Would you marry someone who was DYING?

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Alliekate

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Would you marry someone that was dying? Or would it be too much trouble? I'm dying and i dont seem to think that love will ever come to me again. I've literally been abandoned.. .
 
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waterlily

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Love is love.. no matter the cost.

I did..
 

Pipp

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Of course I would . If I felt he was the right person I would in a heartbeat.
 
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If I felt God was leading me to do so, then yes, I would. My dad's first wife was a woman who was terminally ill. They loved one another deeply, and she was the one who led him to Christ. He married her knowing full well what he was getting into, and he loved her, provided for her, and cherished her until she passed away. Despite the heartache of losing her physically, he has always said that he has no regrets. For a few months, he got to share life and love with a godly woman. It was a blessing.
 
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ji

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Would you marry someone that was dying? Or would it be too much trouble? I'm dying and i dont seem to think that love will ever come to me again. I've literally been abandoned.. .
i love you,....and i think you are a much stronger person than me because the courage to share things like this,so i don't think a coward like me can be of much help,to tell the Truth Jesus is Our Strength,be it short life or a life full of miseries for so many years.

"[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]The days of our years are threescore years and ten; and if by reason of strength they be fourscore years, yet is their strength labour and sorrow; for it is soon cut off, and we fly away."
[/FONT]-Psalms 90:10 KJV

i have lost people in my life,went through terrible loneliness,tried to end life got lifted up from it by the Spirit of Lord God with Love when no one could calm me and they they all kept their distance and stared at me like the Psalmist says.But through all this i Realize,day is coming and fast approaching when those who make fun of calamity striken people will be put to shame and we will rise up on Eagles wings to Heaven.

i hope you're a Christian,..Otherwise Accept Him as Personal Savior and Lord God.There is no better thing to do in life than making such a beautiful choice.He will Never Forsake.
And i also feel you,even if i got time ahead more in loneliness or not.
i don't sympathize with people in grief,but i share your pain:)

God Bless:)
Prayer Has Power:)

 
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ji

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If I felt God was leading me to do so, then yes, I would. My dad's first wife was a woman who was terminally ill. They loved one another deeply, and she was the one who led him to Christ. He married her knowing full well what he was getting into, and he loved her, provided for her, and cherished her until she passed away. Despite the heartache of losing her physically, he has always said that he has no regrets. For a few months, he got to share life and love with a godly woman. It was a blessing.
your father was a real man:)
Thanks for Sharing.
 
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Donkeyfish07

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I would in a heartbeat. You never know how much time you have with someone anyway. A guy who marries a woman who has been given 6 months to live by a doctor.....and a guy who marries a woman that is in perfect health. Its perfectly possible the first guy gets more time with his wife than the second, we never know when we are going to go
 

cinder

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I don't know. It would be a costly proposition, but I don't consider it unthinkable. What I am sure of is that if I had a friend I cared about enough to even consider marrying, and they found out they were dying, I would be there for them as much as I could and wouldn't just run off and let them face death alone.
 
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TaylorTG

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Would you marry someone that was dying? Or would it be too much trouble? I'm dying and i dont seem to think that love will ever come to me again. I've literally been abandoned.. .
Sure, I'll marry you. [...Edit...] but you'll decent enough.
 
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garet82

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love is a gift and if we love some one it should be unconditional love :) love him for good n bad time, thats love for my opinion :)
 
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DarlinNadia

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We are all dying. The length of time we are to live on this earth is something God knows. I've also been abandoned. I have not been given a terminal date... but I do not think having or not having one would change my marriage chances. The problem with Loneliness is that when you are surrounded by it... no matter what efforts you or I try to do to change it, it feels hopeless... This is why it's so important to keep yourself focused on God and let him provide the peace for your heart. Easier said than done I know :( His Blessings cannot be counted when you focus on his love.
 

Markum1972

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The fact that a person is dying should not change a person's love for them. Not only would I still marry them, but I would probably do so more speedily so we could enjoy every moment possible as husband and wife. Unfortunately, the person that is terminally ill usually does not see things the same. I know this from experience. The person that is ill usually gets depressed, feels like a burden, and thinks that anything done is out of an act of pity.
I wouldn't marry someone out of pity. I have been in the situation I mentioned above and sincerely just wanted to be with her. She reacted as I mentioned above though and instead isolated herself and stayed away. She finally admitted that she was just trying to spare me the pain of getting even closer and then losing her.
 
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I will marry one who is dying since everyday we are dying, in fact. There was a time I planned to marry a blind or a deaf, but I found some troubles when I´ve found myself blind to be seen or heard and too mute to talk to deaf people (I dont know sign language and, sometimes, often, Im talky).

:)
 

Desdichado

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I would err on the side of caution and not marry someone who is expected to die imminently.

Being abandoned, no matter what the cause, is too hard to take.
 
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Abandonement is not for the sake of it, itself, but from the lack of being really liked or accepted the way we are. Love, in the other hand, cannot be pushed or hurried to be as it is or could be.

I wish you find that way you think you deserve but, as far as I can see, that is not a reason to leave a person behind and, of course, there are reasons to leave persons and things, also. ;)
 
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UpstateNYChristianBro

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I will marry one who is dying since everyday we are dying, in fact. There was a time I planned to marry a blind or a deaf, but I found some troubles when I´ve found myself blind to be seen or heard and too mute to talk to deaf people (I dont know sign language and, sometimes, often, Im talky).

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That is understood. I am Deaf myself however, I had hard time with some Deaf people as well! Why? My personality and how I was raised. I am actually a "Hearing" person trapped in a Deaf person body. I hardly hang out with Deaf people. Only ONE Deaf man only ONE day this year I talked to in person! And it is already ending of April.

There are two things to make this successful as I learned. You have to set yourself lower if you really love that Deaf person or Blind (please note I capitalized because Deaf people prefer to be recognized as a nation of their own. Like "American", "Native American" and, "Asian", etc.) person, you can be more successful however it is much hard work the same way if you are blind.

Second of all, you have to have patience and learn sign language or a language that person uses. Even with a person dying with an illness or even mental, social, or development health issue, you need to be able to communicate to meet with that person's needs. For example, if one has Asperger's, you need to be able to communicate their language to make it ease and without any "insulting" because of that Autism Spectrum has a little so called, "Anti-Social" but they are able to communicate.
It takes a lot of guts to do so. There is another issue. Say if a person looks fine and married someone but when that spouse becomes so ill or has developed a health issue such as hearing loss, depression, etc, you need to make a huge adjustment to adopt that because this the vow you took when you get marry! "...For richer or poorer, for health or sickness." I would do so.
There are more issues that can be faced such as when a child dies long prior parents' death that the child is supposed to bury the parents, not other way around, communication is very important to keep marriage working. It is a sad fact that 90 percent of marriages (that includes Christians too) fail because of this situation.

By this means, you have to be extremely strong person prior you accepting that relationship. I am that way since people tells me I am strong person. They are correct because I used to be engaged to someone who was dying with Sickle Cell Anemia and we were planning to marry and the problem was that it was different issue, not health. I was fine with that and was on her side in the hospital every 3 months (her stay is about a month in length each time). Well, we broke up because I was having hard time finding a job in a very populated Latino City of Miami (not in Little Cuba though) and they were focusing on hiring Latinos and Latinas). Anyway, because of this, we broke up). This one she COULD NOT handle my hard time with finding work in 2002. I moved everything down there to live there and had to move back home.

So you need to be strong. And communicate well with someone even who is dying. To answer the person who started this topic, yes, I would marry in a flash to make her happy when she is dying.
 
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ww_21

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I would. If I loved them.