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Dear future wife!
I don´t have too much time to tell you that you will be missed up. I had some plans, I spent too much time daydreaming, but I realized the best time to marry youwas when I was a single man, when you were virgin and childless (a thing I am not).
Now that I know the ugly man I am, those things I have done trying to please the emptyness of my life I have made the decision of leaving you alone, all alone, since times are getting short and there a glimpse a sordid life I cannot reach by click on this screen, less in the mourning of your life.
I have tried my best, but I keep on seen the same. No matter how I tried, there are some rules I don´t wnat to follow and, at your age and mine, I have no interest in troubleshooting your problems, because that´s all I´ve been doing largely, my entire life.
I set you free.
I want you to be free.
Since my time has come and, as long as I can, I´ve planned to live for my children, for those I know I love and, the reason I wanted you to marry me was sex, and all these things are passing by, at last.
I wish I could run! but there´s no way to hide or escape.
Signs: Lust
I don´t have too much time to tell you that you will be missed up. I had some plans, I spent too much time daydreaming, but I realized the best time to marry youwas when I was a single man, when you were virgin and childless (a thing I am not).
Now that I know the ugly man I am, those things I have done trying to please the emptyness of my life I have made the decision of leaving you alone, all alone, since times are getting short and there a glimpse a sordid life I cannot reach by click on this screen, less in the mourning of your life.
I have tried my best, but I keep on seen the same. No matter how I tried, there are some rules I don´t wnat to follow and, at your age and mine, I have no interest in troubleshooting your problems, because that´s all I´ve been doing largely, my entire life.
I set you free.
I want you to be free.
Since my time has come and, as long as I can, I´ve planned to live for my children, for those I know I love and, the reason I wanted you to marry me was sex, and all these things are passing by, at last.
I wish I could run! but there´s no way to hide or escape.
Signs: Lust
Woman,
I don't know who you are as of yet, nor do I know God's plan, but I hope that he finds you a decent husband for you and a decent father for your child(ren). I can only hope that he will provide for you. Honor you. Protect you. Pray for you. Feed you. Push you. Tease you. Make you laugh. Make you cry. Make you wonder. Surprise you. Kiss you. Dance with you. Sing for you. Tolerate you. Adore you. Cuddle with you. Adapt for you. Adapt with you. To lift you when you fall. To laugh at you when you fall. To house you. To clean you. To walk with you. To talk with you. To drive you crazy. To frustrate you only because he's a man. To try for you. To fail for you. To succeed for you. To bake you a cake. etc, etc, etc... To be all that he is, to do all that he can, for you. You know? To love you.
P.S. You don't have to make him a sandwich. Buying one from a shop is just as good.
I don't know who you are as of yet, nor do I know God's plan, but I hope that he finds you a decent husband for you and a decent father for your child(ren). I can only hope that he will provide for you. Honor you. Protect you. Pray for you. Feed you. Push you. Tease you. Make you laugh. Make you cry. Make you wonder. Surprise you. Kiss you. Dance with you. Sing for you. Tolerate you. Adore you. Cuddle with you. Adapt for you. Adapt with you. To lift you when you fall. To laugh at you when you fall. To house you. To clean you. To walk with you. To talk with you. To drive you crazy. To frustrate you only because he's a man. To try for you. To fail for you. To succeed for you. To bake you a cake. etc, etc, etc... To be all that he is, to do all that he can, for you. You know? To love you.
P.S. You don't have to make him a sandwich. Buying one from a shop is just as good.
I liked the sandwich part - I'm thinking Subway myself.
My Fair Princess
O simple Princess will we ever meet?
Or are we fated forever to be on the other side of the street?
By my side as a Queen I shall reserve your seat
And I will only have one woman for I am not a cheat
A promise I swear forever by the thunder of my heartbeat
Surely thou art a honeyed soul made by God golden sweet
And if I find you not, do not succumb to defeat
Thou art not a tare thou art a wholesome grain of wheat
Though the wicked seek to devour thee thy soul they shall never eat
Paupers to the world, but loyal to God we become elite
Like a candle in the cold I shall seek your heat
O fairest Princess shall we ever meet?
O simple Princess will we ever meet?
Or are we fated forever to be on the other side of the street?
By my side as a Queen I shall reserve your seat
And I will only have one woman for I am not a cheat
A promise I swear forever by the thunder of my heartbeat
Surely thou art a honeyed soul made by God golden sweet
And if I find you not, do not succumb to defeat
Thou art not a tare thou art a wholesome grain of wheat
Though the wicked seek to devour thee thy soul they shall never eat
Paupers to the world, but loyal to God we become elite
Like a candle in the cold I shall seek your heat
O fairest Princess shall we ever meet?
Well alright, guess I'll play.
Dear best friend and companion I'll ever have,
I'm starting to think I'm getting close to ready to meet you. Sorry if it's taken me a while but I assure you I have not been idle and I have some great stories to tell. You've probably been through quite a bit of life yourself, but whatever your past let me assure you that I won't consider myself to have settled for second best when I marry you. All will be forgiven before I say I do or else I won't say it. If you have walked in purity, I'll consider myself one of the most blessed women on earth and I look forward to helping each other discover what intimacy is and means. If you haven't walked in purity, start again and recommit yourself to it. I have every intention of being worth it and of staying pure for you. Pursue the Lord with all your heart and let him conform you to the image of Christ. That doesn't mean burn yourself out in church activities, but it does mean that the resolve, quiet strength, and gentle love of the Lord should be evident in your life. Be a man of integrity, principle, and high standards, a man who never compromises on the truth, but be the kind of man who will show mercy and kindness to those who are hurting, even if it is their own stupid fault.
So here's the stuff that you really should know up front. I want you to get in my face when I need it, and even if I get all defensive when you do, I am listening and I will love, respect, and value you more for it in the end. I will rarely volunteer information, but if you ask me a direct question I will give you an honest answer, always. You'll win my heart forever if you learn the art of serving me without making me feel needy or incapable ( start by phrasing your questions "Would it help you out / make it easier for you if I…." instead of anything using the word need). I'm fiercely independent so you'll probably have to fight me on this some, but I am getting better about it and do appreciate it. Oh and the other thing I should tell you is that I have a delayed freak out reaction. You can say something you think will really upset me, I will appear to have no reaction and discuss it perfectly calmly and rationally. 12-24 hours later I may be nearing an internal emotional meltdown, but you will only know if you ask or if I hit the point where I unload all my fears and emotions on you in writing ( in which case reassurance that my worst case scenario is not true and that things aren't as bad as I think they are is most helpful).
Here's what I'm going to appreciate about you most. You're going to be the kind of person who gets me out and about and involved with other people. Even though I agree with the idea that God wants his people out and interacting with the world to bring life and healing, if left to my own devices, I will keep my world small and comfortable. I need you to keep me from doing that. You're going to help me realize that it is ok to treat myself. Though I'll freely give gifts to others, I have a hard time justifying doing anything nice for myself so you're going to have to take charge of that. And I'm going to appreciate your strength. You will be my shield. When I'm around you I'll be able to completely let my guard down and be vulnerable and trusting. In some ways that's still a little scary, but in others it sounds like a little piece of heaven on earth.
Anyway, there is certainly more about me to discover, but I guess you have the rest of your life to enjoy that adventure. I love you and I am glad to be yours, now and always, - me
Dear best friend and companion I'll ever have,
I'm starting to think I'm getting close to ready to meet you. Sorry if it's taken me a while but I assure you I have not been idle and I have some great stories to tell. You've probably been through quite a bit of life yourself, but whatever your past let me assure you that I won't consider myself to have settled for second best when I marry you. All will be forgiven before I say I do or else I won't say it. If you have walked in purity, I'll consider myself one of the most blessed women on earth and I look forward to helping each other discover what intimacy is and means. If you haven't walked in purity, start again and recommit yourself to it. I have every intention of being worth it and of staying pure for you. Pursue the Lord with all your heart and let him conform you to the image of Christ. That doesn't mean burn yourself out in church activities, but it does mean that the resolve, quiet strength, and gentle love of the Lord should be evident in your life. Be a man of integrity, principle, and high standards, a man who never compromises on the truth, but be the kind of man who will show mercy and kindness to those who are hurting, even if it is their own stupid fault.
So here's the stuff that you really should know up front. I want you to get in my face when I need it, and even if I get all defensive when you do, I am listening and I will love, respect, and value you more for it in the end. I will rarely volunteer information, but if you ask me a direct question I will give you an honest answer, always. You'll win my heart forever if you learn the art of serving me without making me feel needy or incapable ( start by phrasing your questions "Would it help you out / make it easier for you if I…." instead of anything using the word need). I'm fiercely independent so you'll probably have to fight me on this some, but I am getting better about it and do appreciate it. Oh and the other thing I should tell you is that I have a delayed freak out reaction. You can say something you think will really upset me, I will appear to have no reaction and discuss it perfectly calmly and rationally. 12-24 hours later I may be nearing an internal emotional meltdown, but you will only know if you ask or if I hit the point where I unload all my fears and emotions on you in writing ( in which case reassurance that my worst case scenario is not true and that things aren't as bad as I think they are is most helpful).
Here's what I'm going to appreciate about you most. You're going to be the kind of person who gets me out and about and involved with other people. Even though I agree with the idea that God wants his people out and interacting with the world to bring life and healing, if left to my own devices, I will keep my world small and comfortable. I need you to keep me from doing that. You're going to help me realize that it is ok to treat myself. Though I'll freely give gifts to others, I have a hard time justifying doing anything nice for myself so you're going to have to take charge of that. And I'm going to appreciate your strength. You will be my shield. When I'm around you I'll be able to completely let my guard down and be vulnerable and trusting. In some ways that's still a little scary, but in others it sounds like a little piece of heaven on earth.
Anyway, there is certainly more about me to discover, but I guess you have the rest of your life to enjoy that adventure. I love you and I am glad to be yours, now and always, - me
D
Dear Future Wife,
I don't know how you tricked me into this, but props! I'm just writing to let you know that when you get mad at me, I'm probably doing it on purpose because I think your cute when your mad. Random back scratches always make me happy FYI and when it comes to the dishes.....how about we just play chicken. Whoever can stand to let them pile up the longest wins. We could do the same thing with the trash but you know I'll win that one, so I won't use my nostricital fortitude and ability to smell rotten banana's for weeks on end effortlessly against you.
Sincerely, DF
I don't know how you tricked me into this, but props! I'm just writing to let you know that when you get mad at me, I'm probably doing it on purpose because I think your cute when your mad. Random back scratches always make me happy FYI and when it comes to the dishes.....how about we just play chicken. Whoever can stand to let them pile up the longest wins. We could do the same thing with the trash but you know I'll win that one, so I won't use my nostricital fortitude and ability to smell rotten banana's for weeks on end effortlessly against you.
Sincerely, DF
Dear Future Husband,
I've loved you long before we even met, because I knew that God had the right person for me all along. I'm not perfect but I will always be there for you. I've had so many struggles in life and I just want you to know that its only made me stronger, so anything we go through together we can overcome together. If we decide to have children, we must raise them in the way that the lord wants us to because I didn't have that and I want them to. Work out with me, watch football with me and have fun with me and we will always be
Love, your future Wife
I've loved you long before we even met, because I knew that God had the right person for me all along. I'm not perfect but I will always be there for you. I've had so many struggles in life and I just want you to know that its only made me stronger, so anything we go through together we can overcome together. If we decide to have children, we must raise them in the way that the lord wants us to because I didn't have that and I want them to. Work out with me, watch football with me and have fun with me and we will always be
Love, your future Wife
Is Cinder short for Cinderella?
I found the opening of your letter profound in that everyone has a story of the events that played a part in defining the person that they now are. That is Part One. The future that we will all eventually experience is Part Two.
My world is small, but not very comfortable. If I were left to my own devices too I would implode but God understands my heart and will outline the future for me if I give Him half a chance.
It is not good to be alone, Cinder.
I found the opening of your letter profound in that everyone has a story of the events that played a part in defining the person that they now are. That is Part One. The future that we will all eventually experience is Part Two.
My world is small, but not very comfortable. If I were left to my own devices too I would implode but God understands my heart and will outline the future for me if I give Him half a chance.
It is not good to be alone, Cinder.
Cinder is partly derived from Cinderella many years ago when I was a teenager who thought my wonderful parents were the most unreasonable people in the world because they made me do chores and stuff. It became my online identity when I was first starting to get into internet stuff then and has now been revived for my new forays into internetdom.
My extremely pedantic side is going to point out that God only said " it is not good for the man to be alone" and I'm a woman, but before this turns into a Bible argument discussion I will say that there are valid points that can be made that a woman shouldn't be alone either. I have a personality that can only take social interaction in small doses, but I am learning that I do have a minimum healthy requirement of social interaction as well.
Thanks for your kind words tourist and I too am looking forward to "that future that we will all eventually experience" which is heaven. See you there.
My extremely pedantic side is going to point out that God only said " it is not good for the man to be alone" and I'm a woman, but before this turns into a Bible argument discussion I will say that there are valid points that can be made that a woman shouldn't be alone either. I have a personality that can only take social interaction in small doses, but I am learning that I do have a minimum healthy requirement of social interaction as well.
Thanks for your kind words tourist and I too am looking forward to "that future that we will all eventually experience" which is heaven. See you there.
