tired of the single life

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hope2love

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Im so tited of being..at times i enjoy it but most of the time I'm wishing i had someone special in my life.I've tried almost every dating site availabe to get to new people.but alot of guys i seem to talk to or know smokes pot.does drugs.parties and just wants sex....id admit im a smoker of cigarettes but thats my only bad habit.im a single mother of two thats tired of being alone and not having anyone to share my life with..what do i do?
 
Grace-Like-Rain

Grace-Like-Rain

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What online sites are you going to, that are attracting potheads and perverts? Here's something that will take care of that... make your profile so blatantly Christian that no non-Christian will even be interested. Make it clear that you are looking for a godly man. Hopefully that will help weed out the more seedy prospects. The others you just have to wade through, ask questions of, and gauge their spiritual maturity before getting too far in.

The way you present yourself will change the type of people who are interested in you. Be what you are looking for in a mate, and be very straightforward and obvious about it. I hope this helps!

*I just looked at your profile and noticed that you are separated but not divorced. Obviously, this advice is for after your divorce and healing time are complete. I strongly advise against you even considering a relationship with anyone while you are married.*
 
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Jeshuvan

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If u r a Christian,u have the most special person in your life,Jesus.Matt 6:33 states seek the kingdom first and its righteousness and all these things will be added.Seek God first,pray ,trust him,he knows what u want.He is better than us at all things.Also if u r seeking frustrated and lead by your emotions,chances r u wont be happy with the person u find.Also get into Gods Word,a ministry at church,there r alot of people out there that would love 2 share your company with them and also share the Gospel and the Love of God with them.Get busy 4 God,he will get busy 4 u,Amen.I hope 2 meet u in the rooms 2 share more.Now say 2 yourself Im a child of God,I will remain filled with peace and joy and nothing will take this from me.Thank your lord jesus.
 
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Jeshuvan

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If u r married stop all things and pray.Use Godly wisdom.God can heal and reconcile also.He is a miracle worker. GBU 2
 
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IloveyouGod

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If you'd like, you can listen to this series that changed me a lot and gave me peace and happiness with my single life now.

The link here leads you to the first part and then you will see links to the remaining 3 parts to your right. I suggest you listen to all 4 of them to get a wholesome understanding and the same peace and happiness that I have now :eek:

[h=1]Happily Ever After Series Part 1[/h]
Happily Ever After Series Part 1: Jacob And Leah - YouTube
 
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MySavior

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I been single 5 years but I was in a long distance relationship with a beautiful Albanian woman but things wasn't workin out between us, it was her fault and she doesn't care.
 
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hope2love

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I'm separated because i left a man who changed during marriage and wasn't good for me or my kids.I'm a single mother of two young children.trying my bedt to get a job..so no i cannot afford a divorce right now.but does that mean i have to be alone? I don't have friends that i talk to or anything like that.its just me and my kids..just to explain my situation more.I'm not desperate though it may have came across that..I'm just tired of going through hell.helping others while no one even seems to know i exist.it bothers me after awhile.I'm sure I'm not the only one who wishes to share good memories and the rest of their life with someone...
 
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preacha24_7

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You should pray and ask god to send you a good Christan man. If you find a good church to be a part of it should make it a little easier for you to find a man. Stay away from those dating sites. Most of the people on those sites are just looking for sex. Keep your head up. Read romans 8:28-30 new king James version preacha 24_7.
Let the love of Christ and the power of the holy ghost heal your broken heart.
 
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MySavior

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hopefully the Lord will send me a Godly woman to change my life
 
DuchessAimee

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hope2love said:
I'm separated because i left a man who changed during marriage and wasn't good for me or my kids.I'm a single mother of two young children.trying my bedt to get a job..so no i cannot afford a divorce right now.but does that mean i have to be alone? I don't have friends that i talk to or anything like that.its just me and my kids..just to explain my situation more.I'm not desperate though it may have came across that..I'm just tired of going through hell.helping others while no one even seems to know i exist.it bothers me after awhile.I'm sure I'm not the only one who wishes to share good memories and the rest of their life with someone...
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Right now? Yes, you biblically cannot be in a romantic relationship with anyone. You are separated, not divorced. If you're genuinely looking for friendship and not a guy, then get involved at church. Seek out a female mentor and grow in your relationship with Christ. Grace-like-rain is correct. You need to heal after your divorce and that takes a considerable amount of time.


Instead of a man, seek female companionship. If you stick around here, there are MANY wonderful women who would befriend you and lift you up in prayer. :)
 
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Ayo24

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I will advice you take it to the LORD in prayer. He is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us. Ephesians 4:20
 
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Silvergirl23

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Well if you´re not divorced you can´t date, first divorced put yourself together why? even tho I didn´t read this on a christian site it was a pretty good advice never date if your on a hurry only do it when you´re emotionally ready, and lady you ain´t ready , I understand you´re tired of bein´single cuz I am , but let me tell you somethin´I converted at age 14 , had my first bf at age 21 , we lasted two years he was the mos traumatic expierence a I´ve ever had and I dated him cuz he was supposely
christian too. Ironicly my pastor´s nephew , and yeah he broke my heart and destroyed me completely then I left him Fell in love again with another christian but thought he was gonna be diffrent from the last one and he ended up usin´me as a rebound to get over his ex, he dumped me sayin´he wasn´t ready for a relationship and 2 months later he was in a relationship with someone else. What I m tryin´to say it´s better to be alone, and not in love than bein´with someone with your broken heart or bein´alone completely torn. Don´t rush. Just wait and pray for your heart to be restore act wisely . God bless you
 
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hope2love

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I've been over 2nd husband for a long time now.i don't obsess over no one or any man.i admit loneliness gets to me at times but now I'm at a point of my life where i must separate myself ftom many people in this world.my heart isn't easily moved nor touched by any man's word or actions.sexual aspects has been not been involved for awhile now.i see myself improving.removing the toxic people and desires ffom my life.
 
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