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All glory goes to God...personally, I wanted revenge, I wanted him to suffer as I had, I wanted to even the score..I was bitter, cruel, and hateful....it was after two years of stewing, restraining myself, allowing myself continually getting walked on by him and his new wife, the one he cheated on me with and later married, it was at my lowest when God found me...
Praise God for helping me to forgive and teaching me how to bless and agape love him and his new family, even after a grueling custody battle they the at me directly after my mother passed away...
Because of God's good work in me I have been able to stand string and continue too forgive and show agape love for them despite their false witnessing etc....
God is awesome!
Edit: I mention it not to gossip, but, as a living testimony to God's Greatness
Praise God for helping me to forgive and teaching me how to bless and agape love him and his new family, even after a grueling custody battle they the at me directly after my mother passed away...
Because of God's good work in me I have been able to stand string and continue too forgive and show agape love for them despite their false witnessing etc....
God is awesome!
Edit: I mention it not to gossip, but, as a living testimony to God's Greatness
April Fool's Day divorce papers? That is seriously messed up.
But praise the Lord for bringing us through such things. For demanding that we cling to him in our desperation. For lifting us up and saving us from our own grief and dark thoughts. He is a loving Father. Congratulations on 4 years worth of personal growth, Nadia!
But praise the Lord for bringing us through such things. For demanding that we cling to him in our desperation. For lifting us up and saving us from our own grief and dark thoughts. He is a loving Father. Congratulations on 4 years worth of personal growth, Nadia!
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I also have been struggling with that "I want him to suffer thing". I recognize it for what it is though and it has been happening less and less frequently. I imagine I will always have those fleeting thoughts from time to time. The bitterness was the worst though....it's just not who I am and it had practically taken over my personality! We really do have to guard our hearts.
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When i joined my church, everyone asked me if I completed the forgiveness worksheets... it just kept coming up, everyone i talked to... Did you do the forgiveness worksheets... FINE, where are the stupid worksheets... I had them, and still the questions, did you do the forgiveness worksheets... (no, but what's the big deal? don't wanna forgive the jerk, why would or SHOULD I bother forgiving him.... Bitterness ate away at me)
Finally, my sister in Christ said she challenged me to simply try to do the forgiveness worksheets... she said that at least if I did them I could then say YES i did the forgiveness worksheets when everyone bombarded me with the question.
Having done the forgiveness worksheets... I can only ask you, Have you done the forgiveness worksheets?
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A couple more, last one is on Purity for women
These forgiveness worksheets are on my profile also in their own photo album. WITH God, and these worksheets, I was able to conquer bitterness, revenge, and all those normal feelings as well as irrational feelings . a woman being served divorce papers on April Fools Day by her spouse.
I have learned I was not fully innocent in the destruction of my marriage. I overcame the pain of suffering and the guilt involved in the whole mess.
I pray often God will repair the relationship because we do have a child together. I pray often my ex-spouse's heart is softened and his eyes are opened to truths and that he also has an abundant amount of God's grace when he is dealing with me and our daughter.
One more tid-bit for those who do not know me or my situation: My ex-husband and his wife are Fervent Active Atheists.. they are Anti-Religion, Anti-Christ, and Anti-God. They attend meet-ups and events for atheist activists. They routinely and faithfully teach her about Big Bang, try to disprove God with Science, cast seeds of doubt, make God appear like an illusion, not worthy of the praise. They also teach my daughter that all Good things come only from hard work, any blessing is achieved only through personal effort and all glory should go to the person that stayed the course.
Praise God, he's provided a hedge of protection around my daughter, I pray for her constantly while she is in that environment. Fortunately, my daughter has seen me Without God at my center as well as WITH God at my center... and she chooses to follow God.
Praise God too, my ex-husband has suggested I pray things over, since that seems to work for me... He acknowledges I consult God regarding decisions.... I have been praying for him and his wife to come to God simultaneously... so they are and remain equally yoked. I trust God is faithful and God is sovereign.
Because of Jesus, I have reached a point where I can pray for my ex husband and his wife to be blessed abundantly. I pray for their marriage and their child and their parenting. Four years ago, I would have only been able to pray that they suffered or got what was coming to them.
If you have read this far, Please pray that my ex husband and his wife find Truth in Jesus Christ, that my daughter's faith is continually protected, and that I rest in God's wisdom and timing and that I continue to raise my daughter up in the Lord in every way I go, in the morning and during the night and when we pass by a fencepost... (hehe, I can't remember the verse, but I realized awhile ago I had to step up my game for the Lord after seeing *their* diligence in anti-christian tactics) I am thankful being a vessel is not a burden... God's Load is Light!
These forgiveness worksheets are on my profile also in their own photo album. WITH God, and these worksheets, I was able to conquer bitterness, revenge, and all those normal feelings as well as irrational feelings . a woman being served divorce papers on April Fools Day by her spouse.
I have learned I was not fully innocent in the destruction of my marriage. I overcame the pain of suffering and the guilt involved in the whole mess.
I pray often God will repair the relationship because we do have a child together. I pray often my ex-spouse's heart is softened and his eyes are opened to truths and that he also has an abundant amount of God's grace when he is dealing with me and our daughter.
One more tid-bit for those who do not know me or my situation: My ex-husband and his wife are Fervent Active Atheists.. they are Anti-Religion, Anti-Christ, and Anti-God. They attend meet-ups and events for atheist activists. They routinely and faithfully teach her about Big Bang, try to disprove God with Science, cast seeds of doubt, make God appear like an illusion, not worthy of the praise. They also teach my daughter that all Good things come only from hard work, any blessing is achieved only through personal effort and all glory should go to the person that stayed the course.
Praise God, he's provided a hedge of protection around my daughter, I pray for her constantly while she is in that environment. Fortunately, my daughter has seen me Without God at my center as well as WITH God at my center... and she chooses to follow God.
Praise God too, my ex-husband has suggested I pray things over, since that seems to work for me... He acknowledges I consult God regarding decisions.... I have been praying for him and his wife to come to God simultaneously... so they are and remain equally yoked. I trust God is faithful and God is sovereign.
Because of Jesus, I have reached a point where I can pray for my ex husband and his wife to be blessed abundantly. I pray for their marriage and their child and their parenting. Four years ago, I would have only been able to pray that they suffered or got what was coming to them.
If you have read this far, Please pray that my ex husband and his wife find Truth in Jesus Christ, that my daughter's faith is continually protected, and that I rest in God's wisdom and timing and that I continue to raise my daughter up in the Lord in every way I go, in the morning and during the night and when we pass by a fencepost... (hehe, I can't remember the verse, but I realized awhile ago I had to step up my game for the Lord after seeing *their* diligence in anti-christian tactics) I am thankful being a vessel is not a burden... God's Load is Light!
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ww_21 my friend. I know I am not the only one that worries about the closure of your heart. Remember this, if you keep your heart bundled up so tight and keep it so sheltered, in many ways you are taking your heart into your own hands and not trusting it to God.
God will help you through anything that inflicts pain and suffering.
if you hold your heart so tight and so close.. you might be keeping it out of God's reach too my friend.
Please do not let my story and experience keep you from letting your heart be won by a wonderful man. There ARE Godly men out there, I'm sure of it..lol.. my first husband... (assuming I will get married again) my first husband was an Atheist, and I was so wrapped up with selfish pride I didn't even bother to check his relationship with God -- it was not a priority then, NOW, you better believe my 2nd Husband will know God, better than me!!
God will help you through anything that inflicts pain and suffering.
if you hold your heart so tight and so close.. you might be keeping it out of God's reach too my friend.
Please do not let my story and experience keep you from letting your heart be won by a wonderful man. There ARE Godly men out there, I'm sure of it..lol.. my first husband... (assuming I will get married again) my first husband was an Atheist, and I was so wrapped up with selfish pride I didn't even bother to check his relationship with God -- it was not a priority then, NOW, you better believe my 2nd Husband will know God, better than me!!
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Heavenly Father, I ask that you make your presence known to Rainin while she completes the forgiveness worksheets, Lord I ask you give her strength to get through them, that you hold her and hug her while she explores unforgivness in her heart... I know how much it hurts and how humbling it is... I ask that you stay with her and she strengthens her faith and relationship with you during the process. In Jesus Name, Amen