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I wanted to share this as I believe it gives a mature perspective and understanding to what many single and devoted believers have passed through or are currently experiencing. God bless you 
The following was written by Pastor Brian Williams of Hope City Church in Columbus Ohio:
Morning devotional I wrote for single believers, who can't figure out why they have very real feelings for someone in the body of Christ. Not in depth but some good food for thought. I've been here many times as a single man over the past decade.
Matthew 22:28 "Therefore, in the resurrection, whose wife of the seven will she be? For they all had her.” 29 Jesus answered and said to them, “You are mistaken, not knowing the Scriptures nor the power of God. 30 For in the resurrection they neither marry nor are given in marriage, but are like angels of God in heaven."
Jesus taught in the kingdom there would be no marriage between ppl only brothers and sisters...why then do we place so much emphasis on it now? Well, without really cracking open that can of worms I'd like to briefly focus on an epidemic in nearly every local church: the unexplained "romantic" affection so many brothers and sisters have for each other. Without understanding, heartbreak is inevitable. As a single non-married man who loves The Lord I feel uniquely qualified to speak on this. Here's my stab at it.
When people have an equal love for Jesus an equal burn for eternity, and an equal dream it's easy to confuse the eternal bond for romance. We confuse that spiritual bond so easily because it's often times the purest love we've ever known & we innocently expect it to fit a box of romanticism which is a socialized condition. Our hearts seem to be broken when things don't pan out as we expected, but they are actually being healed if a relationship was pursued in a pure manner. If earthly marriage is to prepare us for Christ, how important then are healthy brother sister relationships in the church? Very. It's just our fragmented souls always complicate matters. I think we really need understanding. This teaching is rare. Instead of honoring each other we place expectations on each other. Instead of celebrating each other we rain on each other's parade. Instead of blessing another's joy, we wish upon them our perceived misery, we burn bridges, build walls, and live to regret it. Perhaps there's an alternative. Perhaps a healthier way for Christian brothers and sisters to interact; it's called honor. Honor isn't choosing simply not to gossip when you really want to, it is to acknowledge the divine nature and the human nature in others. To give space for emotional confusion, especially when you know deep down their motives are pure. Let's face it. Were broken, We live in a broken world, were bound to get it wrong. This is not an excuse for irresponsible behavior, selfishness, or reckless decision making, but it is to recognize within these earthly bodies with all of our innate weakness and soul confusion we are still God's dream. We simply have not fully come to fruition. Now of course some people will go beyond the limits, using and abusing others hearts but what I'm suggesting is just a possible explanation and potential solution. If in the event you have "feelings" for another non-married brother or sister, don't instantly vilify yourself or them. Realize, it's more than likely the Jesus in them which draws you. Maturely, find a balance and be honest as you bring it before The Lord, there's no shame in honesty. As the Holy Spirit leads, begin seeing them as a brother or sister in light of eternity and you'll be amazed at how much peace you feel and how productive the relationship can actually be. Avoid flirtation, that is dishonor, irresponsible, and ungodly. Be careful, the emotions in our heart are not all innocent and if we don't guard our hearts, disaster can result. 2 scriptures for your consideration
Proverbs 4:23-26 "Keep your heart with all diligence, For out of it spring the issues of life. 24 Put away from you a deceitful mouth,
And put perverse lips far from you. 25 Let your eyes look straight ahead, And your eyelids look right before you. 26 Ponder the path of your feet,And let all your ways be established.
Jeremiah 17:9 “The heart is deceitful above all things, And desperately wicked; Who can know it? 10 I, the Lord, search the heart, I test the mind, Even to give every man according to his ways, According to the fruit of his doings."
The following was written by Pastor Brian Williams of Hope City Church in Columbus Ohio:
Morning devotional I wrote for single believers, who can't figure out why they have very real feelings for someone in the body of Christ. Not in depth but some good food for thought. I've been here many times as a single man over the past decade.
Matthew 22:28 "Therefore, in the resurrection, whose wife of the seven will she be? For they all had her.” 29 Jesus answered and said to them, “You are mistaken, not knowing the Scriptures nor the power of God. 30 For in the resurrection they neither marry nor are given in marriage, but are like angels of God in heaven."
Jesus taught in the kingdom there would be no marriage between ppl only brothers and sisters...why then do we place so much emphasis on it now? Well, without really cracking open that can of worms I'd like to briefly focus on an epidemic in nearly every local church: the unexplained "romantic" affection so many brothers and sisters have for each other. Without understanding, heartbreak is inevitable. As a single non-married man who loves The Lord I feel uniquely qualified to speak on this. Here's my stab at it.
When people have an equal love for Jesus an equal burn for eternity, and an equal dream it's easy to confuse the eternal bond for romance. We confuse that spiritual bond so easily because it's often times the purest love we've ever known & we innocently expect it to fit a box of romanticism which is a socialized condition. Our hearts seem to be broken when things don't pan out as we expected, but they are actually being healed if a relationship was pursued in a pure manner. If earthly marriage is to prepare us for Christ, how important then are healthy brother sister relationships in the church? Very. It's just our fragmented souls always complicate matters. I think we really need understanding. This teaching is rare. Instead of honoring each other we place expectations on each other. Instead of celebrating each other we rain on each other's parade. Instead of blessing another's joy, we wish upon them our perceived misery, we burn bridges, build walls, and live to regret it. Perhaps there's an alternative. Perhaps a healthier way for Christian brothers and sisters to interact; it's called honor. Honor isn't choosing simply not to gossip when you really want to, it is to acknowledge the divine nature and the human nature in others. To give space for emotional confusion, especially when you know deep down their motives are pure. Let's face it. Were broken, We live in a broken world, were bound to get it wrong. This is not an excuse for irresponsible behavior, selfishness, or reckless decision making, but it is to recognize within these earthly bodies with all of our innate weakness and soul confusion we are still God's dream. We simply have not fully come to fruition. Now of course some people will go beyond the limits, using and abusing others hearts but what I'm suggesting is just a possible explanation and potential solution. If in the event you have "feelings" for another non-married brother or sister, don't instantly vilify yourself or them. Realize, it's more than likely the Jesus in them which draws you. Maturely, find a balance and be honest as you bring it before The Lord, there's no shame in honesty. As the Holy Spirit leads, begin seeing them as a brother or sister in light of eternity and you'll be amazed at how much peace you feel and how productive the relationship can actually be. Avoid flirtation, that is dishonor, irresponsible, and ungodly. Be careful, the emotions in our heart are not all innocent and if we don't guard our hearts, disaster can result. 2 scriptures for your consideration
Proverbs 4:23-26 "Keep your heart with all diligence, For out of it spring the issues of life. 24 Put away from you a deceitful mouth,
And put perverse lips far from you. 25 Let your eyes look straight ahead, And your eyelids look right before you. 26 Ponder the path of your feet,And let all your ways be established.
Jeremiah 17:9 “The heart is deceitful above all things, And desperately wicked; Who can know it? 10 I, the Lord, search the heart, I test the mind, Even to give every man according to his ways, According to the fruit of his doings."