Recently one of the sisters here mentioned hoping that a certain guy would ask her out. They had talked some, but she never specifically let him know that she was interested in dating him (that I read). After they were no longer co-workers, she said that she wished that she'd asked him out, and would do so next time.
It got me thinking; although I don't think I'd ask a guy out in a traditional sense, if I thought it wise, I would probably sort of ask HIM to ask ME out, or at least hint at it. As an example, "You know, if you asked me get a cup of coffee with you, I would accept *smiles coyly, walking away*". The "walking away" bit can be omitted it you really want an answer; like, if you're pretty sure that he wants to date/court, but is simply too shy to let you know. Before that, there's always the "You know, we get along really well" comment to see how he reacts**. We'd have to be friends first anyway, so it's not like I'd say this right away. Also, I'd have to feel peaceful about doing this and REALLY like the guy, etc.
I'm not asking for permission to show interest in this manner, but I'm curious as to what you all (especially the guys) think about it. Maybe a lot of guys would think it weird if a girl showed interest to him this way. To me it just makes it obvious that I'm interested in a closer relationship (and also that I'm a little bit silly, which he would probably already know by then anyway ). However, if he's not interested, we can stay friends easier, since he never had to actually reject me.
Anyway, discuss, discuss .
**If I said this to anyone here, it was just a comment; I'm not currently interested in anyone on this site for anything beyond friendship .
It got me thinking; although I don't think I'd ask a guy out in a traditional sense, if I thought it wise, I would probably sort of ask HIM to ask ME out, or at least hint at it. As an example, "You know, if you asked me get a cup of coffee with you, I would accept *smiles coyly, walking away*". The "walking away" bit can be omitted it you really want an answer; like, if you're pretty sure that he wants to date/court, but is simply too shy to let you know. Before that, there's always the "You know, we get along really well" comment to see how he reacts**. We'd have to be friends first anyway, so it's not like I'd say this right away. Also, I'd have to feel peaceful about doing this and REALLY like the guy, etc.
I'm not asking for permission to show interest in this manner, but I'm curious as to what you all (especially the guys) think about it. Maybe a lot of guys would think it weird if a girl showed interest to him this way. To me it just makes it obvious that I'm interested in a closer relationship (and also that I'm a little bit silly, which he would probably already know by then anyway ). However, if he's not interested, we can stay friends easier, since he never had to actually reject me.
Anyway, discuss, discuss .
**If I said this to anyone here, it was just a comment; I'm not currently interested in anyone on this site for anything beyond friendship .
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