If I'm going to be Single indefinitely, I should make the best of it...

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Liamson

Liamson

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Rather than jockeying for position amongst a sea of dudes in the rat race of husband material, I think I'm just going to get back to doing what I know makes me feel alive.

Instead of buying that sensible family friendly Cheap Jerokee...


Instead of spending thousands of dollars to fly out to "her parents" for Whatever Holiday is coming up....


So rather than hunting high and low across kingdom and country, affixing myself inside the margins on the lists, and jumping through hoops. I'm simply going to revert back to the man I was before I discovered how magical a kiss can be.

Because for me it was like eating of the tree of the knowledge of Good and Evil. And frankly I've been Chasing the Dragon ever since. And after seeing the pot of gold on the other side, I will say its simply not worth it. The Grass is Green enough right where I'm standing, but its high time I took better care of it.



The thing is that I know I've been going about this backwards for a while now. My philosophy was find the girl and then do all the things, but now I'm just getting old. So I used to do all the things before I knew about women but, if I'm ever going to live again, I need to get back on the horse. No more concessions, no more compromise, no more trying to read minds and interpret communications delicately.

2014 will be the year that I quit feeling sorry for myself, I quit chasing women, I quit making accommodations for people who aren't even in my life at all. No more thinking about some future imaginary girlfriend and our imaginary relationship. No more long distance flirty messaging, skype romances, chat relationships, and blowing massive amounts of money traveling for the possibility of a relationship. Nope. Nope. Nope. Nope. Nope. Nope. Nope. Nope.

 
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Shouryu

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Liamson said:
The thing is that I know I've been going about this backwards for a while now. My philosophy was find the girl and then do all the things, but now I'm just getting old.
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Now YOU'RE just getting old? If THAT'S the case...oof...
 
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persNickety

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Liamson said:
Rather than jockeying for position amongst a sea of dudes in the rat race of husband material, I think I'm just going to get back to doing what I know makes me feel alive.

Instead of buying that sensible family friendly Cheap Jerokee...


Instead of spending thousands of dollars to fly out to "her parents" for Whatever Holiday is coming up....


So rather than hunting high and low across kingdom and country, affixing myself inside the margins on the lists, and jumping through hoops. I'm simply going to revert back to the man I was before I discovered how magical a kiss can be.

Because for me it was like eating of the tree of the knowledge of Good and Evil. And frankly I've been Chasing the Dragon ever since. And after seeing the pot of gold on the other side, I will say its simply not worth it. The Grass is Green enough right where I'm standing, but its high time I took better care of it.



The thing is that I know I've been going about this backwards for a while now. My philosophy was find the girl and then do all the things, but now I'm just getting old. So I used to do all the things before I knew about women but, if I'm ever going to live again, I need to get back on the horse. No more concessions, no more compromise, no more trying to read minds and interpret communications delicately.

2014 will be the year that I quit feeling sorry for myself, I quit chasing women, I quit making accommodations for people who aren't even in my life at all. No more thinking about some future imaginary girlfriend and our imaginary relationship. No more long distance flirty messaging, skype romances, chat relationships, and blowing massive amounts of money traveling for the possibility of a relationship. Nope. Nope. Nope. Nope. Nope. Nope. Nope. Nope.

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One word: Red

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persNickety

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I wish I could stop thinking of imaginary boyfriends and all the possibilities, but it's just so tantalizing. The sirens call to my imagination is so tempting. Settling for dull reality is so blah -.-
 
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ww_21

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I am hoping to do the same sometime soon. I've been in a long distance relationship where I was treated unfairly, so I know the pain. GBU.
 
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persNickety

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We are longers Liamson. Romantics. It's hard just to let that go.
 
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cubfan716

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Love is worth the wait. We need to remember that we need to learn to be content in Christ first. Its true that we have a part to do when the time comes. We can do some much with our singleness. It is a season where the Lord can use us in so many ways...especially doing things we cannot probably do once we settle down. I know the one is out there but today I am content in Christ and I know that he is writing my life and love story. We need to give him the pen of our lives!
 
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1still_waters

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Rather than jockeying for position amongst a sea of dudes in the rat race of husband material, I think I'm just going to get back to doing what I know makes me feel alive.
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1000 times amen on the jockeying for position.
It's so so so exhausting.
 
MartyrNdaMaKn

MartyrNdaMaKn

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Yeah, I know what you mean Liamson, I ain't about jockeying for position like I am in some kind of horse race; takes up to much positive I could be spending on the Lord. So, now a days I keep my focus on bringing joy to God's heart with the way I follow CHRIST.
 
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iTOREtheSKY

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I love how you crazy men in yer' 30's call yourselves OLD. pssssssssssssssssh :p

Wait til' yer' my age & still deep down feel like a hopeless romantic & then realize that your time for that has come & gone & no one will ever want you in that way again most likely.

No,second thought...don't wait!

I'm gonna suggest Black on the bike colour though. :cool:


Sounds like an awesome plan Liamson...go with God brother!
 
Praus

Praus

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iTOREtheSKY said:
I love how you crazy men in yer' 30's call yourselves OLD. pssssssssssssssssh :p
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I warn these young people what it's like, how things like getting fiber in your diet becomes really important, subjects like that.

They just laugh at me...
 
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keep_on_smiling

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Great plan! Enjoy yourself! :)
 
Misty77

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iTOREtheSKY said:
I love how you crazy men in yer' 30's call yourselves OLD. pssssssssssssssssh :p

Wait til' yer' my age & still deep down feel like a hopeless romantic & then realize that your time for that has come & gone & no one will ever want you in that way again most likely.

No,second thought...don't wait!

I'm gonna suggest Black on the bike colour though. :cool:


Sounds like an awesome plan Liamson...go with God brother!
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What kind of craziness is that, dude? People of all ages fall in love, get married, and live life in general. Wrinkly old people, perky little youngsters, and even grumpy middle-agers all have the potential to meet someone who thinks they are awesome just the way they are. The problem is that we never know when that will be so the solution is to live adventurously always, regardless of marital status.
 
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kenthomas27

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Liamson said:
Rather than jockeying for position amongst a sea of dudes in the rat race of husband material, I think I'm just going to get back to doing what I know makes me feel alive.

Instead of buying that sensible family friendly Cheap Jerokee...




Instead of spending thousands of dollars to fly out to "her parents" for Whatever Holiday is coming up....


So rather than hunting high and low across kingdom and country, affixing myself inside the margins on the lists, and jumping through hoops. I'm simply going to revert back to the man I was before I discovered how magical a kiss can be.

Because for me it was like eating of the tree of the knowledge of Good and Evil. And frankly I've been Chasing the Dragon ever since. And after seeing the pot of gold on the other side, I will say its simply not worth it. The Grass is Green enough right where I'm standing, but its high time I took better care of it.



The thing is that I know I've been going about this backwards for a while now. My philosophy was find the girl and then do all the things, but now I'm just getting old. So I used to do all the things before I knew about women but, if I'm ever going to live again, I need to get back on the horse. No more concessions, no more compromise, no more trying to read minds and interpret communications delicately.

2014 will be the year that I quit feeling sorry for myself, I quit chasing women, I quit making accommodations for people who aren't even in my life at all. No more thinking about some future imaginary girlfriend and our imaginary relationship. No more long distance flirty messaging, skype romances, chat relationships, and blowing massive amounts of money traveling for the possibility of a relationship. Nope. Nope. Nope. Nope. Nope. Nope. Nope. Nope.

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You make a lot of thense there brother! You know - I'm with you on this one. NO MORE WOMEN! Yeah, I'll just sthart enjoying mysthelf and forget all about these girly girls. Yeah, you and me. That's the tickets. No more women...


Or girls either....

No more women and no more girls.....Justh skiing and motorthycaling and time for mythelf....


I'm a with ya brother, the days of chasing women are OVER..... done...


Yeah, you won't catch me chasin.........saaaayy......







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helloooo there......
 
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Marilyn

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Lol, oh how I can relate to this. For years, I've been praying for a good Christian husband as I struggled with many things. I felt that a man was the answer to all of it. I've waited and waited, and no one showed up, untill about a month ago. Met a guy online and we instantly hit it off. We shared many things in common and could talk for hours. He even claimed me to be his wife in the name of Our Lord Jesus. I really was convinced this was it. But a few days ago, he backed out because of the distance. My personal belief is that if the distance is the problem, you talk about it, pray about it and act accordingly


I have thought about this, but I now agree with you. In 2014, I'll start building my life on my own, do things that make me happy, visit the US if I can and let Jesus decide my life.

By the way: that bike is gorgeous!
 
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persNickety

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You could always become a monk or females can join a convent. Locked in the single life for sure. Live in the desert, write, fast and pray.
 
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persNickety

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The best way to forget about your singleness is to eliminate any possibility of being otherwise XD

Then it's just life as usual
 
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