Christian Guys: sex, masturbation, etc.

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CoreyRyan

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I have nothing against you i love you as i love all adrian. I just feel like your condemning christians and hurting peoples feelings.

Romans 8:1
Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus,

I did not say masturbation was healthy, i did not say we have freewill to sin as much as we want.

I agree, people should pray to god to help them stop this or that. But until god helps them stop i can't say they are doing right or wrong. The only RIGHT thing you can do is not give up on god, keep faith in god. Keep asking for HIS help.
 
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zeroturbulence

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When I was a teen, I didn't know what masturbation was and I didn't do it and I always felt funny around pretty girls. I also had a good number of wet dreams so even if you don't do it , your body is going to deal with the pent-up arousal in one way or another. Wet dreams are better though, both mentally and biblically.
 
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Adrianv125

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I've been convicted by the Holy Spirit of many things in my life that I thought were not sin. And I had doubts and I earnestly asked God to reveal to me the truth about what I was choosing to do. I am not condemning anyone, I am only calling sin what it is...sin. If sin is wrong then do what is right, that's all.
 
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princessbella

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i know im not a guy but can i put my two peneth worth in, cos this isnt just a guy problem....theres alot of guilt shame and embarasment surrounding the whole subject, of both masturbation and porn, how are we as a church to deal with it , when you just say brother its wrong control yourself like i have and sweep it under the carpet..Adrian that kind of attitude to it is more likely to stop guys who really do need the help and support with this to say i dont have a problem and then end up strugling in secret and feeling alone for fear of been seen as perverted and it damages their relationship with god even more , statistics show that at least 70% of guys in our churches strugle in this area and many have left cos they dont get the support what they need in the church ive made the mistake of saying pat answers like before that cos i as a christian woman didnt understand the struggle you guys go through and how difficult it is to be honest about it within the church and in relationships and i realised i was wrong and came accross as condemning

i thnik you guys who have been totally honest on here are awesome,
 
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Jullianna

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Something has always bugged me and I've kept it to myself, but, since this thread is here, I thought I would ask...

Why do some guys PM christian women in chat wanting to discuss this issue? Isn't it a bit inappropriate to discuss something so personal with a lady who is a total stranger to you? How do other christian ladies feel about this? Wouldn't it be more helpful to find a male christian to discuss this with? someone older and more experienced?
 
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yorkie

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youngnazarene said:
Hey guys. I'm 22 and single. What is your opinion on masturbation? How do you handle it?

I find my sexual desire really hard to tame, and I have never had sex before, so masturbation is a daily thing for me. Still, I feel like it should stop.

Any thoughts?
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Most men do it. Christians or not its a human thing. I think most of us Christian single guys do feel guilt after doing it. But has long has its not geting out of hand so to speak by starting to use heavy amounts of porn and stuff. I think its safe.
 
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Maddog

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yorkie said:
Most men do it. Christians or not its a human thing.
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I disagree that it is a human thing, in the sense that it is written into our very nature. Rather it is a sub-human thing, in that it goes against our nature.

However, if you mean 'human thing' to mean that it is one of those things we do because we are fallen creatures, I suppose you're right, but you may be surprised to discover just how many, through the grace of God, are able to answer the call to holy chastity. By doing so they are actually drawing closer to their true human nature (which, let us not forget, is good since it was created by God).
 
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See_KING_Truth

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youngnazarene said:
Hey guys. I'm 22 and single. What is your opinion on masturbation? How do you handle it?

I find my sexual desire really hard to tame, and I have never had sex before, so masturbation is a daily thing for me. Still, I feel like it should stop.

Any thoughts?
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I think you should follow your heart and try not to rely too much on what people are telling you. Pray for God to reveal His will to you, and listen to your heart, if Jesus is there, then it will lead you in the right direction. I would have to totally disagree with anyone who says masturbation is ok, or not a sin. It is very much a sin and God will deal with people accordingly, I am not condeming anyone nor making judgements. I will leave that to God.
 
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Jullianna said:
Something has always bugged me and I've kept it to myself, but, since this thread is here, I thought I would ask...

Why do some guys PM christian women in chat wanting to discuss this issue? Isn't it a bit inappropriate to discuss something so personal with a lady who is a total stranger to you? How do other christian ladies feel about this? Wouldn't it be more helpful to find a male christian to discuss this with? someone older and more experienced?
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Hi Jullianna,

I say they're either trolls or perverts. Report them to a moderator and we'll get rid of them.

Also everyone should keep in mind that some who post wild stories in the forum here (like one thread I just removed, which was also on masturbation but with a far fetched tale attached) are just "trolling" -- making up things (on topics that border on inappropriate) and sitting back laughing when Christians actually take them seriously and type out long responses seriously trying to "help" them. Just keep that in mind (I'm saying that to everyone).
 
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Jullianna said:
Something has always bugged me and I've kept it to myself, but, since this thread is here, I thought I would ask...

Why do some guys PM christian women in chat wanting to discuss this issue? Isn't it a bit inappropriate to discuss something so personal with a lady who is a total stranger to you? How do other christian ladies feel about this? Wouldn't it be more helpful to find a male christian to discuss this with? someone older and more experienced?
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Wow I had no idea that was going on. No wonder all the women's chat messages basically say "go away unless I know you". lol
 
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NukePooch

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zeroturbulence said:
Wow I had no idea that was going on. No wonder all the women's chat messages basically say "go away unless I know you". lol
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Perhaps they say that BECAUSE they know you, Zero...
 
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Dece81

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Eh, I think it's a natural thing. Everyone has different hormones. We are made the way we are with blood flow going to places and sometimes things happening even when you arent thinking of things. Even animals do it. You aren't hurting anyone, I say go for it.
 
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Timofree

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princessbella said:
statistics show that at least 70% of guys in our churches strugle in this area
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and the other 30% struggle with lying right?!?? ;s ha I dunno, maybe some older married guys dont struggle......
 
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princessbella

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haha i dont know tom, maybe there lying if they say they dont strugle with lust, but i guess it is posible to be free from masturbation and porn and be in that 30% who say im free from it
 
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Maddog

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princessbella said:
haha i dont know tom, maybe there lying if they say they dont strugle with lust, but i guess it is posible to be free from masturbation and porn and be in that 30% who say im free from it
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I believe it is very possible, and in fact, more common than some would like to admit (it makes us feel less guilty if we 'know' that 'everyone does it'...)
 
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Is it wrong that I find this thread impossibly funny?
 
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ErtyCoven

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Sharp said:
That's not true at all mate.

I don't masturbate. I have in the past. But I haven't for a very long time. And I am well in control of my hormones. So the idea that everyone is doing it is false.

Look, the bible says that sex outside of marriage is sin. When you masturbate, you're having sex with yourself. This is premarital sex.

The body is the temple of the Holy Spirit. When God sees people masturbating do you think he is pleased?
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This is the Best answer ..... masturbation is a SIN SIN SIN .... ! God Bless you all !!
 
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trout

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Masterbation is out of control lust in the heart. Keep it steady for marriage. God wants the faithful brothers and sisters. I understand the hormones are out of control as well. If any thing pray and exercise. Always keep God in mind. It is a disgusting thing before marriage in Gods eyes. God bless my CC friends.
 
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If you wouldn't do it with Jesus in the room, then don't do it :)
 
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