I'm not always right but I'm rarely wrong and when I was wrong, I was not right.

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DarlinNadia

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I'm not always right but I'm rarely wrong and when I was wrong, I was not right.

Think about that a moment. Essentially, that states, I'm always right, because when I thought I was wrong, I was wrong because I'm always right.

Right. Here's the interesting part.

Prior to becoming a Christian, i could read people's intentions.. SUPER MAD SKILLS .. I could tell simply by spending time with them...

SINCE being saved, I cannot do this... It's the weirdest thing ... I went 40 years understanding and reading people quite well... and now, I realize I do not know the hearts or intentions of people anymore.

Upon realizing only God knows the hearts of man, and my prayers about trying to love people like God does... I have a difficult time successfully reading someone. It is almost as if a veil has been put over my eyes, rose colored glasses if you will.. rainbows, butterflies, bubbles... whatever.. I can't read people like I could for so many years.

I like people more than I did before... perhaps God has given me this new heart that is more accepting and less quick to draw conclusions about people.

I find myself being walked on more.. used.. and likely abused.. for my new found good nature. However, I do believe I'm where God wants me, but I do miss being able to naturally just know what people are thinking or feeling without even trying.

HAS anyone else lost the ability to read people since they've become saved? It is as if I'm less discerning and more trusting of people.. more loving... more kind.

Edit: DUH TIF, THE POINT:: The point is I'm often wrong now so the title of the thread no longer applies as it did most of my life.
 
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You are not dull, now. You are just kind and, believe me: The easier you see your intentions, the faster you´ll know other´s.

:)
 
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"HaS anyone else lost the ability to read people since they've become saved? It is as if I'm less discerning and more trusting of people.. more loving... more kind. "

Discerment can be dulled when my mind is so blind and prejudiced by my personal wants.

I haven´t lost that insight, cause I still have an old candle lit on my brain. :p
 
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DarlinNadia

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I disagree here. I know what I am trying to say but I don't think I'm saying it correctly.

Prior to being saved, I could read people... I could tell you a person's intentions and have astounding accuracy.. how? I dunno I just did.

Now, I cannot do this ... it's like that gift was taken from me. I do not make pre-suspicion of people... I let things play out prior to making decisions .. I doubt myself or my ideas more.

The more pride I lose, the less likely I am to believe I'm right.
 

Markum1972

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Interesting post.

I am sure the results vary from person to person but I will share my experience with this.

I experience the same thing that you have. However, over the years growing in Christ this discernment has not only returned but is much more accurate. Here are my thoughts on why this happened.

Before I believed on Jesus, I would discern things about people and blindly condemn people. I would enter into gossip and even become confrontational.

When I believed on him, this was stripped away as if I was a newborn child seeing things for the first time.

God has grown a compassion and love within me constantly humbling me as I have grown. He has first disciplined me before gifting me with discernment. I understand that he has done this so I will no longer condemn, but that in righteous judgment I would be able to minister edifying words of love. God will always give us the discipline by which to handle a gift before we receive it. If we fail and become unruly, we are no longer judging righteous judgment and will be humbled before being restored.

Hope this is simple and clear and brings some understanding.
 
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DarlinNadia

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Interesting post.

I am sure the results vary from person to person but I will share my experience with this.

I experience the same thing that you have. However, over the years growing in Christ this discernment has not only returned but is much more accurate. Here are my thoughts on why this happened.

Before I believed on Jesus, I would discern things about people and blindly condemn people. I would enter into gossip and even become confrontational.

When I believed on him, this was stripped away as if I was a newborn child seeing things for the first time.

God has grown a compassion and love within me constantly humbling me as I have grown. He has first disciplined me before gifting me with discernment. I understand that he has done this so I will no longer condemn, but that in righteous judgment I would be able to minister edifying words of love. God will always give us the discipline by which to handle a gift before we receive it. If we fail and become unruly, we are no longer judging righteous judgment and will be humbled before being restored.

Hope this is simple and clear and brings some understanding.

YES, I can fully get behind this explanation, although I was never into condemning people just accepting them for who they were and acting accordingly... now, I look beyond obvious signs of trouble and assume people are being put into my life to help me learn some sort of lesson and I love people more because Jesus loved people, even the obviously bad people. I'm more willing to stand in my Christian faith regarding God never letting me fall. I trust God will protect me from people and I'm less likely to avoid people like I used to in my past. Before it was all about who could benefit or help me... no my interactions have nothing to do with my benefit but instead how I can help the other person, if that makes sense. Thank you
 

Markum1972

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YES, I can fully get behind this explanation, although I was never into condemning people just accepting them for who they were and acting accordingly... now, I look beyond obvious signs of trouble and assume people are being put into my life to help me learn some sort of lesson and I love people more because Jesus loved people, even the obviously bad people. I'm more willing to stand in my Christian faith regarding God never letting me fall. I trust God will protect me from people and I'm less likely to avoid people like I used to in my past. Before it was all about who could benefit or help me... no my interactions have nothing to do with my benefit but instead how I can help the other person, if that makes sense. Thank you
Absolutely. I am glad that you pointed this out as it will speak to others that have gone through the same. We may have all had different outcomes, but we recognize that we were not using our gifts to do the work of God. Thankfully he draws us ever so closer and closer to his will as we draw closer and closer to him.
 
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DarlinNadia

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Absolutely. I am glad that you pointed this out as it will speak to others that have gone through the same. We may have all had different outcomes, but we recognize that we were not using our gifts to do the work of God. Thankfully he draws us ever so closer and closer to his will as we draw closer and closer to him.

God has told me, Tiffany YOU DON'T know the Hearts of man, I do!. it's very humbling. I think of when the serpent tempted Eve... I ponder if I had maybe a glimpse and lost it from mis-use as you've mentioned. Regardless, it's something I've been praying about.
 
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Arlene89

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I have had a similar experience.

I said this in another thread about defence mechanisms. I always wanted to be two steps in front of people, always knowing they're true intentions and constantly screening their words, tone and body language to pick up things they're words are not saying. But I did this because I was trying to protect myself, and to rely on my own strength and understandings to prevent myself from getting hurt.

Eventually, the Holy Spirit pointed this out and said I need to stop relying on myself, and rely on God to protect me and to be my safety.

Before I came to the Lord, I had men down packed. There wasn't a mind game I hadn't played, if I wanted someone, I went for it like a lioness on the hunt. Then I was saved, and I felt like a 12 year old girl again, stuttering and shy, feeling my insides do summersaults just talking to young men. I used to sell myself short, now holding someone's hand has me fidgety and nervous and is suddenly a big deal to me.

I'm still dumbfounded by what the Lord has done in my life. Experiencing it first hand, feeling Him rearrange you from the inside out, finding it strange that you barely recognise yourself anymore. It is truly awesome. To be renewed, to start again, to die to my old self and partake in a life as a child of God. Amazing.
 
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DarlinNadia

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I have had a similar experience.

I said this in another thread about defence mechanisms. I always wanted to be two steps in front of people, always knowing they're true intentions and constantly screening their words, tone and body language to pick up things they're words are not saying. But I did this because I was trying to protect myself, and to rely on my own strength and understandings to prevent myself from getting hurt.

Eventually, the Holy Spirit pointed this out and said I need to stop relying on myself, and rely on God to protect me and to be my safety.

Before I came to the Lord, I had men down packed. There wasn't a mind game I hadn't played, if I wanted someone, I went for it like a lioness on the hunt. Then I was saved, and I felt like a 12 year old girl again, stuttering and shy, feeling my insides do summersaults just talking to young men. I used to sell myself short, now holding someone's hand has me fidgety and nervous and is suddenly a big deal to me.

I'm still dumbfounded by what the Lord has done in my life. Experiencing it first hand, feeling Him rearrange you from the inside out, finding it strange that you barely recognise yourself anymore. It is truly awesome. To be renewed, to start again, to die to my old self and partake in a life as a child of God. Amazing.
You have spoken my heart so eloquently
 
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I have had a similar experience.

I said this in another thread about defence mechanisms. I always wanted to be two steps in front of people, always knowing they're true intentions and constantly screening their words, tone and body language to pick up things they're words are not saying. But I did this because I was trying to protect myself, and to rely on my own strength and understandings to prevent myself from getting hurt.

Eventually, the Holy Spirit pointed this out and said I need to stop relying on myself, and rely on God to protect me and to be my safety.
Thank you for sharing this Arlene. I was always the opposite, and still am to a lesser degree. Very naive and trusting of others, face value, etc. However, over the last several years I've found that God has protected me so many times from situations that could have been bad, without me even realizing it until later. I've said more than once, "Wow God, thanks, that was a close one!".
 
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ji

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I'm not always right but I'm rarely wrong and when I was wrong, I was not right.

Think about that a moment. Essentially, that states, I'm always right, because when I thought I was wrong, I was wrong because I'm always right.

Right. Here's the interesting part.

Prior to becoming a Christian, i could read people's intentions.. SUPER MAD SKILLS .. I could tell simply by spending time with them...

SINCE being saved, I cannot do this... It's the weirdest thing ... I went 40 years understanding and reading people quite well... and now, I realize I do not know the hearts or intentions of people anymore.

Upon realizing only God knows the hearts of man, and my prayers about trying to love people like God does... I have a difficult time successfully reading someone. It is almost as if a veil has been put over my eyes, rose colored glasses if you will.. rainbows, butterflies, bubbles... whatever.. I can't read people like I could for so many years.

I like people more than I did before... perhaps God has given me this new heart that is more accepting and less quick to draw conclusions about people.

I find myself being walked on more.. used.. and likely abused.. for my new found good nature. However, I do believe I'm where God wants me, but I do miss being able to naturally just know what people are thinking or feeling without even trying.

HAS anyone else lost the ability to read people since they've become saved? It is as if I'm less discerning and more trusting of people.. more loving... more kind.

Edit: DUH TIF, THE POINT:: The point is I'm often wrong now so the title of the thread no longer applies as it did most of my life.
you have the symptoms of getting Changed and transformed' by the cancer called Love of God.
So as a new creature you are shedding the old ways away.

"I find myself being walked on more.. used.. and likely abused.. for my new found good nature. However, I do believe I'm where God wants me, but I do miss being able to naturally just know what people are thinking or feeling without even trying."
that's what makes a Christian...Pray more to become Strong there,i found Deliverance thought that(from my bondage).
Now God is Leading and i am Breathing Freedom more and more without much Struggles...When God takes away the shackles,its like a caged bird going free...

This is the Right Path.
God Bless.