Do You Have a Princess Complex?

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Were you possibly a first born child, the oldest of your siblings? Or the last born and potentially over-looked so your mother over-compensated for it by taking the lazy way out and just telling you that you were a princess, and leading you to actually believe that? Do you watch episodes of Dateline and actually believe the world's most advanced propaganda system? It may have really happened, but it is televised for a purpose. Do you believe that you are God's gift to all men, and that they will all eventually fall in love with you? When a man gives you attention, do you feel the need to tell everyone about it in order to increase your feeling of self-worth? Have you ever used any of the words: creepy, creep, psycho, stalker, freaked out, etc..? Do you avoid one-on-one communication with men because you would rather have your girlfriends to bail you out of what you think may be "awkward moments of silence"? Do you wear excessive amounts of makeup on a regular basis? Do you use your child support money for luxury items? Do you have any male friends that you are totally aware of the fact that they want and would accept more than friendship with you, but you continue to stay friends with them? How many rings do you have on both hands, total, more than one? Do you buy anything for the brand name alone, when there is no evidence of it having better quality? Do you tell your girlfriends about everything that happens in your life, literally? Have you shared what your husband/boyfriend/date thought he told you in confidence, with your mother? Did you always think in your mind that the way you would like things to happen when marrying and having children was that you would be a stay at home mother and not work, because you think that is what is best for the children, to give them the "time and attention they need"??

These are only a couple of the many signs you could potentially be diagnosed as having a princess complex. There are many different types of princess complexes that infect females all across the land, and it has the largest denial factor of all diseases, even more so than alcoholism. Now that I have become aware of the disease, I see it more and more on a daily basis. I could almost give you an anecdote for each day. And don't think that Christian women are immune..I see it almost more with Christian women, because many of them feel some sort of sense of entitlement that because they are a "Christian woman of God" that they need to be treated like some sort of ruler or Queen of the land. Even if you don't meet any of the criteria for any of the above symptoms, these are only just a couple, so it doesn't mean you do not have PC. The good news is that PC is treatable. I am still developing a legit symptom and treatment list. I am writing this to get some input, more symtpoms, etc...Thanks
 

DuchessAimee

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Your "symptoms" don't constitute a valid psychological malady. For the most part you are describing a narcissist and someone who might have a god complex. Some of the other symptoms are subjective and can't be quantified. ie The amount of makeup she wears of the number of rings she wears? That's not even remotely applicable. And being a stay at home mom is HARDLY a selfish and "princess" thing.

Your post is rather odd to be honest. Why did you bring this up? And personally I think you posted this because some woman treated you poorly and she seemed to be "above you". Not everyone is going to like or love us. I'm sorry that she treated you poorly, but you wanting to invent a "princess complex" isn't the answer to dealing with what happened.


Did you post this out of a want for attention? I'm truly confused as to why you posted this.
 
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I think what you are describing or attempting to define is a legitimate morality issue among all women, and a possible consequence of such things as modern conception of womanhood, as opposed to biblical conception of it, but also materialism and capitalism, which are greatly encouraged by the decadent side of american culture, and finally the result of humanism and the worship of self, which will cause many to buy into the "i deserve a diamond ring and my personality quirks should be worshipped and honoured as opposed to seeking the character of Christ" kind of thing.

I do think this is far from being a female only issue and i could probably sit here and write an exact match of your thread but concerning the modern day "christian" man. It comes down to self centeredness, which is glorified in every level of society to the point where people who do good deeds (which should be the norm) are now presented on tv as heroes and can't get enough of their 15mn of fame and acclamation. It's the sad state of our human condition and moral evolution.

Satan hates women with a passion, and while many women are deceived into making themselves enemies of righteouseness by agreeing with the self worship, the materialism, the immorality, the decadence, the greed and the superficiality, while they are guilty of that, i still think that satan's intense hatred of them must cause us to be careful how we assess and speak of them, lest we become his unwilling Tools in spreading more damaging contempt about them. A contempt that has sadly turned some women in some countries and cultures and centuries into even less than an animal, a disposable commodity.

It is such a complex matter to be a woman, called to do some amazingly sacred and powerful tasks in life, yet called to humble themselves as though they knew nothing or could nothing without a man, lest she be judged for being prideful. It's a tricky balancing act and we fail more often than succeed. Women are also way too emotional and it often gets in the way of a healthy spirituality. Like having a double dose of "flesh" to contend with :)

Yes my brother, women need to repent. So do men, for failing us in taking the right kind of leadership, failing to protect us from ourselves and failing to love us as Christ has loved his Church with soundness, compassion and great mercy. God bless.
 
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SabbieWabbie

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I'm pretty sure this complex is not in a single psychology textbook, and 100% sure it is not in the DSM, any versions of it.

If I ever encounter this is my practise I will let you know. If you knew anything about diagnosing psychological disorders you would know there would have to be a number of boxes checked to make a valid diagnosis and the symptoms I would classify as valid symptoms fall into complexes such as narcissist, personality disorders (granted, they fall in ten categories) and this particular one probably cluster B (4 of the total 10), definitely not cluster A or C.

Cluster B is called the dramatic, emotional and erratic cluster. It includes Borderline Personality Disorder, Narcisstic Personality Disorder, Histionic Personality Disorder, and Antisocial Personality Disorder. Problems in cluster b have a common bond which include impulse control and emotion regulation.

I suspect something else is going on here. Here is a heads up though: Internet is full of rubbish, and full of bitter men looking for revenge and the best way is probably convincing women they are losing their marbles. Go see a registered psychologist for these sorts of answers.

If there is something bitter going inside of you, I suggest you pray about it and talk to someone.
 
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Donkeyfish07

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I disagree with the criteria your putting up, but there is a such thing as a princess complex. I on the other hand, do not think it's a negative thing or anything that could rightly be called a disorder. Very high sense of self esteem, absolute certainty that they are beautiful (and they don't think this in vain, it's true) and have an over the top sense of entitlement. I love ladies like this. Very strong, feminine, independent and empowered.
 

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How could wanting to be a mother and raising your own children be a bad thing? Titus 2:5 To be*discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. I was taught that any woman who can be there with her kids is a blessed woman.
 
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MissCris

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I thought I was reading the script for a commercial for some obscure medication :/
I'm actually a little disappointed that we didn't find out the cure, I know a couple of cats who could've used it.
 
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kenthomas27

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You know, GreatScott, my feeling is you've written this discourse with the aim of hopefully identifying a genuine disorder, but frankly, you've succeeded in offending about 2/3's of the population. Everybody's got at least one of these symptoms. I've got some and I'm only a prince.

I'm with Duchess on this - why the heck would you even write this? Most all of us in some basic sense love ourselves. Isn't that why Jesus advised our main commandment to obey was loving others like we love ourselves? He knew we were all narcissist.
 

cinder

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I failed princess lessons. I'm now enrolled in evil mastermind world domination lessons. It's like being a princess only you don't have to do all that stupid, frilly, ladylike stuff. :p I'll be taking applications for loyal minions soon.
 

ronnie2796

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I failed princess lessons. I'm now enrolled in evil mastermind world domination lessons. It's like being a princess only you don't have to do all that stupid, frilly, ladylike stuff. :p I'll be taking applications for loyal minions soon.
Sounds like perfection,... :)
 
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My purpose for writing this is to educate people on the disease of PC. Turning it around on me or feeling a little bit of offense may just be a sign that you may have PC. If anyone has recovered from Princess complex and has a testimonial to share it would be greatly appreciated.

Some new symptoms I have added are as follows: If the lens in which you look at the world reveals chauvinism quite frequently. If the energy you attract in men is usually an energy of lust (because it may be caused from the way you dress or the looks that you give men).

And in response to the idea of being a stay at home mother: A proverbs 31 woman is anything but just a stay at home mother. I am referring to women who think that taking care of children should be their only job, and they rationalize that so that they can be taken care of like a princess and not ever bring any income into the house hold. Prov 31 woman makes mula. And most men that really want their wives to be a stay at home mother just want control.
 

rachelsedge

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And in response to the idea of being a stay at home mother: A proverbs 31 woman is anything but just a stay at home mother. I am referring to women who think that taking care of children should be their only job, and they rationalize that so that they can be taken care of like a princess and not ever bring any income into the house hold. Prov 31 woman makes mula. And most men that really want their wives to be a stay at home mother just want control.
Do you realize that sometimes, a mother staying at home actually saves money? You do also realize the work involved in raising kids, right? Furthermore, I know many men who want their wives to be stay at home mothers for reasons other than control.

If you want this to be taken seriously, then valid, relible evidence would be more supportable of your theory than just throwing out assumptions and opinions.
 
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This thread is priceless. Not quite on the same level as the missing rip, but still pretty good.
 
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I failed princess lessons. I'm now enrolled in evil mastermind world domination lessons. It's like being a princess only you don't have to do all that stupid, frilly, ladylike stuff. :p I'll be taking applications for loyal minions soon.
Where do I sign up? I've always liked the idea of being a minion...plus they're kinda cute too,and I fit that bill totally. (Good gravy,I'm starting to sound like Descyple now)
 

CatHerder

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Were you possibly a first born child, the oldest of your siblings? Or the last born and potentially over-looked so your mother over-compensated for it by taking the lazy way out and just telling you that you were a princess, and leading you to actually believe that...?
I was the last born, but my momma never called me a princess.
 

Pipp

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You have a very weird way of looking at stuff Scott. I totally don't get it. I just showed you where the bible says in the New Testament that it's good for women to be keepers at home...what do you do with that scripture ?
 

maxwel

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You know, GreatScott, my feeling is you've written this discourse with the aim of hopefully identifying a genuine disorder, but frankly, you've succeeded in offending about 2/3's of the population. Everybody's got at least one of these symptoms. I've got some and I'm only a prince.

I'm with Duchess on this - why the heck would you even write this? Most all of us in some basic sense love ourselves. Isn't that why Jesus advised our main commandment to obey was loving others like we love ourselves? He knew we were all narcissist.
You mean I might have a princess complex????

I ... I really had no idea.
 
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Heh to be quite guilty, I kinda like a girl with somewhat of a Princess Complex. But then again maybe I have a Knight Complex.

Way I see it an unmarried woman should feel like a Princess in her father and mother's house until her family is ready to let her go off and be a queen of her own. We men as Knights are gonna have to prove our worth to her fair father by destroying some witches and killing some dragons.

But then again maybe I watched Sleeping Beauty one too many times as a kid and read too many tales of fair maidens and noble knights of olde.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JmM-XX8atlQ

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Heh though I get what you're trying to say here though brother Scott the Great. You make some fair points indeed! I'd argue every single girl has a Princess Complex, BUT, there are two types of Princess.

To explain the Two Princess Types Logic, I guess I gotta go biblical on it.

Good Princess Complex--- Israelite Princess Hadassah/Esther type princesses

Bad Princess Complex--- Sidonian Princess Jezebel type princesses

What you want is an Esther not a Jezebel.

Funny enough we can also draw some wisdom off these two examples for the Stay at Home vs Working Mom conflict also. Were not both women stay at homers AND also working moms? So neither path is necessarily bad, because it depends what type of work she does and how she helps you govern your house, does it not?

Esther-- stay at home making happy her husband Xerxes and worshipping God. At work keeping her people safe and preventing genocide.

Jezebel--- stay at home making fun of her husband Ahab and worshipping Baal. At work making plots to kill Naboth to steal his vineyard and trying to commit genocide.

So it is pretty clear, unless you plan on being an epic Single Soldier like Paul or Elijah (and nothing wrong with that) then it's clear you gotta try your best to find and treat a woman like Esther.
 
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I don't think there is anything wrong with being a stay at home mother, I just don't think that's 'all' a woman should be, and that a woman should rationalize that to mean she shouldn't work.