is a message board. It has a log off button.
[video=youtube;p85xwZ_OLX0]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p85xwZ_OLX0[/video]
 

Yahshua

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5a. Don't spend *hours* typing unnecessarily long posts in an attempt to explain every nuance of your intended point.

[This rule is actually for me. Almost lost my mind a few times. :/]
 

mystdancer50

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5a. Don't spend *hours* typing unnecessarily long posts in an attempt to explain every nuance of your intended point.

[This rule is actually for me. Almost lost my mind a few times. :/]
I'm a writer so it is really hard for me to follow the less is more rule. :)
 
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Jullianna

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Sun Tzu said that we should determine our enemy's greatest need and deny them that. That's a worldly solution for a worldly issue. For the troll, the greatest need they have determined for themselves is attention. Pure and simple.

Psych 101: Those who don't receive positive attention will settle for negative. It beats being ignored.

So, don't feed the need for negative attention. It will only beget a greater worldly need for the same.

The TRUE need of the attention seeker is healing and prayer. Brothers and sisters in Christ should not be considered enemies. The same is true of unbelievers, as we wrestle not against flesh and blood, correct? When I see someone intentionally and repeatedly being blatantly rude and/or passive aggressive...especially hypocritically so, after a great deal of pondering, I have decided to simply not post on such threads, but stop a moment to pray for them instead. I have learned that even the hand offering kindness is often bitten here, so I'm simply going to take it to God instead.

If you have an issue with a particular topic, go ahead and post your opinion, but he/she who fusses loudest and longest is not necessarily the rightest (I spelled it so it counts as a word). ;)
 

maxwel

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Tip:

If you run across a girl who reads Sun Tzu... don't irritate her.
 
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ServantStrike

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Sun Tzu said that we should determine our enemy's greatest need and deny them that. That's a worldly solution for a worldly issue. For the troll, the greatest need they have determined for themselves is attention. Pure and simple.

Psych 101: Those who don't receive positive attention will settle for negative. It beats being ignored.

So, don't feed the need for negative attention. It will only beget a greater worldly need for the same.

The TRUE need of the attention seeker is healing and prayer. Brothers and sisters in Christ should not be considered enemies. The same is true of unbelievers, as we wrestle not against flesh and blood, correct? When I see someone intentionally and repeatedly being blatantly rude and/or passive aggressive...especially hypocritically so, after a great deal of pondering, I have decided to simply not post on such threads, but stop a moment to pray for them instead. I have learned that even the hand offering kindness is often bitten here, so I'm simply going to take it to God instead.

If you have an issue with a particular topic, go ahead and post your opinion, but he/she who fusses loudest and longest is not necessarily the rightest (I spelled it so it counts as a word). ;)
Is it bad that I sometimes willingly walk into a situation knowing it's going to end badly for me hoping irrationally that I might be able to make at least a small difference?

Even I have my limits, but I guess I'm tolerant to getting bitten lol.


It also depends on how busy I am that day, I will say that...
 

rachelsedge

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Is it bad that I sometimes willingly walk into a situation knowing it's going to end badly for me hoping irrationally that I might be able to make at least a small difference?

Even I have my limits, but I guess I'm tolerant to getting bitten lol.
That's how I am, as well.

Sometimes I'm quite patient, but other times I get frustrated and then I end up being quite snarky/sarcastic and it helps no one. :-/

I just need to physically close my laptop and do something else when I feel like that.
 
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mystdancer50

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Oftentimes, I avoid threads that will get me in trouble. :) Sometimes, one of two things happen, which are out of my control:

1. My opinion irks folks, even though I am clear that it is my opinion, and heated arguments follow.
2. Someone has no intention of discussing anything at all, but rather wants a platform for their own opinion, and heated arguments follow.

My responses when the argument happens are under my control and that is when I am in trouble and I just keep going...most times. :)

More often than not, though, many people are here to really discuss things and I believe that even in those arguing threads, the truth is spoken from at least one soul, and that is what God desires, that His truth be known. And, He will direct the heart to it that needs to read it and receive it. It is sad, though, that the fights are there, too, but we're all human. We can't expect to agree on everything. :)
 
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Jullianna

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Is it bad that I sometimes willingly walk into a situation knowing it's going to end badly for me hoping irrationally that I might be able to make at least a small difference?

Even I have my limits, but I guess I'm tolerant to getting bitten lol.


It also depends on how busy I am that day, I will say that...




That's how I am, as well.

Sometimes I'm quite patient, and other times I get frustrated and then I end up being quite snarky/sarcastic and it helps no one. :-/

I just need to physically close my laptop and do something else when I feel like that.
I've decided recently that it depends upon a couple of things:

1. How bad of a day I've had. Don't want to take my stress out on other people. That happens a lot around here. People are hurt/messed over by a particular group or gender or faith and decide the others of that group/gender/faith/whatever are punching bags. Tres tackiness.

2. I might post once if I sense that a person is seriously seeking input. But I'm not going to feed the monster anymore or do any ear tickling. Life's too short. :) Ain't nobody got time for that.
 
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Relena7

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Great list.

I struggle with the second one. Part of my brain must like self-punishment and turmoil. Because I find the most horrible skin-crawling opinions to be the most addictive sometimes. It's like watching a train wreck happen. Then afterward I can't get it out of my head all week.

I have to remember that I can choose not to punish myself by opening them. :p


I think another good message board tip is:
If somebody posts a HUGE WALL OF TEXT, and you really want to read it, but your eyes have trouble processing all those words smashed together in that big tall block, rather than complain to the OP, you can highlight it all, copy, and open your notepad program, then PASTE the wall of text into that, then separate the post into paragraphs making it easier to read (off the site). Then return to CC to write your reply.
 
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ServantStrike

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You know you want to stare...

 
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Picture this as your inside cheat sheet of top secret information to assist you in joyful use of an online message board.


1. Captain chaos

Understand that there are people whom only desire to create chaos. Pay their antics no attention. Attention feeds the monster. The monster dies if you don't feed it.

2. The consenting hostage.

Unless someone is threatening to injure you or take your life, you have the full on right to leave a thread unopened. See a thread topic that gets under your skin? You don't have to open it and subject your sanity to all of the posts that will indeed get under your skin. Don't want none of the rage causing content? Then don't open one. Don't be the consenting hostage.

3. The I Don't Like This Topic Derailer - TIDLTTD for short.


There are people who only want to derail your thread. These people may see the topic of your thread and immediately become disgusted with the topic. They will enter your thread, and try to derail it from the start. You can easily spot them, because their first, second, third..etc posts in the thread, will have nothing to do with the topic at hand. They may make very indirect snide comments about said topic. Their desire is to create so much distraction in said thread, that they themselves become the topic of the thread. Once enough drama has been caused, they know people will become sick of said topic and give up.

They may hope that everyone will get in a fight over who started what! Due to their innate ability to start drama without actually being too direct, they're constantly able to avoid detection as the fire starter.

Don't take their bait. Just keep on topic.

4. The Control Copy/Paster

The control copy/paster is trying to wear you down and control you through attrition. For them it's not so much about giving information. Rather it's about giving you so much copy and pasted information, that you simply give up.

Tune it out and only interact with posts that have some personal thought.

5. 20 to life.

Feel that need to stay up until 3am arguing your perspective? Have you debated your side in the same thread over and over? Have you posted the same topic a buzillion times?

This is a message board. It has a log off button.

You're not stuck in a supermax prison, ordered to serve 20 years to life.

When it's 3am, or you have repeated yourself more than a skipping record, log off!
Chill.
Relax.
Regroup.

That's all I can think of for now.
I may add more later.

Feel free to tag on your own.
Well, Stilly, all I got to say is: WHATTAYATRYIN' TA DO, RUN EVERYBODY OFF?:p