Hey Singles,
As can be expected, there are usually ongoing discussions here about who we want to date and who could date us. Over and over again, we dutifully state, "I want to marry a strong Christian!"
Whenever I see this, my question is always, "But what do you personally mean by 'a strong Christian?'" Maybe it's just me, but having grown up around Christians all my life, I've learned that "being a Christian" means different things to different people.
I understand that the Bible tells us to not be unequally yoked and that the focus is usually directed towards unbelievers, but I'm always amazed that there seems to be little discussion about the fact that many believers would, in my estimation at least, be unequally yoked as well (which is why I personally suspect so many Christian marriages end up in divorce--I don't mean this as judgment but as a personal observation that could very well be wrong.)
Some of the inspirations for this thread include:
1. This past holiday season when I was rejected by someone on a dating site as being "too worldly" because I confessed to committing the ghastly sin of occasionally using the greeting of, "Happy Holidays" instead of "Merry Christmas." (If it's someone I won't see for a while and I'm wishing them both a "Merry Christmas" and a "Happy New Year", then yes, the heathen words, "Happy Holidays" are utilized as part of my vocabulary.) I understood the person's point of view and respect it, but it's not going to change my view, either.
2. Someone I once knew whose regular spiritual routine included intense Bible classes, church 2-3 times a week, and regular service to charities and church needs, as well as regular fasts that sometimes lasted a week ("I'll keep going as long as the Lord leads," this person would say.)
3. A friend who has just as vigorous of a spiritual schedule as person # 2, along with door-to-door evangelizing on their days off, leaving Christian paraphernalia everywhere they go (restaurants, the gym, etc.), and missions trips during their vacations. They are both two of the nicest, most compassionate, and least judgmental people you will ever meet.
But I wonder what their idea of a "strong Christian" (as a potential marriage candidate) would be?
To be perfectly honest, I surely wouldn't qualify!!!
What about all of you? What's your idea of "a strong Christian", and especially one "strong enough" whom you would consider dating and marrying?
And what happens if that person supposedly isn't "Christian enough"? Would you pass him or her right on by? For example, if someone is working in the ministry, would they not even consider an "average" Christian who goes to church once a week and maybe reads their Bible a few times a month? Is there a line between insisting on "holding out" for a person who is "Christian enough", or does it become a matter of unfairly judging someone's walk with Christ?
What is YOUR idea of a "strong Christian" and how do you know when to accept/reject someone based on that standard?
The poll is meant to give us an idea of some things we expect in "real" Christians... but I hope everyone will feel free to voice their opinions on the subject as well. (The poll is anonymous and multiple choice; feel free to choose all that apply.)
*This poll is for you, GaryA and BananaPi . Hopefully, this time I will be allowed to pass "Go" and collect $200. *
As can be expected, there are usually ongoing discussions here about who we want to date and who could date us. Over and over again, we dutifully state, "I want to marry a strong Christian!"
Whenever I see this, my question is always, "But what do you personally mean by 'a strong Christian?'" Maybe it's just me, but having grown up around Christians all my life, I've learned that "being a Christian" means different things to different people.
I understand that the Bible tells us to not be unequally yoked and that the focus is usually directed towards unbelievers, but I'm always amazed that there seems to be little discussion about the fact that many believers would, in my estimation at least, be unequally yoked as well (which is why I personally suspect so many Christian marriages end up in divorce--I don't mean this as judgment but as a personal observation that could very well be wrong.)
Some of the inspirations for this thread include:
1. This past holiday season when I was rejected by someone on a dating site as being "too worldly" because I confessed to committing the ghastly sin of occasionally using the greeting of, "Happy Holidays" instead of "Merry Christmas." (If it's someone I won't see for a while and I'm wishing them both a "Merry Christmas" and a "Happy New Year", then yes, the heathen words, "Happy Holidays" are utilized as part of my vocabulary.) I understood the person's point of view and respect it, but it's not going to change my view, either.
2. Someone I once knew whose regular spiritual routine included intense Bible classes, church 2-3 times a week, and regular service to charities and church needs, as well as regular fasts that sometimes lasted a week ("I'll keep going as long as the Lord leads," this person would say.)
3. A friend who has just as vigorous of a spiritual schedule as person # 2, along with door-to-door evangelizing on their days off, leaving Christian paraphernalia everywhere they go (restaurants, the gym, etc.), and missions trips during their vacations. They are both two of the nicest, most compassionate, and least judgmental people you will ever meet.
But I wonder what their idea of a "strong Christian" (as a potential marriage candidate) would be?
To be perfectly honest, I surely wouldn't qualify!!!
What about all of you? What's your idea of "a strong Christian", and especially one "strong enough" whom you would consider dating and marrying?
And what happens if that person supposedly isn't "Christian enough"? Would you pass him or her right on by? For example, if someone is working in the ministry, would they not even consider an "average" Christian who goes to church once a week and maybe reads their Bible a few times a month? Is there a line between insisting on "holding out" for a person who is "Christian enough", or does it become a matter of unfairly judging someone's walk with Christ?
What is YOUR idea of a "strong Christian" and how do you know when to accept/reject someone based on that standard?
The poll is meant to give us an idea of some things we expect in "real" Christians... but I hope everyone will feel free to voice their opinions on the subject as well. (The poll is anonymous and multiple choice; feel free to choose all that apply.)
*This poll is for you, GaryA and BananaPi . Hopefully, this time I will be allowed to pass "Go" and collect $200. *