15 Questions Every Christian Woman Should Ask Christian Men

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15 Questions Every Christian Woman Should Ask Christian Men

by Rev. Carlos Q, Passion For Christ Movement -> P4CM | Passion 4 Christ Movement

"... sisters, get into theology right away with your brothers ..."

[video=youtube;Y7NXupl_IjY]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y7NXupl_IjY[/video]
 
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Some really good stuff in there but no holding hands or hugging? Yikes! Also, I can't remember when I first accepted Christ. I grew up in a Christian household and there was a turning point at a Year 9 Youth camp, but I don't know if that was it, or I just grew more in my faith because that time seemed to be time in the 'wilderness'.
 
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Some really good stuff in there but no holding hands or hugging? Yikes! Also, I can't remember when I first accepted Christ. I grew up in a Christian household and there was a turning point at a Year 9 Youth camp, but I don't know if that was it, or I just grew more in my faith because that time seemed to be time in the 'wilderness'.
Yeah, when someone says they don't want to hug or hold hands, I'm sorry but I worry that they may just not like to be touched, and that's a red flag to me. I would go without hugging or hand holding for a time, but I would eventually need to know that I'm not getting into a relationship with someone who would never be okay with being touched after I got married.


The biggest problem I have though are the prior references.

I only have one prior dating reference, and I dumped her because she wasn't close enough to Christ... how am I supposed to get a glowing review from that person. And that was too many years ago for me to count.
 
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Yeah, when someone says they don't want to hug or hold hands, I'm sorry but I worry that they may just not like to be touched, and that's a red flag to me. I would go without hugging or hand holding for a time, but I would eventually need to know that I'm not getting into a relationship with someone who would never be okay with being touched after I got married.

The biggest problem I have though are the prior references.

I only have one prior dating reference, and I dumped her because she wasn't close enough to Christ... how am I supposed to get a glowing review from that person. And that was too many years ago for me to count.
Yeah, well some of them would have to be adapted carefully to the person. For example, I've never been in a relationship or even been on a date, so I wouldn't have any valid references. Also, like you, I believe my love language is Touch.
 
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Some really good stuff in there but no holding hands or hugging? Yikes!
I went to a wedding in Rajasthan in 2006 and danced with lots of men, the women were in the other room, it's the Indian way...

Also, I can't remember when I first accepted Christ. I grew up in a Christian household and there was a turning point at a Year 9 Youth camp, but I don't know if that was it, or I just grew more in my faith because that time seemed to be time in the 'wilderness'.
He says something at about 5:10 about how being honest is good enough.

That path that led me to Christ is a 34 year horror story, so you're doing pretty good I think.
 
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Question 10 is silly, o of course it will be hard if you woke up to a completely different looking person.
 

rachelsedge

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I'm too lazy to watch a 10 minute+ video on this...

Is there a typed version?
 
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I'm too lazy to watch a 10 minute+ video on this...

Is there a typed version?
That was actually one of my problems with the guy's delivery...

He talked about a list and didn't provide an itemized list!
 

Rachel20

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Wow. What an awesome video!

I think it's very good advice, every Christian woman should ask such questions to her future suitors, before getting into anything serious with them.

It's better to have an idea of the person you're with, before somewhere in the middle you go "Oh you think like that"

It's not about holding hands or getting references. It's about guaging the commitment and spiritual position of the person you're gonna be with. Even if you grew up in a church, you have to know why you are a Christian and why you believe what you do.
It's to sort out the namesake Christians from the real ones.

The guy in the video does say, that even if the answers are not what you totally want, if the person is willing to sit down and explain the reasons for what he did, it would be acceptable and can be (maybe) put into consideration. (and show honesty and truth, acc to me)

It's so important to have a background check on every guy, just in case you can view a pattern in which he treats the women he's been with.


Thanks Praus. I gonna be askin' them' questions and be going ''BLAM'';)
 

rachelsedge

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I wasn't able to locate a transcript, I'm sorry sister. :(
That's alright, Praus. :)

Usually for videos that are longer than 3 minutes, if I'm not the one who looked it up, it takes a while for me to actually watch it. I dunno, I'm weird that way. So, I may watch it later. Thanks for looking, though!
 

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...well, I have a loooooong way to go. I'm practically an unborn baby when it comes to Christianity and principles like this.
 
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I didn't pick up on everything in the video, because he talks too fast! Seems to be a common occurrence in Americans.
 
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I didn't pick up on everything in the video, because he talks too fast! Seems to be a common occurrence in Americans.
For a lot of guys, the whole doing more than just talking and being friends is what makes them uneasy to get in a relationship so it's a comfort to know for them that there are different ways to go about a relationship, from friends to courting to dating.

Personally, I think, if a girl asks me questions that's only going to strengthen our relationship from the git and, I think, that just because she doesn't want to hug or hold hands it's not a turn-off. It's actually a turn on for that kind of resilience and willingness to wait on marriage before physical intimacy. It shows me she's really serious about the relationship and doing it according to the bible because, I think, the bible stresses that sex before marriage is not the right way to do things. So, if you are in a relationship and never kissing, hugging, or, even, holding hands, just talking in the relationship, that really lends to a necessary common ground that the two MUST be on, or, else there is no other 'intimacy' support.

This kind of way of going about things is more girl than guy friendly, so to speak, because girls are the talkers/communicators and guys are the touchy/feely gender more so. So, the power of God is great, He will, through His Spirit in us, which is in our heart, keep us knowing what this other person is like, and, I don't think that there wuold be a thing in the world to worry about as far as wondering if sexual intimacy would be there when the relationshiph finally became
as one flesh, as in marriage of the two.

Why's this, green, why will I not have to worry about her being scared to be touched when we're married? Because.

Because you have based your relationship on questions and commonality of communication and how each other plays off each other's questions and answers and the farther than goes the more you will KNOW that God's hand is in your relationship. I'm only being halfway coy here, but, I think, instead of a 1-year engagement, you can probably step it up to 6 months after giving her the engagement ring just because you already will know each other so well and READY for that step sooner because of your commitment to base the relationship solely on communication, and, a peck on the cheek every once in a while . Sorry, I HAD to get that in there :D


The Lord leads, guys, your with a girl you really like, she's all that in character, beauty, and, gumption, wait on the Lord, He will lift you up. He will lift you up, higher and higher. And, He will lift you BOTH up to soar as one, as eagles :)

This guy in the video is a hoot, he's on fire for Jesus. I agree, ladies should quiz guys on all-things theology, but, be nice to, and, understanding, don't expect the guy to be a preacher in knowledge of God's Word, just expect him to be able to do things like this joyous pastor guy says in the video, like explain your doctrinal belief, your foundation of belief, etc. These are important issues to talk about at some point in the relationship, why not get them out of the way, in the beginnning. :)
 
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This sounds more like a job interview.

I don't agree with some things like no hugging, holding hands. Then there's if I woke up one morning et al. Ridiculous and likely not reality.
 
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This sounds more like a job interview.

I don't agree with some things like no hugging, holding hands. Then there's if I woke up one morning et al. Ridiculous and likely not reality.
It's reality if the Lord asks you to do it. And, wiredforHisfire, you will know, for His Holy Spirit will burn that way of doing things leading up to marriage on your heart and His Holy Spirit, never forget, is in your heart, if you've received by faith to take Him in. He guides us, protects us, gives us the power of One for whatever it is He wants us to get through. Our job is simple. Faith in Him :)

Philippians 3:
7"But whatever were gains to me I now consider loss for the sake of Christ. 8What is more, I consider everything a loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord, for whose sake I have lost all things. I consider them garbage, that I may gain Christ 9and be found in him, not having a righteousness of my own that comes from the law, but that which is through faith in[SUP]a[/SUP] Christ—the righteousness that comes from God on the basis of faith. 10I want to know Christ—yes, to know the power of his resurrection and participation in his sufferings, becoming like him in his death, 11and so, somehow, attaining to the resurrection from the dead."

And, let's face it, guys, if God put a call on our heart to see a girl in such a way that we were to just see them and talk for 9-12 months in the relationship leading up to marriage, we just might see that as great suffering because we like physical affection. However, the Lord may just do that kind of 'relationship' for you, for me, because it's best for us :)

The Lord leads. "...you follow Me." Be crucified with Christ, guys :) Galatians 2:20 . You can do it !! Philippians 4:13
 
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I find the lack of a TL;DR disturbing.

(some people really can not watch videos online ya know)
 
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TL;DR? What's that?
 

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this is good information
his delivery annoyed me but I know it's not produced for a country girl
the message is good

I wouldn't say you should ever require someone to back up their salvation with scripture
also the no hugging is silly
I hug people I would never marry

All and all good guide for girls
I like how he started of about being saved by grace of God alone
after spending time in The Bible Discussion Forum I agree never date a guy who thinks salvation is by works and not by the grace of God alone