Are You a "Lonely Loser"? (Name 5 Things You Love About Your Life.)

[seoulsearch]

Hey Everyone,

This is a gentle joke centered around a post in another thread. Do people look down on you for being single? Do they assume your life is empty and meaningless? Do they look at you with pity and speak to you as if you're only half a person?

What do YOU have to say about your life? What do you like about your life now vs. in the past--are you in a better place, period of growth, or frame of mind? Some may feel sorry for us for being single, and it DOES get tough, but surely we all have at least 5 things we love about our single lives, right?

Tell us about your situation, and Name Your Five.

Most people know I haven't had a relationship in about a decade. I was talking with some friends last night about how people think a relationship is like a Bag Of Doritos--they assume that if we just get off our (implied) lazy butts and go looking (Where? Spouses R Us?), all we have to do is pick out the relationship or person we want, toss them into the cart and we're good to go!! Instant Relationship! (Most people that assume this forget that they met their spouse in high school or college, where it was much more likely to meet and mingle.)

Am I lonely? Maybe I'd better plead the fifth on that one. As I was unpacking my things in my new place (no TV or internet at the time for over a week), I found myself talking to one of my pillows: "Hey, I haven't seen you in a while... How was the trip? There, there, I know it's been rough, but it's ok... We're home now." Yeah, I know... But...

(Hey, that pillow and I have been through A LOT, ok? Prayerful tears and frustrations as well as joyful hugs.)

But am I a loser? *shrugs* Maybe to some, but to God, we all have value, and our lives all make a contribution.

Here are My Five Things I Love About My Life:

1. I now live closer to family (I spent 10 years living across the country from them.) Maybe someday I'll be brave enough to volunteer to cook Sunday Dinner.
2. I can make small trips on my days off (to museums, gardens, libraries, etc.), even if it's just around the corner.
3. I get to try new hobbies, though I feel sorry for the plants I am about to purchase... and hopefully won't do any harm to. (It's a good thing plants can't give do a background check into the History of Your Relationship with Vegetation--I'd never pass.)
4. I can eat ice cream, OF ANY FLAVOR (or several flavors at once), ANY time I want... without sharing!!!
5. I was adopted into a Christian home and was taught strong values that are holding me through every area of my life, no matter the loss or the loneliness.

What are five things you really enjoy about YOUR life?

 

[Jullianna]

I enjoy not feeling as if I have to talk when I don't want to, and I rarely want to. I can come home, go running, work in the yard, play with my dog, sometimes even go an entire day without having to talk with anyone.

I'm really enjoying watching the man my son is becoming.

Having nachos for dinner while I watch March Madness.

No one uses my soap/shampoo.

Guilt-free naps.

 

[thecreationtutor]

1. My life is certainly not boring as I once though, mischief, crazy events and things happen, here there, everywhere.

2 I warm up quickly to other solid believers, not afraid to share myself with othersm

3. A genuine helpful friend

4. I am a jack of all trades and can be pretty creative.

5. I am not a hard guy to figure out

 

[ww_21]

1. I am a loyal person be it a friend or partner I am ALWAYS loyal.

2. I am comfortable with my own silence for days.

3. I'm a easygoing person who appreciates humor.

4. I love that God has me covered.

5. I love that even if I am so dang broken, I still hope for happiness.

 

[zeroturbulence]

LOL Kim the fact that you actually made this thread cracks me up

 

[cinder]

There are few modern attitudes that irk me more (or that I find more misleading) than the idea that a relationship (regardless of who the other person in it is) will make life better. Sorry world, but a relationship with an unhealthy person won't make me any happier or healthier, so you'll just have to deal with me being my happy, healthy, single self.

1) I can cook what I want, how I like it. (Even though Mom's influence means I still try to eat my veggies)
2) Nobody feels neglected when I want or need alone time.
3) Only one schedule to manage and correlate.
4) I have a Godly way to feed my "inner rebel"- being single and happy
5) I can be a blessing to a lot of different guys by being a Godly woman and sister in Christ without anyone getting jealous or hurt (I find it easy to be friends with guys so this is important to me)

 

[NukePooch]

Honestly, five things about me being single is easy.

Five things about me getting into a relationship? That's the tough one.

 

[seoulsearch]

LOL Kim the fact that you actually made this thread cracks me up

What can I say, Zero... I aim to please. And amuse.

Someone was telling me once that they occasionally have problems on forum sites with people giving them a lot of flack just for the sake of being mean... I told them I don't have too many problems... probably because when I do, everyone knows I'll just get it out in the open by writing a thread about it.

 

[thimsrebma]

I am not a lonely loser.

1) I am living in a new country where there is a congregation of like minded believers
2) I travel internationally every 6 - 8 weeks
3) My job pays for my apartment
4) I live in an apartment building with co workers, so its like dorm days all over again(yes PJ's in the hallways, strolling over to the neighbors apartment)
5) The fruits here are absolutely DELICIOUS and are not genetically modified

 

[thimsrebma]

I have been making appearances again lately. But this thread took me back down memory lane. Seoul, Nuke, Zero, Julliana! Where are Nod, Grace and Liamson?

This derailment has been brought to you by, Madea's Family Reunioun.

 

[keep_on_smiling]

1. I love that I am able to truly get to know and spend time with each member of my family without feeling I'm neglecting someone.

2. I love that I am able to give lots of my time to family/friends/strangers in need. Whether it's through a conversation, time, or an actual deed.

3. I love that I am able to focus on my job. (This is only a season in my life. With a husband, my job will take the backseat)

4. I love that I have time to build a strong foundation in the Lord before sharing my life with someone.

5. I love that I have to trust God that their is someone for me. I love knowing that He has a plan for me and that even though somedays feel lonely that it is only a season in my life.

I am content with life I am thankful for God's plan. I know that the things I mentioned above will still place in my life even when I'm sharing it, but it different ways.

I've learned to change the way I look at life. It's important to not let others (that aren't single) make you feel like your life isn't complete, because if you have God, it is. Sharing your life with someone is special, but you're someone before you meet them. I'm not WAITING to live life, I am enjoying living it now.

 

[just_monicat]

1. my days, my time, even my minutes are all mine. i can give them away unselfishly, i can clean my house at 2 in the morning with music blaring, i can go hiking for a day or i can waste it in peels of laughter with a friend. or i can lazily hang out with a cup of tea and cuddle with my dog while watching a documentary marathon.

my time is all mine, and i answer only to God for it. for that matter, ALL my resources are mine to utilize under the accountability of God alone.

2. i finally know what it feels like to be content with myself. i am far from perfect, but i actually like myself. or rather, i like the person God has molded, crafted, broken me into becoming and i like the path i am on.

that people-pleasing girl who never felt that she was enough is so far in my rear-view mirror that i only see her from time to time in passing moment and in reflections of another time. i dress, say and do what pleases me (and my standards), not someone else.

3. i love that my job can bring me fulfillment AND still be only a means to fund my life. i never had both. i love that i can be generous and catering when i want to be, and can bend my rules to help a start-up, or other client that i feel called to work with.

i can change my rates, my policies, my approach, even my hours when i see fit to. there is no approval loop, because it's my signature is on the bottom line. i take time off when i desire, and can organize my workload to support my interests. i am so grateful for that.

4. i know what joy, real joy feels like. i spent a lot of my life at times happy, sometimes amused, but always chasing the joy. and i never knew contentment.

i thought things, people, accomplishments brought happiness and joy. boy, was i wrong about that.

5. i don't worry anymore. i don't stress about the little things. even when i'm devastated, i can regain perspective almost rather quickly.

moreover, i am still praying for things that i desire in my life, but i trust that God's got me covered. that He knows what's best for me, and that while i'm doing my part, i can always count on Him to do His part.

i no longer wonder about what else i can gain for myself, rebelliously or otherwise.

i finally, fully trust God with my life and my heart and the work He is completing in me. perhaps i love that one most of all.

 

[zeroturbulence]

I have been making appearances again lately. But this thread took me back down memory lane. Seoul, Nuke, Zero, Julliana! Where are Nod, Grace and Liamson?

This derailment has been brought to you by, Madea's Family Reunioun.

Its good to see you here again, Amber!

Nod and Liamson are still around. Do you mean Grace as in "Grace"? She unfortunately was banned from the site awhile back. I don't really know why.

 

[eugenius]

where are you supposed to meet people when you finished high school and college without meeting anyone, and you aren't happy about being alone?

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

1. Keeping my own schedule is wonderful.

2. Managing my own money is a beautiful thing.

3. Making whatever I want for dinner is refreshing.

4. Sleeping as late as I choose in the morning is delightful.

5. Taking up the entire bed if I want to is pretty amazing.

Single life definitely has it's benefits.

 

[TrustInJesus]

1. That Jesus loves me enough to have died for me. 2. That God has let me keep my immediate family for this long. 3. That I have a pretty awesome girlfriend thanks to the Lord...

I'm sorry to seem pessimistic but Id be very hard pressed to come up with an honest 4 or 5.

 

[zeroturbulence]

I think this should be the theme song for this thread

[video=youtube;MaNKuAHknV8]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MaNKuAHknV8[/video]

 

[blueorchidjd]

Blueorchid's guide to singlehood.

1. The number one reason why I love being single at the moment is because I can focus on God as the sole motivation and not worry about how another individual is going to impact the path in my life. In fact, I've found that during the single times in my life I've found a clearer direction and less stress because of this, although the direction in life may have a sense of anonymity to it, it is less confusing and stressful. I love having my options open to wherever God wants me to go, and not because I am a commitment-phobe....well maybe a little bit. Haha.
2. I don't have to make plans...oh my gosh best thing ever.
3. Money saving (I will pay sometimes).
4. Peace of mind & Focus enhanced.
5. Less temptation and worrying, is this the one this time?
6. No worries about settling.
Am I going to be more happy than unhappy if I were single?
7. Sometimes I feel that a significant other gets in the way with my relationship with God...I kind of dislike that a bit. Although I like the extra company, not gonna lie.
Yeah. it is fantastic.

 

[FireWire]

I sure am. I currently have a 100% rejection rate.

But I love:

1. Not being accountable to anybody except God and society of course
2. Don't need to worry everyday if I did/said the wrong thing
3. Playing call of duty/train sim/plane sim and whatever else I got whenever I want
4. No complications
5. All of the above = freedom to be a single unit with no pressures from or to in being anything else

 

[secularhermit]

1) My closet is roomier now.

2) I own more land than I need (I plan to clean it to eat my own food, these days)

3) As a loser, I´m a winner.

4) I can do many things others cannot.

5) I will not say more to avoid being too selfish or selfcentered.

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