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Hmmmm, I agree with all of you who have already posted..... I don't really want to go into detail, but yes, CHIVALRY is a good characteristic! That comes with having respect for everyone and everything, not only women.. Being kind, modest, and courteous...... its just doing whats right, all the time, but matters most when it counts. It all falls under what a man of Christ would be. Most important I think, is that a true gentlemen should carry himself soo consistently, that to himself it was naturally fluent. Sometimes people naturally carry this trait, but for most people it comes with discipline. And as you start to let Christ work in you, you'll slowly start to see the changes, eventually allowing yourself to be a gentlemen even if it didn't as easy beforehand.
hmmm those things certainly go a long way! Po (Iokua08) I like what you said about consistancy... romance comes and goes, but it's how a guy acts around his mum and other female friends (and hopefully one day wife) on a day to day basis which shows true character. 
Don't get me wrong though, I love a guy who opens the door for me, and offers his jacket/chair/etc for me... they are great things
Don't get me wrong though, I love a guy who opens the door for me, and offers his jacket/chair/etc for me... they are great things
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Hey Chrissy....
Yeah, I've noticed, that sometimes with my other fellow guys, being a gentlemen only comes when they want something. Or in fact just to make a good impression. But let me tell you if you were to observe a guy without him knowing, you could figure out whether or not he is in fact a gentlemen.... just by the way he carries himself. Let me ask you this question, would you still fall with a guy who lacked gentlemen like charateristics?
Yeah, I've noticed, that sometimes with my other fellow guys, being a gentlemen only comes when they want something. Or in fact just to make a good impression. But let me tell you if you were to observe a guy without him knowing, you could figure out whether or not he is in fact a gentlemen.... just by the way he carries himself. Let me ask you this question, would you still fall with a guy who lacked gentlemen like charateristics?
Sharp that was great!!
It's my experience that being a gentleman only goes so far, it puts you on the deadly tight rope that is "the friend zone" plus girls get bored of it FAST. Best to just be a romantic nice guy when you mean it, don't try, you can't get the car door EVERYTIME. You gotta be able to relax and play nintendo with your friends.... Or beat her at wii Tenis from time to time or they'll walk all over you.
at least that's my experience...
It's my experience that being a gentleman only goes so far, it puts you on the deadly tight rope that is "the friend zone" plus girls get bored of it FAST. Best to just be a romantic nice guy when you mean it, don't try, you can't get the car door EVERYTIME. You gotta be able to relax and play nintendo with your friends.... Or beat her at wii Tenis from time to time or they'll walk all over you.
at least that's my experience...
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True definition of a Gentleman is someone who lives for the Lord and acknowledges him in all his ways. A guy that isn't in love with the lord is a just a guy a gentleman is someone who not only loves God but can bring others to the lord, be a wonderful husband and father and carry the cross without worrying what others think of him.....
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somebody who will respect his partner,do right by her always.love,be honest and to be open to talk about all with his partner. a guy who will open the car door for her, take her to candle lit dinners,buy her flowers,cook for her and show her how much you appreciate her. a man that knows how to treat others with respect.somebody that is well mannered too.a person that is considerate of others too.
A man of refinement inwardly and outwardly, in thought and deed who carries a sense of honor within himself at all times.
Robert E. Lees in 1865 says on the definition of a Gentleman:
The gentleman does not needlessly and unnecessarily remind an offender of a wrong he may have committed against him. He cannot only forgive, he can forget; and he strives for that nobleness of self and mildness of character which impart sufficient strength to let the past be but the past. A true man of honor feels humbled when he cannot help humbling others.
He makes light of favors while he does them, and seems to be receiving when he is conferring. He never speaks of himself except when compelled, never defends himself by a mere retort; he has no ears for slander or gossip, is scrupulous in imputing motives to those who interfere with him, and interprets everything for the best. He is never mean or little in his disputes, never takes unfair advantage, never mistakes personalities or sharp saying for arguments, or insinuates evil which he dare not say out. From a long-sighted prudence, he observes the maxim of the ancient sage, that we should ever conduct ourselves towards our enemy as if he were one day to be our friend. He has too much good sense to be affronted at insults, he is too well employed to remember injuries, and too indolent to bear malice. He is patient, forbearing, and resigned, on philosophical principles; he submits to pain, because it is inevitable, to bereavement, because it is irreparable, and to death, because it is his destiny.
If he engages in controversy of any kind, his disciplined intellect preserves him from the blundering discourtesy of better, perhaps, but less educated minds; who, like blunt weapons, tear and hack instead of cutting clean, who mistake the point in argument, waste their strength on trifles, misconceive their adversary, and leave the question more involved than they find it. He may be right or wrong in his opinion, but he is too clear-headed to be unjust; he is as simple as he is forcible, and as brief as he is decisive. Nowhere shall we find greater candor, consideration, indulgence: he throws himself into the minds of his opponents, he accounts for their mistakes. He knows the weakness of human reason as well as its strength, its province and its limits.
Or in other words, a Jimmy Stewart kinda guy
Robert E. Lees in 1865 says on the definition of a Gentleman:
The gentleman does not needlessly and unnecessarily remind an offender of a wrong he may have committed against him. He cannot only forgive, he can forget; and he strives for that nobleness of self and mildness of character which impart sufficient strength to let the past be but the past. A true man of honor feels humbled when he cannot help humbling others.
He makes light of favors while he does them, and seems to be receiving when he is conferring. He never speaks of himself except when compelled, never defends himself by a mere retort; he has no ears for slander or gossip, is scrupulous in imputing motives to those who interfere with him, and interprets everything for the best. He is never mean or little in his disputes, never takes unfair advantage, never mistakes personalities or sharp saying for arguments, or insinuates evil which he dare not say out. From a long-sighted prudence, he observes the maxim of the ancient sage, that we should ever conduct ourselves towards our enemy as if he were one day to be our friend. He has too much good sense to be affronted at insults, he is too well employed to remember injuries, and too indolent to bear malice. He is patient, forbearing, and resigned, on philosophical principles; he submits to pain, because it is inevitable, to bereavement, because it is irreparable, and to death, because it is his destiny.
If he engages in controversy of any kind, his disciplined intellect preserves him from the blundering discourtesy of better, perhaps, but less educated minds; who, like blunt weapons, tear and hack instead of cutting clean, who mistake the point in argument, waste their strength on trifles, misconceive their adversary, and leave the question more involved than they find it. He may be right or wrong in his opinion, but he is too clear-headed to be unjust; he is as simple as he is forcible, and as brief as he is decisive. Nowhere shall we find greater candor, consideration, indulgence: he throws himself into the minds of his opponents, he accounts for their mistakes. He knows the weakness of human reason as well as its strength, its province and its limits.
Or in other words, a Jimmy Stewart kinda guy
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This is what the title "Gentleman" use to mean in England during 1600's.
John Selden in Titles of Honour (1614), discussing the title "gentleman", speaks of "our English use of it" as "convertible with nobilis" (an ambiguous word, like 'noble' meaning elevated either by rank or by personal qualities) and describes in connection with it the forms of ennobling in various European countries.
To a degree, "gentleman" signified a man with an income derived from property, a legacy or some other source, and was thus independently wealthy and did not need to work. The term was particularly used of those who could not claim nobility or even the rank of esquire. Widening further, it became a politeness for all men, as in the phrase "Ladies and Gentlemen,..." and this was then used (often with the abbreviation Gents) to indicate where men could find a lavatory, without the need to indicate precisely what was being described.
John Selden in Titles of Honour (1614), discussing the title "gentleman", speaks of "our English use of it" as "convertible with nobilis" (an ambiguous word, like 'noble' meaning elevated either by rank or by personal qualities) and describes in connection with it the forms of ennobling in various European countries.
To a degree, "gentleman" signified a man with an income derived from property, a legacy or some other source, and was thus independently wealthy and did not need to work. The term was particularly used of those who could not claim nobility or even the rank of esquire. Widening further, it became a politeness for all men, as in the phrase "Ladies and Gentlemen,..." and this was then used (often with the abbreviation Gents) to indicate where men could find a lavatory, without the need to indicate precisely what was being described.