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Dear future husband,
This is my message to you.
Because loneliness
Which never smiles
Becomes a habit
And not a choice you made
Life can surprise you
In every little way
And where you don’t imagine
You can meet happiness
And I’ m here with you
And I won’t leave you
I’m asking you to stay here
And spend your time with me
and spend your time with me
Yes, now its you
In my dreams and plans
And in my fantasies
You, who’s close to me
so close to me
Who’s part of me
so inside of you
Like a feeling
You’re the words and the music
For a new song
Because loneliness
Won’t take away again
The desire to smile
not now…
And happiness
if you’re there…
For what you are
and you know…
For what you give me
and you too…
For a simple kind of love
But deeper than ever before - english translation of L'abitudine (andrea bocelli with helena)
Some people want it all
But I don't want nothing at all
If it ain't you, baby
If I ain't got you, baby
Some people want diamond rings
Some just want everything
But everything means nothing
If I ain't got you- alicia keys
Yours,
Tinkerbell
This is my message to you.
Because loneliness
Which never smiles
Becomes a habit
And not a choice you made
Life can surprise you
In every little way
And where you don’t imagine
You can meet happiness
And I’ m here with you
And I won’t leave you
I’m asking you to stay here
And spend your time with me
and spend your time with me
Yes, now its you
In my dreams and plans
And in my fantasies
You, who’s close to me
so close to me
Who’s part of me
so inside of you
Like a feeling
You’re the words and the music
For a new song
Because loneliness
Won’t take away again
The desire to smile
not now…
And happiness
if you’re there…
For what you are
and you know…
For what you give me
and you too…
For a simple kind of love
But deeper than ever before - english translation of L'abitudine (andrea bocelli with helena)
Some people want it all
But I don't want nothing at all
If it ain't you, baby
If I ain't got you, baby
Some people want diamond rings
Some just want everything
But everything means nothing
If I ain't got you- alicia keys
Yours,
Tinkerbell
My Darling, whomever you may be,
*presses hand against glass*
How I've longed for you all the days of my life...! I miss you terribly, though we've never met, and I look forward to learning each and every little thing about you! Everything I Have and everything I am are yours for the taking if you'd but give yourself to me in return. I realize the measure of this request, but I believe in you. I'm sure, with God's help, we'll be up to the task, and anything that may come our way for that matter.
I'm terribly sorry, sweetheart, but it has taken me a long and perilous journey to find you. I may be a bit more scarred and scared than you dreamed, but believe in me...have faith in me....trust and hope in me...as I do in you, and I promise that no dream will compare to the reality we can create together! The best part is, we're not alone... God has been with us from the start! He's with us as we're apart, and will be there when we meet. He'll always be there for everything, as will I to the degree and grace of time we're granted.
You, my dearest, are the greatest treasure (other than Himself, of course) that God has ever given me. I had thought this day would never come, and though my heart grew so broken and weary... God has brought me through. And where should he bring me through but to you of people and our first meeting of all places?! Amazing really...when you think about it. ^_^
So, my love, this letter cannot contain nor my words express the meditations of my heart, but my hope is that some small peice of me could reach you nonetheless. You are beautiful, talented, intelligent, radiant, graceful, blessed, and far more than I could think of to admire and adore with lavish words and caring acts. I'll always find you, my darling. I'll always love you my dear. Please say you'll still sing with me, and my our hearts ever draw near.
With all the peices of my heart, and truly yours,
Reece
*presses hand against glass*
How I've longed for you all the days of my life...! I miss you terribly, though we've never met, and I look forward to learning each and every little thing about you! Everything I Have and everything I am are yours for the taking if you'd but give yourself to me in return. I realize the measure of this request, but I believe in you. I'm sure, with God's help, we'll be up to the task, and anything that may come our way for that matter.
I'm terribly sorry, sweetheart, but it has taken me a long and perilous journey to find you. I may be a bit more scarred and scared than you dreamed, but believe in me...have faith in me....trust and hope in me...as I do in you, and I promise that no dream will compare to the reality we can create together! The best part is, we're not alone... God has been with us from the start! He's with us as we're apart, and will be there when we meet. He'll always be there for everything, as will I to the degree and grace of time we're granted.
You, my dearest, are the greatest treasure (other than Himself, of course) that God has ever given me. I had thought this day would never come, and though my heart grew so broken and weary... God has brought me through. And where should he bring me through but to you of people and our first meeting of all places?! Amazing really...when you think about it. ^_^
So, my love, this letter cannot contain nor my words express the meditations of my heart, but my hope is that some small peice of me could reach you nonetheless. You are beautiful, talented, intelligent, radiant, graceful, blessed, and far more than I could think of to admire and adore with lavish words and caring acts. I'll always find you, my darling. I'll always love you my dear. Please say you'll still sing with me, and my our hearts ever draw near.
With all the peices of my heart, and truly yours,
Reece
G
“Dear future husband,
Hey. How are you? I just wanted to write to you to tell you that I am waiting for you. I’m waiting for you because I already love you. I’m waiting for you now and I will continue waiting for you until the day that God chooses to cross our paths.
I know that life can be hard and you might be tempted to despair or settle for relationships or situations that will not bring you true happiness or joy. But through all of this I just want you to know that I am also praying for you. Even though we may not have met yet, you are not alone in this. I know how you feel.
I wanted to say I’m sorry in advanced. I am sorry that I didn’t wait for you to be my first. I look back now with regret that I can’t share that moment with you like I hope I would. Forgive me. God has forgiven me and I am working on forgiving myself so I hope you can forgive me. So I know how easy it seems to just hook up with someone or use someone to fill in the loneliness that you feel in your heart. I know how tough it can be to say no to impurity. From now on I have chosen to be pure for you. I know some people don’t believe in second time virgin, and even though I can’t be physically I believe it spiritually. So Just know that every time I feel this way, I think of you. I offer up this loneliness I feel in hopes that it will bring you some consolation on your journey. If you’re reading this, I hope you will do the same for me, whether you have given it up already or you have stayed pure. If you have stayed pure for me as your future wife, I am so grateful and I can’t tell you how many times I’ve cried wishing I could do the same. If you haven’t I hope you choose the same to sustain from sex again, for me.
I hope you think of me when life gets hard. I hope you pray for me like I do for you, and just as much as I want you to wait for me, I don’t want you to wait for me. I want you to live your life to the fullest. I hope you take every opportunity to grow as a person and fall in love with God.I want you to do this because this is what I’ll be doing with my life until the time comes when I can do it together with you. I am not going to sit around waiting for you to come sweep me off of my feet. I am going to live a life that allows me to be the best person I can be and grow to be in a place where I can love you as much as I possibly can when the time comes.
Whenever it is going to be that I can share my life with you, I want to give you all of my past experiences as a part of my gift of self … and I want it to be a great gift.
So please, Get out there and experience this beautiful gift of life that you have been given! Ill meet you somewhere along the way. So if you see me in a coffee shop or in a chapel, don’t be afraid to say hi (If in a chapel, let me pray first … I might be praying for you). Eventually we’ll get to catch up on everything that has happened since the last time our souls met.
I want you to know in advance, I have insecurities. I get mad easily, and I can be a little selfish. I hope that when the day comes for us to meet God has changed this in me. God is working on those things in me for you. I have trust issues due to my past. I know God has chosen you for me because you already know these things. I just wanted to be honest about them, so when you do come into my life I am not afraid to share these things with you. So I am not afraid to tell you what I’ve been through.
I also want you to know I pray for our careers, and our future life, where we are financially stable and have kids and are involved in a church. I pray that you grow in Christ every day that you can be apart and lead a men’s ministry. I pray that you also grow and learn from your young ages to lead young men while I help lead young women in the youth ministry. I pray that God is working in you and setting these plans in you like he is in me. I pray that you don’t get in over your head in work. As well as you work hard for your dreams. I want you to know I pray for our future kids, if God’s will we have any. I pray that they are healthy, that you shower them with love. I know that you will be a great dad. I pray that they grow in Christ and you lead our household.
My Vows to you before we meet:
I vow to from now on substain from sexual relations with anyone unless until we are married.
I vow to pray for you.
I vow to grow in Christ everyday to be the Godly wife you and God want me to be.
I vow that I will live my life to the fullest and be positive so I can share these experiances with you when we finally cross
paths.
My vows to you when we do meet:
I vow I will not provoke or tempt you in any sexual way, with the way I dress, with the way I talk, and with what we do.
I vow that I will respect you.
I vow that I will listen to you.
I vow that I will support your walk with God.
I vow that I will always remember that God comes first.
I vow that I remember to keep God first.
I vow to remember that we are only dating and that everything happens on God’s time and I will not rush it.
I vow that I will trust you.
I’ll be seeing you around.
Love,
Me.
Hey. How are you? I just wanted to write to you to tell you that I am waiting for you. I’m waiting for you because I already love you. I’m waiting for you now and I will continue waiting for you until the day that God chooses to cross our paths.
I know that life can be hard and you might be tempted to despair or settle for relationships or situations that will not bring you true happiness or joy. But through all of this I just want you to know that I am also praying for you. Even though we may not have met yet, you are not alone in this. I know how you feel.
I wanted to say I’m sorry in advanced. I am sorry that I didn’t wait for you to be my first. I look back now with regret that I can’t share that moment with you like I hope I would. Forgive me. God has forgiven me and I am working on forgiving myself so I hope you can forgive me. So I know how easy it seems to just hook up with someone or use someone to fill in the loneliness that you feel in your heart. I know how tough it can be to say no to impurity. From now on I have chosen to be pure for you. I know some people don’t believe in second time virgin, and even though I can’t be physically I believe it spiritually. So Just know that every time I feel this way, I think of you. I offer up this loneliness I feel in hopes that it will bring you some consolation on your journey. If you’re reading this, I hope you will do the same for me, whether you have given it up already or you have stayed pure. If you have stayed pure for me as your future wife, I am so grateful and I can’t tell you how many times I’ve cried wishing I could do the same. If you haven’t I hope you choose the same to sustain from sex again, for me.
I hope you think of me when life gets hard. I hope you pray for me like I do for you, and just as much as I want you to wait for me, I don’t want you to wait for me. I want you to live your life to the fullest. I hope you take every opportunity to grow as a person and fall in love with God.I want you to do this because this is what I’ll be doing with my life until the time comes when I can do it together with you. I am not going to sit around waiting for you to come sweep me off of my feet. I am going to live a life that allows me to be the best person I can be and grow to be in a place where I can love you as much as I possibly can when the time comes.
Whenever it is going to be that I can share my life with you, I want to give you all of my past experiences as a part of my gift of self … and I want it to be a great gift.
So please, Get out there and experience this beautiful gift of life that you have been given! Ill meet you somewhere along the way. So if you see me in a coffee shop or in a chapel, don’t be afraid to say hi (If in a chapel, let me pray first … I might be praying for you). Eventually we’ll get to catch up on everything that has happened since the last time our souls met.
I want you to know in advance, I have insecurities. I get mad easily, and I can be a little selfish. I hope that when the day comes for us to meet God has changed this in me. God is working on those things in me for you. I have trust issues due to my past. I know God has chosen you for me because you already know these things. I just wanted to be honest about them, so when you do come into my life I am not afraid to share these things with you. So I am not afraid to tell you what I’ve been through.
I also want you to know I pray for our careers, and our future life, where we are financially stable and have kids and are involved in a church. I pray that you grow in Christ every day that you can be apart and lead a men’s ministry. I pray that you also grow and learn from your young ages to lead young men while I help lead young women in the youth ministry. I pray that God is working in you and setting these plans in you like he is in me. I pray that you don’t get in over your head in work. As well as you work hard for your dreams. I want you to know I pray for our future kids, if God’s will we have any. I pray that they are healthy, that you shower them with love. I know that you will be a great dad. I pray that they grow in Christ and you lead our household.
My Vows to you before we meet:
I vow to from now on substain from sexual relations with anyone unless until we are married.
I vow to pray for you.
I vow to grow in Christ everyday to be the Godly wife you and God want me to be.
I vow that I will live my life to the fullest and be positive so I can share these experiances with you when we finally cross
paths.
My vows to you when we do meet:
I vow I will not provoke or tempt you in any sexual way, with the way I dress, with the way I talk, and with what we do.
I vow that I will respect you.
I vow that I will listen to you.
I vow that I will support your walk with God.
I vow that I will always remember that God comes first.
I vow that I remember to keep God first.
I vow to remember that we are only dating and that everything happens on God’s time and I will not rush it.
I vow that I will trust you.
I’ll be seeing you around.
Love,
Me.
J
this is an awesome thread, G4JC! To share with you. i have a box full of my love letters for my future husband. i even have cards for him. i have a notebook full of letters sharing to him my everyday battles, prayers and poem, songs for him. He'll be overwhelmed when we will finally meet. I know he's coming! He's worth my very last breath. Will share some of my letters next week. There is a God! He is alive! And my future husband as well. In God's perfect time and will, may His will be done. AMEN!
J
Hey, my future husband, are you still awake? I would like to share with you this Scripture, 1 Corinthians 2:9. "However, as it is written: What no eye has seen, what no ear has heard, and what no human mind has conceived"--- the things God has prepared for those who loved him. I rather trust God on this matter between us, our future, our romance, our differences and the like. I love you. mwah. 
Ok..I have read this slowly, making sure that I did not miss a thing. I am a male, so I can only envision this as a male can. I am also pretending that I am the one who gets this letter in the future. Here is my reponse: "ARE you kidding me? What is this? IS this woman for real? IS this serious? Oh my gosh..." and then, I would RUN in the opposite direction as fast as I could and not answer the cell phone or any email or any written letter from you. THIS only shows an extreme desparate female that has already got her talons stretched out, seeking a male victim. You would completely scare away this CHRISTIAN man.
Why not save your fresh love letters when love has already been found? Anyone who would write this futuristic love letter would also write a future thankyou card for someone who had done a favor, or an open invitation to attend a church service, or an epitaph, or a prom date, or anything else..why hold back on just love letters? sheesh....THIS is corny, to say the least
Why not save your fresh love letters when love has already been found? Anyone who would write this futuristic love letter would also write a future thankyou card for someone who had done a favor, or an open invitation to attend a church service, or an epitaph, or a prom date, or anything else..why hold back on just love letters? sheesh....THIS is corny, to say the least
It's so easy to criticize those young lonely singles when you are comfortably married, isn't it? While we are glad that you do not find the many of those in our community who are young enough to be your children or grandchildren romantically attractive, your input in this thread serves only to insult and alienate a demographic who already feel ignored and misunderstood by churches. So other than insulting all of us by telling us how "desperate" and "corny" we are, why exactly have you come to our corner of CC?
Nobody is alienating you and just because you are young and single does not mean that common sense is not to be used here. Everybody who has ever walked the face of this earth have been young and single. YOu act like you stand alone and are part of a demographic that is misunderstood by churches. That is your own label. Nobody else is whispering that into your ear except perhaps the spirit that wants you to feel alone and misunderstood. JESUS came to give LIFE and more abundantly. When I was 14, I was fortunate enough to hear a powerful spiritual sermon designed especially for us young single people. We were challenged to pray for GOD to let us find the soul mate that only HE knows of. Guess what...by the time I was 17..there she was! There were no posted future love letters needed. It's called depending on GOD and HIS timing, not ours. Let this rest in HIS hands and stop assuming that some future knight in shining armor is going to sweep you off your feet and gather up all your forelorn love letters that you have already started writing.
This is one of my biggest pet peeves when married people talk down to me: "OH, JUST WAIT ON THE LORD!!!!"
That's a great answer. EXCEPT that it must be kept in mind that not many of us in today's world meet our spouse at age 17, and our wait may be much, much longer than yours. I'm guessing that if God had made you wait until around age 40, your answer might be a bit different. Please have a little compassion on people who don't meet their marriage partner before they are technically barely past puberty and weren't even an official adult yet... Our walk is different from your walk and what works for you might not work for us.
No, I don't write letters to a future spouse. But I'm certainly not going to cut down anyone who does.
I think what many Christians also forget is that sometimes, for whatever reason, God never sends someone or we never find that person. I know many Godly people who lost their spouses early and are told the same thing: "JUST WAIT ON THE LORD!!!" So here they are, waiting, waiting, and praying for another spouse in the future... and the years and decades roll by... My entire "singles" group at my church is a lovely group of women in their 50's, 60's, and 70's who all talk about how much they would like to be married... so in the meantime, they serve the church like no one else and pray their beautiful hard-working hands off... and no one ever comes.
"Just wait on God," unfortunately, has become the best cookie-cutter answer the Christian community has come up with for the single population, and as illustrated by your post, it's most often given by those who married young and forget what it's like to wait. Most of these people met their spouse at a time in life when it was much easier to meet, get to know, and spend time with someone because when you're 17, you're typically not living on your own, paying off a mortgage and a car, trying to find health insurance, working full-time, and for many singles, raising kids.
This is why Paul wrote about contentment in every stage of life, no matter what your situation may be. But for those who are wanting to write letters to their future spouses... As long as God in involved in their process of doing so, why not?
That's a great answer. EXCEPT that it must be kept in mind that not many of us in today's world meet our spouse at age 17, and our wait may be much, much longer than yours. I'm guessing that if God had made you wait until around age 40, your answer might be a bit different. Please have a little compassion on people who don't meet their marriage partner before they are technically barely past puberty and weren't even an official adult yet... Our walk is different from your walk and what works for you might not work for us.
No, I don't write letters to a future spouse. But I'm certainly not going to cut down anyone who does.
I think what many Christians also forget is that sometimes, for whatever reason, God never sends someone or we never find that person. I know many Godly people who lost their spouses early and are told the same thing: "JUST WAIT ON THE LORD!!!" So here they are, waiting, waiting, and praying for another spouse in the future... and the years and decades roll by... My entire "singles" group at my church is a lovely group of women in their 50's, 60's, and 70's who all talk about how much they would like to be married... so in the meantime, they serve the church like no one else and pray their beautiful hard-working hands off... and no one ever comes.
"Just wait on God," unfortunately, has become the best cookie-cutter answer the Christian community has come up with for the single population, and as illustrated by your post, it's most often given by those who married young and forget what it's like to wait. Most of these people met their spouse at a time in life when it was much easier to meet, get to know, and spend time with someone because when you're 17, you're typically not living on your own, paying off a mortgage and a car, trying to find health insurance, working full-time, and for many singles, raising kids.
This is why Paul wrote about contentment in every stage of life, no matter what your situation may be. But for those who are wanting to write letters to their future spouses... As long as God in involved in their process of doing so, why not?
Another topic I think is important to address when people who met their spouses at young ages like to aggressively tell singles to "Just wait on the Lord!" is that God very rarely calls married couples home at the same time.
Like it it not, there is a 50/50 chance that YOU yourself are going to be single at a later point in your life.
Have you given any thought as to how you'll respond when the good Christian brigade rides in and gives you all the same advice that you are giving to us? Will you want them to tell you to "just wait on the Lord for someone"? Because depending on your place in life, I guarantee that's what they'll tell you.
I suppose it's better than to be told, "Well, there's no use praying for a spouse now seeing as your time is probably almost up anyway." (Hmm... this gets my mind going... I wonder what the good Christian community tells people who lose their spouses at say, age 75 or above...)
Like it it not, there is a 50/50 chance that YOU yourself are going to be single at a later point in your life.
Have you given any thought as to how you'll respond when the good Christian brigade rides in and gives you all the same advice that you are giving to us? Will you want them to tell you to "just wait on the Lord for someone"? Because depending on your place in life, I guarantee that's what they'll tell you.
I suppose it's better than to be told, "Well, there's no use praying for a spouse now seeing as your time is probably almost up anyway." (Hmm... this gets my mind going... I wonder what the good Christian community tells people who lose their spouses at say, age 75 or above...)
Wait, wait…. you mean 43 years ago the world was a very different place? You think that 3 years of adolescent "waiting for your spouse" gives you any sort of credibility or authority to advise those who have been waiting longer than you had been alive when you met your wife? By the way, you do know that the idea of a soulmate comes from Greek philosophy and not the Bible, right? The idea that God has designed just one specific person for each person to marry is completely unbiblical.
As far as singles being an alienated demographic in the church. I believe we've had threads and discussions on this around the singles forum before, it is not just my isolated opinion or experience. If you can't find a thread, I would recommend the book Singles at the Crossroads as the resource that really opened my eyes to why I feel like a second class citizen in many churches. You claim to be a minister on your profile, surely you must have some other minister and church leader friends. Ask around, what percent of their congregations are single young adults? How does that compare with the percentage of single young adults in the general population? What support do they offer for those who struggle with the challenges of singleness? Is there maybe a connection between the two?
This isn't rocket science, if singles aren't coming to church in the same frequency as marrieds and families, there is a reason. If someone has their self righteous head crammed up their posterior, they will ascribe that reason to some moral failing among singles ( which is sure to make all those singles come running to church). If someone truly has God's heart of ministry to singles, they will go out and meet them where they are at and help them live life now as a single with all it's challenges and difficulties.
But you have not displayed the heart of a minister in this thread. You have set yourself up in judgment of our opinions and behaviors instead of seeking to understand me or the others who have posted here. If you had taken the least bit of time to investigate my character, you would have found what most of the regulars know already. I have more than my share of common sense and I'm logical to the point of being one of the least romantic people around here. No years of forlorn pining for me. Since you have not shown any desire to engage in actual discussion and understanding, there really is no point in responding to you further.
As far as singles being an alienated demographic in the church. I believe we've had threads and discussions on this around the singles forum before, it is not just my isolated opinion or experience. If you can't find a thread, I would recommend the book Singles at the Crossroads as the resource that really opened my eyes to why I feel like a second class citizen in many churches. You claim to be a minister on your profile, surely you must have some other minister and church leader friends. Ask around, what percent of their congregations are single young adults? How does that compare with the percentage of single young adults in the general population? What support do they offer for those who struggle with the challenges of singleness? Is there maybe a connection between the two?
This isn't rocket science, if singles aren't coming to church in the same frequency as marrieds and families, there is a reason. If someone has their self righteous head crammed up their posterior, they will ascribe that reason to some moral failing among singles ( which is sure to make all those singles come running to church). If someone truly has God's heart of ministry to singles, they will go out and meet them where they are at and help them live life now as a single with all it's challenges and difficulties.
But you have not displayed the heart of a minister in this thread. You have set yourself up in judgment of our opinions and behaviors instead of seeking to understand me or the others who have posted here. If you had taken the least bit of time to investigate my character, you would have found what most of the regulars know already. I have more than my share of common sense and I'm logical to the point of being one of the least romantic people around here. No years of forlorn pining for me. Since you have not shown any desire to engage in actual discussion and understanding, there really is no point in responding to you further.
J
Thank you, my dear friend tourist. What I've learned from you and JesusLives, never be ashamed to do crazy things for love. Jesus was called foolish and crazy to die on the cross in the name of love. This post gives me more courage to keep the great faith. 1 Samuel 18:25-27 (100 foreskins to 200 for Michal's hand.)
Jesus was called foolish and crazy to die on the cross in the name of love. This post gives me more courage to keep the great faith. 1 Samuel 18:25-27 (100 foreskins to 200 for Michal's hand.)
S
dear future husband,
can you please stop goofing off and ask for directions to find me? k? thanks
can you please stop goofing off and ask for directions to find me? k? thanks
Start carrying around a flare gun with you and firing it into the air, he'll find you. Note - don't do this inside.
You're 60 years old and you're picking on people half your age (or younger). You're not being a brother in Christ, you're being a stumbling block.
There are people in this thread who are obviously lonely and feeling rejected not only by the world, but by the church. Is writing a love letter to a future spouse reminding yourself how lonely you are going to help with that - no probably not, but be nice about this.
The message is lost if you deliver it the way you're going about it.