True, but mind you the woman here has only been a Christian a short while (not sure if it was before or after her baby was born.) The fact remains the baby is here now and for all purposes she is married to this man.
I strongly disagree. If she decides she's going ahead with the marriage to a non-believer.. how is this pleasing to God?
Would you agree that God HATES divorce? Hate is a strong word but Why enter into something that is incredibly likely to displease God and end in Divorce... Two Sins do not make it right. Three if it's sex before marriage.
1. Sex out of marriage
2. Debauchery of a Bachelor party... since it's all about pleasures of the flesh at this point.
3. Marrying a non-believer
4. Divorce
My advice ..
if she insists on going through with this marriage.. test is... Go get some pre-marital christian counseling. if she thinks .. pfftss you guys are all wrong and are judging me unfairly and judging my fiance unfairly... Fine. Go through the Pre-Marital counseling, if you can survive that... and still love and adore one another.. then God bless... God might even speak to him during this process. If the Guy loves her and truly will be a man worthy of her hand in marriage (not sex) if he's truly a worthy man he will embrace and do things SHE wants to do to please her God. She agrees to a bachelor party of drinking and debauchery and strippers and oddly shaped pastries and he goes with her to Christian counseling... how pleasing is this to God, cause last time I checked HE is responsible for fixing us and marriage won't just fix this.
There are major events occurring here.
1. A new life, a Baby is coming into this world. This is a major life event... you can change your medical enrollment options based on this LIFE CHANGE
2. Marriage... this is another major life event.. again you can change your medical enrollment options with this LIFE CHANGE
3. Salvation ... another life changing event, while you cannot change your medical enrollment options you are still DYING to self every day as you pick up that cross.
Hard to die to self when your husband does not believe in what you are doing.... like literally a non-believer.
True, but she doesn't have to marry him. The bible says not to marry an unbeliever. It causes an incredible amount of problems, and it's likely the marriage will end in divorce. And let's talk about the division the baby would be raised in... Max is right. A strip club is the least of her worries.
Ask questions: Baptism? Sunday School? Prayer at meals? Prayer at night? Prayer in the morning as they begin the day? Prayer over finances? Prayer together? How is the man going to lead the household in ways according to the Lord.. Oh wait, that doesn't matter... they had sex so they are married anyway. (I'm seriously passionate about being against this because I have LIVED it... I put God on the back burner because it made my Atheist Husband uncomfortable. i stopped reading my Bible) I know how hard it is when there are religious differences... It is a HUGE division and one you don't think will make any difference..
My Daughter asked her father if she can pray before she eats when she is at his house. his answer was yes, sure if that was something she wanted to do... She came back to my house saddened... she said she just isn't allowed to do it at his house, I questioned her father.. he said that he said SHE COULD pray but he was not going to bow his head or fold his hands in prayer to something non-existent. I confronted my daughter with the truth of the conversation.. she said it was easier to just not pray while at his house because they are impatient and want to eat their food right away and she simply feels stupid doing it when no one else believes her. It's as if she has an imaginary friend no one else can see and she feels dumb talking about it there.
Fast Forward: Here's a HARD TRUTH about Divorce. Courts have this thing called Legal 50/50 custody regarding medical,
religious, educational, and other decisions.. this means.. both parents have equal say.. regardless of who gets Primary Custody.. So my daughter lives me over 85% of the time .. yet I cannot educate my daughter about the Lord without his written permission.. I cannot enroll her in Sunday school without his written permission or I'm in contempt of the divorce decree.
We agreed 50/50 I could teach about God and he can teach about Atheism and Big Bang and Darwinism and whatever else he chooses Buddism, Muslim, Catholic, Hippieism, Thieist or Mickeymouse is ruler of the world... whatever he choose.
Fortunately, God is a Good God and there is no God before him....with my endless prayers that her heart and mind are protected while in his care... and Knowing God is greater than all those things or whatever he can come up with... she has kept her faith.. but it hasn't been without a great deal of effort. As a Christian I'm called to raise my daughter up in the Lord... one of the commandments is Honor thy father...
Do you know how hard it is to tell my daughter that regardless if it's right or wrong she is to Honor her Dad because by honoring him, she's being obedient to God.. which is far more important than what he is doing right or wrong.
Think about this. Once you marry because of a child... you are forever committed to a 50/50
That child will be HALF Christian /HALF whatever else.. it's not easy to deal with. True God is amazing and can make even things meant for evil into Good.. but why enter into something that's twice as hard to get out of in the long run, if at all.