How do I become friends with a girl without her thinking that I like her?

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May 4, 2009
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I'm just wondering since I think I'm finally getting close to having a friend that's a girl in real life(Praise God for this, since it's freaking miracle in my case.) I'm just wondering how I should go about talking to her and stuff where I can become a good to best friend without making her think I like her. I don't want to lead her on or anything like that.
 
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Well, in order to lead her on, she would have to have a romantic interest in you which you can guage by how she acts around you. If that initial spark isn't there, then you don't really need to worry about leading her on because she probably wants to be friends. Something that I've found works great is going to lunch together, or doing activities in groups (bowling, movies, etc). Watch your own space, keep a comfortable space between the two of you.

Edit - Good luck!
 
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Well we do goto the same Bible study. Which actually where I first met her.
 
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Dot, you are anticipating. sounds like you are setting yourself up to crash and burn
 
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Just keep going to Bible Study with her and eventually it'll advance as it will. I really think friendship is an involuntary reflex. It just happens. Try meeting up for food before/after Bible Study, and just hang out.
 
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Maddog

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Huh? I think it goes without saying that friends like each other; that's why they're friends. Why would you want to be friends with someone you didn't like?
 
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Huh? I think it goes without saying that friends like each other; that's why they're friends. Why would you want to be friends with someone you didn't like?
I'm meant that I don't her to think I'm coming on to her like I want her to be my girlfriend.
 
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tryingtofindhim

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I'm just wondering since I think I'm finally getting close to having a friend that's a girl in real life(Praise God for this, since it's freaking miracle in my case.) I'm just wondering how I should go about talking to her and stuff where I can become a good to best friend without making her think I like her. I don't want to lead her on or anything like that.
Just listen to her. Be excited about what she's talking about. Coming from a girl unless a guy showers me with gifts its hard to tell niceness from liking me.
 

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Just be a friend and don't say anything that would lead her on. Whatever she implies from you being a friend is up to her. Just don't be suspicious basically :p
 
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Just be a friend and don't say anything that would lead her on. Whatever she implies from you being a friend is up to her. Just don't be suspicious basically :p
So then trying to make out with her would be a bad idea then. :p
 

DinoDillinger

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I have this odd feeling that you don't want her to think you like her even though you do infact like her. That your just scared that you will scare her off.
 
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Hey, I apologize for my English! I'm Spanish! ok..answering to your post. I don't have any advice to give, I'm really bad at it. I will just tell you my experience with boys.. every time I think I have a (boy)friend, it turns out that he likes me and wants more than a friendship, and when I tell him I don't feel the same, he just stops talking to me as he has never be my friend. That really hurts. So I would love to have a friend like you that just wants to be my friend. Let God be the center of this friendship and be honest with her, that always works and she will appreciate that! (sorry that was an advice)
God bless you all!
 
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guys and girls can't just be friends unless the girl is bigger and tougher than the guy then it works quite well. I mean think about it, which guy in their right mind (unless they're a pansy) wants to hang out with girls, and talk about makeup and things like this, not to mention be bombarded every second sentence with poor grammar such as "like" and "so" and other overused words.
 
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I'm just wondering since I think I'm finally getting close to having a friend that's a girl in real life(Praise God for this, since it's freaking miracle in my case.) I'm just wondering how I should go about talking to her and stuff where I can become a good to best friend without making her think I like her. I don't want to lead her on or anything like that.

you dont necessarily have to talk to her.. You can write stuff on cardboard, and assuming she can read, you can just hold it up and she'll get the jist of it. Or you could draw pictures.

If you dont want her to think you like her, then i suggest you ignore her, and when she talks to you, tell her shes FAT! That way she wont think you like her at all... its a good plan
 
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you dont necessarily have to talk to her.. You can write stuff on cardboard, and assuming she can read, you can just hold it up and she'll get the jist of it. Or you could draw pictures.

If you dont want her to think you like her, then i suggest you ignore her, and when she talks to you, tell her shes FAT! That way she wont think you like her at all... its a good plan
Hahahahaha
 
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As decribed by a friend...

yes u did, you tried giving her a hug. which i told you she's NOT ready for. i remember telling you how i tried giving her a hug and she didnt give me one back cuz shes not comfortable with that. so if ur trying to start a relationship with her (which you will probably deny) its not gonna happen. shes not ready for anything of that nature yet and neither are you.
 
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FirePanther

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Lol in my opinion you should just go naturally to her.