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twin17

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i dont understand how i cant find one guy that is willing to wait till after marriage...

i wasnt always good and i have made many mistakes with drinking and even been pressured to have sex but iv changed alot in the last year and have reealized all hte mistakes i have made and i want to be able to be in a relationship where im not pressured to do anything. i want ot find a guy that is willing ot wait til marriage and is set on that as much as i am. where are all the guys like that..


im 17 about to start college.
i play sports and love to just have a good time
i want someone who can talk to me and llisten to me and care about what goes on in my life as much i care about what goes on in theres


what do you think i should do
 
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michiru_maeda

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u play sport & love to have a good time---> sounds like ur popular among ur friends :)

my suggestion is befriend as many as u can. collect the guys whom u think would be best suit for u. then select the 1 which the best personality. hopefully it helps
 
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greatkraw

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u play sport & love to have a good time---> sounds like ur popular among ur friends :)

my suggestion is befriend as many as u can. collect the guys whom u think would be best suit for u. then select the 1 which the best personality. hopefully it helps
it must be tough for a christian in indonesis mm
 

Sharp

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i dont understand how i cant find one guy that is willing to wait till after marriage...

i wasnt always good and i have made many mistakes with drinking and even been pressured to have sex but iv changed alot in the last year and have reealized all hte mistakes i have made and i want to be able to be in a relationship where im not pressured to do anything. i want ot find a guy that is willing ot wait til marriage and is set on that as much as i am. where are all the guys like that..


im 17 about to start college.
i play sports and love to just have a good time
i want someone who can talk to me and llisten to me and care about what goes on in my life as much i care about what goes on in theres


what do you think i should do

http://christianchat.com/member.php?u=18230
 
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Wug

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Well, I see you're 17. There are very, very few dudes that age that hold a great level of sexual integrity. So my advice, wait a few years, and you have a better chance of finding a dude.

You see, when we're about 19, or 20, we recognize what's really important, and our goals become deaper. Not all dudes mind you, just some.

So, again, I would say wait a bit, and pray.
 
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deary

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Be friend as much as you can. The correct guy "will find you" in the correct moment. Be patient. ;)
 
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grace0687

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twin17, I'm glad you have changed the type of guys you are looking for =). God might want you to grow in a relaionship with him strongly first before he provides you with a man. God is always our number one, so he wants to build the relationship up with the both of you before you have a boyfriend. He has a specific plan for each person.

"But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.(Matthew 6:33)"

When God is in our life, we don't have to worry =). He loves you more than anyone could ever love you, and he even sent his son to die for us =)). Thats some beautiful love! It's very hard to experience love like that in this world, because all true love originates from God himself =). I hope you learn a lot along your christian journey. God bless & Merry Christmas!
 

Sharp

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Well he is a good fella
 
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At your age, dating is a distraction, find out who you are in Christ, be the right person first, then God will do what He wants to do, that's what I tell my high school girls, when they ask
 
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i dont understand how i cant find one guy that is willing to wait till after marriage...

i wasnt always good and i have made many mistakes with drinking and even been pressured to have sex but iv changed alot in the last year and have reealized all hte mistakes i have made and i want to be able to be in a relationship where im not pressured to do anything. i want ot find a guy that is willing ot wait til marriage and is set on that as much as i am. where are all the guys like that..


im 17 about to start college.
i play sports and love to just have a good time
i want someone who can talk to me and llisten to me and care about what goes on in my life as much i care about what goes on in theres


what do you think i should do
Just to let you know, there still are good guys out there. I'm one of them...
 
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Brianaj

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The important thing to remember when looking for a good christian guy is to make sure that he's pursueing you. So often girls want to take over and wear the man pants in a relationship and thats alot of the time when we get mixed up in things we don't wish to.

Christian guys are amazing when you find one that really loves god. Make sure that your not just looking to date to date. In the bible there is no such thing as dating. You date someone to see if that could be the person you want to marry. When dating someone make sure that together you better glorify God. Don't just look for a good guy to date while your in school and to have those butterflies with. While thats important its not the best motives for dating.

Trust in GOD he will grant you the desires of your heart and provide for you exactly what you need.
I have been in the same position as you, I have been pretty premiscuous in the past and been through alot, that affects the people I date and the way things in relationships have to be for me.

Just trust in GOD and wait on his timing don't push things.

God Bless!
 
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OwnReason4

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I'm 19 and am in college and it is pretty hard too, I'm pressured all the time. I've made many mistakes but am glad to Know the Lord still l accepts me and will use me in His plans. My advice would be to be friends with a bunch of people to get a good concept of all the different kinds of people out their. I've had a very hard time finding a good christian girlfriend. So far I haven't succeeded either unfortunately. But God has a plan and purpose for me. And I look forward to finding that one person.
 
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If you want the best be the best, the best doesn't want someone who is willing to compromise. So get oneself right before God and living in his will and then all things will fall into place.. as God decides when and what..his plans and his desires becomes your desires.
 
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OwnReason4

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WHy did you laugh?
 
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jimmydiggs

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i dont understand how i cant find one guy that is willing to wait till after marriage...

i wasnt always good and i have made many mistakes with drinking and even been pressured to have sex but iv changed alot in the last year and have reealized all hte mistakes i have made and i want to be able to be in a relationship where im not pressured to do anything. i want ot find a guy that is willing ot wait til marriage and is set on that as much as i am. where are all the guys like that..


im 17 about to start college.
i play sports and love to just have a good time
i want someone who can talk to me and llisten to me and care about what goes on in my life as much i care about what goes on in theres


what do you think i should do

I know the feeling, except I have chosen to wait to date until after High School. College is where it is at, you will meet many more people that are much more like you; however, college is also filled with many people that are the exact opposite.
 
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nobadee

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i dont understand how i cant find one guy that is willing to wait till after marriage...

i wasnt always good and i have made many mistakes with drinking and even been pressured to have sex but iv changed alot in the last year and have reealized all hte mistakes i have made and i want to be able to be in a relationship where im not pressured to do anything. i want ot find a guy that is willing ot wait til marriage and is set on that as much as i am. where are all the guys like that..


im 17 about to start college.
i play sports and love to just have a good time
i want someone who can talk to me and llisten to me and care about what goes on in my life as much i care about what goes on in theres


what do you think i should do
Don't let your raging feelings lead you into making any mistakes. There is no winners in seeing who can settle down the fastest. The real game is who can settle down the happiest. I know it probably drives you crazy seeing everyone around you with someone; but, they will probably be with a dozen other people in the time it takes you to wait for the right one. Good things do come to those that wait. Those who are in a hurry end up with child support and a bitter ex to hassle them throughout their life.