Would you date someone awkwardly stuck in a another time...

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How do you feel about it?

  • Attention Seeking

    Votes: 5 20.0%

  • Annoying

    Votes: 2 8.0%

  • Whatever

    Votes: 6 24.0%

  • Charming, would not change a thing

    Votes: 9 36.0%

  • Cool, I'd fit right in

    Votes: 3 12.0%
  • Total voters
    25
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DarlinNadia

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What I mean by this is:

Would you date someone that dresses in .... clothing from another time... like re-enactment middle ages, Renaissance... or other time period.

I'm talking about someone that goes about everyday never stepping out of character... speech, behavior, and mannerisms are of that time era.

Would it be charming or annoying or embarrassing?

Going to court over a parking ticket, going to dinner, shopping at the grocery store (walmart doesn't count), going to family functions, going to work ...

Obviously, the person WILL stand out amongst today's backdrop. How would you feel about that... if everything else were in order-- kindness, Christianity, etc...

Would you try to change the person or would you endure it and possibly also start dressing out of this time.
 
Devoted2JC

Devoted2JC

Senior Member
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Jan 16, 2011
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Charming, would not change a thing :p
 
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ji

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#3
#3
Be with that person(married life partner and not temporary dating realtion) and Pray God for both of us to walk walk better in Him(Jesus).
Outward appearance doesn't matter as long as its not too weird and not too much a 'weirdo'.

Being myself a man,

It mustn't be like this,if they purposefully do like this without genuine reason:-

Purposefully doing this is not good(without genuine reason).
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Purposefully doing this is not good(without genuine reason).
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"Would you try to change the person or would you endure it and possibly also start dressing out of this time."
Definitely i will..but in a modest way is ok, covering body parts that should be covered.
For that i wouldn't go back to 18th century clothing.There are Good clothes to buy now also.

Its my mindset the prob.
Everything said in this comment is my view and some are general facts too.
 

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cinder

cinder

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Mar 26, 2014
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DarlinNadia said:
Would you date someone that dresses in .... clothing from another time... like re-enactment middle ages, Renaissance... or other time period.

I'm talking about someone that goes about everyday never stepping out of character... speech, behavior, and mannerisms are of that time era.
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I understand historical re-enacting and renaissance fairs and all that stuff, but there are people who do this 24/7/365 ?

I could handle unusual clothing, but building your life around an idealized (most likely) version of the past is a little bit too much for me.

That being said I think it would be really cool and informative to get to know someone who was into historical re-enacting and knowledgeable on the subject.
 
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iTOREtheSKY

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#5
Why would anyone even entertain the idea of "dating" someone that they felt needed changing? Ridiculous.
 
Fenner

Fenner

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Jan 26, 2013
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I'm married so really I won't be dating anyone but my husband. Anyhow I know this will sound shallow, but oh well. If someone had a mullet I don't think I'd be attracted to them.
 
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Ugly

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#7
Doubt i'd date them. Typically someone who takes this to such extremes are hiding from something they don't want to face, or trying to compensate for some sort of flaws they view in themselves and use this to cover it up. Its really a sign of a instability internally to the extreme.
 
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thimsrebma

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#8
I could't. I don't think I would take them seriously if they dressed like that on a regular basis. It would seem like they were a character, out of touch with reality and partly delusional.
 
Pie

Pie

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May 21, 2011
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I agree with some of the other statements on here... It would definitely strike me as "partly delusional." If it's an all the time thing, definitely would have to pick "attention seeking" out of the choices on the poll. Though the actual issues are probably deeper than that.
 
secularhermit

secularhermit

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May 3, 2013
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Hmmm! The answer is quite complex... I would try a date (as long as I know she doesn´t have to shave her face, by the way) :p

Ther was I time I loved that fashion you´ve mentioned. I think I love Emily Brontë that way (or another) but, that would be "tricky" because I´ve found I had no way to know that she was too thin or too fat for my taste (my human likes).

Regarding this, you´ve said: "Would you try to change the person or would you endure it and possibly also start dressing out of this time."

If I accepted a person, I wouldn´t like to change what I freely received... though, that belongs to the realm of the emotional or "spiritual" commitment both person agreed on. I grasped theirs is a "romantic" fantasy on this but, not too many want to be thought as a nut or weird on the city or town they are living in, though those who are or were PUNK were happy when receiving the attention they were looking for... Are these two imaginary guys romantic punks or something else? Who knows! that depends on their agreements to be diferent, to looked at, and their reason "to be" another way. I have seen guys (men) who like to be seen as jews, wearing robes or those who want to be seen like arabs, just being creole Venezuelans... I think -that thing- has something to do with the way I want to be seen and perceived: If I am a guy, I want to be seen as a gay. If I were an homosexual, I probably like to be seen as a woman, to be "loved" the way a woman longs to be loved, because we tend to match the outer appearance with the innermost man (or women, in the case of girls).

In the case of Christians (and Christianity) I have seen people tried to be another person they are not "to be fit". I have laughed at those who said: "I am this" and were another (that was their lie).

I know "the church" and its religion tried to control things they cannot control. I have seen men and women became the ones they relly are, but those things were above fashion or personal likes: These were above normal stardards...

These are matters of personal choices I cannot reach. :)
 
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Donkeyfish07

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Why would you ask such a question?
 
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kenthomas27

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Fenner said:
I'm married so really I won't be dating anyone but my husband. Anyhow I know this will sound shallow, but oh well. If someone had a mullet I don't think I'd be attracted to them.
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Well.........this is pretty disappointing. I'm feeling a little ridiculous now in my outfit.....

I thought I looked dashing. :(
 
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Donkeyfish07

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kenthomas27 said:
Well.........this is pretty disappointing. I'm feeling a little ridiculous now in my outfit.....

I thought I looked dashing. :(
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This is a much better avatar for you sir.



And every time you spot a troll, you have to say "suck gas evildoer"
 
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kenthomas27

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#14
I like it! I could have used that weapon just a few minutes ago...
 
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Donkeyfish07

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kenthomas27 said:
I like it! I could have used that weapon just a few minutes ago...
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You can just poke them with that sword until you have time to put on your new costume.
 
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Donkeyfish07

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Pie said:
The better question is, "Why not?" ;) Random questions make life more interesting.
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Well I could answer why not. lol, I'm just curious what sparked the curiosity on the topic in the first place :p.
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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ji said:
Be with that person(married life partner and not temporary dating realtion) and Pray God for both of us to walk walk better in Him(Jesus).
Outward appearance doesn't matter as long as its not too weird and not too much a 'weirdo'.

Being myself a man,

It mustn't be like this,if they purposefully do like this without genuine reason:-

Purposefully doing this is not good(without genuine reason).
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Purposefully doing this is not good(without genuine reason).
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"Would you try to change the person or would you endure it and possibly also start dressing out of this time."
Definitely i will..but in a modest way is ok, covering body parts that should be covered.
For that i wouldn't go back to 18th century clothing.There are Good clothes to buy now also.

Its my mindset the prob.
Everything said in this comment is my view and some are general facts too.
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I always have a legit reason for walking like that.
 
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DarlinNadia

Guest
#20
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Donkeyfish07 said:
Why would you ask such a question?
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Just a question, I ponder many things throughout the day... I appreciate everyone's honesty in the poll.. as it stands now

3 say it's attention seeking
1 says whatever
2 find it charming (1 being me)

This indicates to me so far that the majority frowns on such attention seeking behavior/delusional...
I fear people would expect/demand the individual to conform to today's normal standards.... if not by direct comment, then by treating the people as if they are in the wrong or simply rejecting them based on their clothing with the assumption they are doing something foolish or inappropriate..

I'm one of the 2 that find it charming... because honestly I do not mind if someone is enamored to a certain time period. Why is it any different than someone who over dresses when going places or under dresses.

I've let my daughter wear her fairy costume to the store ... I know she's a child and people will say that is different but honestly if I paid 40 dollars for her fairy dress, she's going to wear it outside to play in the mud, to the park, to the store, to the museum and wherever she wanted until it no longer fit.

Jesus wore a tunic... if someone wanted to wear a tunic ... so be it. It is unfortunate that people naturally consider a person attention seeking/delusional if they dress and behave like someone awkwardly stuck in time.

I wonder if Jesus will be dressed appropriate to the day and times when he returns. What if he's not wearing sunglasses when it's sunny... or hasn't an umbrella when it's raining.... oh my .. what if he's standing on a hover board .. lol ..

Dude gets locked up for pretending to be Jesus, but it's really Jesus. I honestly hope that it is very clear when Jesus DOES come back .. that it's really him for that group of people (and I'm sure there are many) that expects him to conform to this world's standards.
 
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