Marriage by kidnap: Men seized at gunpoint for marriage in India

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1still_waters

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[TD]Poor and unable to find grooms for their daughters, many still seize men at gunpoint in what is known as pakadwa shaadi.




Sonu Kumar was in perfect bliss, enjoying a break from his job as a clerk with the Indian army, when things suddenly went horribly wrong.


On his way to the railway station in India's eastern Bihar state to buy his return ticket to work, he was abducted by four armed masked men and bundled into a waiting car that whisked him away.


He was shocked and shaken by the unexpected turn of events. But more unexpected surprises were in store for him. Unlike kidnappers who normally extract ransom, his tormentors made an unusual demand: marry a girl waiting patiently at a decorated venue in Saharsa village.

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Sonu had little choice. He married the girl, as was demanded of him. "Once the marriage ceremony was over, the girl’s family was assured that there was no escape route for me," he says. Whoever said marriages were made in heaven was wrong. For Sonu, it was a nightmare.

Hundreds of others like him are pushed into such nightmares annually in Bihar at gunpoint. Locally known as pakadwa shaadi (marriage by kidnap), the state recorded 2,529 of them in 2013, compared to 1,337 in 2009.

Anand Kumar Singh, the police chief of Madhepura district, admits that such kidnappings of potential grooms happen at regular intervals. "It is mainly prevalent among Bhumihars and Yadavas castes," he says.

Not long ago, Bihar with its back-breaking poverty, wretched infrastructure, poor literacy and endemic corruption, had acquired notoriety within the country as a basket case. Its records have improved somewhat in recent years, but the province still ranks as one of the poorest in the country.

Read more on link below...




Groom kidnappings: A blot on India's Bihar - Features - Al Jazeera English
 

mystdancer50

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Wow. That's a reversal. You hear about men abducting young girls in Africa by gunpoint to marry them...or worse...but to see it happening with women abducting men by gunpoint...wow.
 
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[TD]Poor and unable to find grooms for their daughters, many still seize men at gunpoint in what is known as pakadwa shaadi.




Sonu Kumar was in perfect bliss, enjoying a break from his job as a clerk with the Indian army, when things suddenly went horribly wrong.


On his way to the railway station in India's eastern Bihar state to buy his return ticket to work, he was abducted by four armed masked men and bundled into a waiting car that whisked him away.


He was shocked and shaken by the unexpected turn of events. But more unexpected surprises were in store for him. Unlike kidnappers who normally extract ransom, his tormentors made an unusual demand: marry a girl waiting patiently at a decorated venue in Saharsa village.
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Sonu had little choice. He married the girl, as was demanded of him. "Once the marriage ceremony was over, the girl’s family was assured that there was no escape route for me," he says. Whoever said marriages were made in heaven was wrong. For Sonu, it was a nightmare.

Hundreds of others like him are pushed into such nightmares annually in Bihar at gunpoint. Locally known as pakadwa shaadi (marriage by kidnap), the state recorded 2,529 of them in 2013, compared to 1,337 in 2009.

Anand Kumar Singh, the police chief of Madhepura district, admits that such kidnappings of potential grooms happen at regular intervals. "It is mainly prevalent among Bhumihars and Yadavas castes," he says.

Not long ago, Bihar with its back-breaking poverty, wretched infrastructure, poor literacy and endemic corruption, had acquired notoriety within the country as a basket case. Its records have improved somewhat in recent years, but the province still ranks as one of the poorest in the country.

Read more on link below...




Groom kidnappings: A blot on India's Bihar - Features - Al Jazeera English
welcome to india:),this is not a new thing here:D
 
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Wow. That's a reversal. You hear about men abducting young girls in Africa by gunpoint to marry them...or worse...but to see it happening with women abducting men by gunpoint...wow.
world is full of surprises.:D
 

Rachel20

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So who wants to come to India?

We're waiting for you :rolleyes:
 
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[TD]Poor and unable to find grooms for their daughters, many still seize men at gunpoint in what is known as pakadwa shaadi.




Sonu Kumar was in perfect bliss, enjoying a break from his job as a clerk with the Indian army, when things suddenly went horribly wrong.


On his way to the railway station in India's eastern Bihar state to buy his return ticket to work, he was abducted by four armed masked men and bundled into a waiting car that whisked him away.


He was shocked and shaken by the unexpected turn of events. But more unexpected surprises were in store for him. Unlike kidnappers who normally extract ransom, his tormentors made an unusual demand: marry a girl waiting patiently at a decorated venue in Saharsa village.

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Sonu had little choice. He married the girl, as was demanded of him. "Once the marriage ceremony was over, the girl’s family was assured that there was no escape route for me," he says. Whoever said marriages were made in heaven was wrong. For Sonu, it was a nightmare.

Hundreds of others like him are pushed into such nightmares annually in Bihar at gunpoint. Locally known as pakadwa shaadi (marriage by kidnap), the state recorded 2,529 of them in 2013, compared to 1,337 in 2009.

Anand Kumar Singh, the police chief of Madhepura district, admits that such kidnappings of potential grooms happen at regular intervals. "It is mainly prevalent among Bhumihars and Yadavas castes," he says.

Not long ago, Bihar with its back-breaking poverty, wretched infrastructure, poor literacy and endemic corruption, had acquired notoriety within the country as a basket case. Its records have improved somewhat in recent years, but the province still ranks as one of the poorest in the country.

Read more on link below...




Groom kidnappings: A blot on India's Bihar - Features - Al Jazeera English
Shame on you 1still_waters, you have given many of these desperate American women who want husbands an idea to exploit. LOL!!!! (and running out the door quickly).
 

Rachel20

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I would like a green head sack please. It's my favourite colour.

Cool.

Then afterwards you'll have to make Irish coffee and shepherd's pie for the rest of your life :)
 
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ServantStrike

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So who wants to come to India?

We're waiting for you :rolleyes:
Are you offering a shotgun wedding to one lucky err, suitor?



I wonder if I have any frequent flier miles...
 
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Cool.

Then afterwards you'll have to make Irish coffee and shepherd's pie for the rest of your life :)
Lol that reminds me of Winston Churchill. Nancy Astor said to him 'Winston, if I was your wife I would put poison in your tea', and Winston Churchill replied 'Nancy, if I were your husband, I'd drink it'.
 
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ServantStrike

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See. Now you can understand why I don't have guns :D
So, you're a traditionalist then.

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Side note : that thing looks awesome, but my mom always told me not to play with knives :/
 
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ServantStrike

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How do you feel about chloroform?

PS - Thanks, your opinion is important to us.
Also very traditional!


You really know how to sweep a guy off his feet, err, off the streets.
 
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kenthomas27

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Rachel20 - is your avatar the famous Mike? Mike the chicken?
 
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I'm a little confused about how/why this works for women... Why does the government continue to recognize these marriages? What keeps the man from simply leaving his "wife" and returning to his life as it was? Wouldn't a marriage that started with kidnapping and threats of death be a bit strained...?
 
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I'm a little confused about how/why this works for women... Why does the government continue to recognize these marriages? What keeps the man from simply leaving his "wife" and returning to his life as it was? Wouldn't a marriage that started with kidnapping and threats of death be a bit strained...?
I've actually heard that arranged or forced marriages have this kind of 'you gotta learn to know one another' vibe and the couples can and do actually end up fairly happy.

I watched a program about muslim arranged marriage and lots of people said that although people in the west view it as archaic, that many of the men and women get to know each other beyond the restraints of western marriage. They are together and thus they have to make it work, and a lot of them actually come to have very deep feelings for one another.

If I remember the name of the documentary I'll give it to you.
 
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