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Plus9

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To the GOD fearing Christian ladies out there: I've been separated from my special friend for over 1 year now.She is a GOD fearing woman and her passion for GOD is what attracts me most. We always hung out together through our church activities and I sensed she has feelings for me as well. We've found out that we have a lot in common especially our hunger to serve GOD in our ministry, even though we are from different race and cultures. I've returned to my home country for work but can not travel back to see her due to restrictions on my visa. I can not travel yet. We keep touch through social apps. The thing is I can not push our relationship to the next level due to my travel restriction. I'm trying keep her out of my thoughts but for some reason she is always on my mind. Every single Christian ladies I come across since I've returned fail to compare. I've been seeking GOD on this issue time & time again, requesting for an answer but I always ended up with her on my mind non stop. I'm too shy to tell her that she is always on my mind. My question is; Does she think of me that is why I always find myself thinking of her? I believe that GOD provide each one of us with a perfect soulmate. When you find she/he, that's it.
 
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Raine

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If I was in your situation... And knew these feelings were genuine and that a possible future of a successful marriage (including with your travel restrictions) was possible, then I would tell her. :). Don't tell her she's on your mind all the time , save that for when you already knows she likes you, otherwise it might be creepy. :3

But go ahead and tell her how special she is and then go from there. :). Good luck!
 
secularhermit

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More than "thinking" it is better doing and showing with deeds.
 
Fenner

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I agree with both posts above.

Oh and Ugly ( another member) if you're reading this: there's no such thing as a soul mate. :)
 
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Plus9 said:
To the GOD fearing Christian ladies out there: I've been separated from my special friend for over 1 year now.She is a GOD fearing woman and her passion for GOD is what attracts me most. We always hung out together through our church activities and I sensed she has feelings for me as well. We've found out that we have a lot in common especially our hunger to serve GOD in our ministry, even though we are from different race and cultures. I've returned to my home country for work but can not travel back to see her due to restrictions on my visa. I can not travel yet. We keep touch through social apps. The thing is I can not push our relationship to the next level due to my travel restriction. I'm trying keep her out of my thoughts but for some reason she is always on my mind. Every single Christian ladies I come across since I've returned fail to compare. I've been seeking GOD on this issue time & time again, requesting for an answer but I always ended up with her on my mind non stop. I'm too shy to tell her that she is always on my mind. My question is; Does she think of me that is why I always find myself thinking of her? I believe that GOD provide each one of us with a perfect soulmate. When you find she/he, that's it.
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This special person is always on my mind as well. You must determine her feelings for you. As you know each other it is probably mutual. You are not alone in this as I can completely relate to what you have said. I am talking to God constantly on my own situation. Ask her some hypothetical questions to gauge her true interest in you but try not to get too cute in these questions. I hope that this works out for you.
 
cinder

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Plus9 said:
To the GOD fearing Christian ladies out there: I've been separated from my special friend for over 1 year now.She is a GOD fearing woman and her passion for GOD is what attracts me most. We always hung out together through our church activities and I sensed she has feelings for me as well. We've found out that we have a lot in common especially our hunger to serve GOD in our ministry, even though we are from different race and cultures. I've returned to my home country for work but can not travel back to see her due to restrictions on my visa. I can not travel yet. We keep touch through social apps. The thing is I can not push our relationship to the next level due to my travel restriction. I'm trying keep her out of my thoughts but for some reason she is always on my mind. Every single Christian ladies I come across since I've returned fail to compare. I've been seeking GOD on this issue time & time again, requesting for an answer but I always ended up with her on my mind non stop. I'm too shy to tell her that she is always on my mind. My question is; Does she think of me that is why I always find myself thinking of her? I believe that GOD provide each one of us with a perfect soulmate. When you find she/he, that's it.
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Well, certainly nothing is going to happen if you sit on one side of the world thinking about her and she sits on the other side of the world thinking about you and no one says anything. I think you are wise to consider the potential challenges before initiating a relationship, especially with a cross cultural component and the travel and visa challenges.

No one but this gal can tell you if she is interested in pursuing a serious romance with you. Sooner or later you will have to have that discussion with her. If you know another cross cultural Christian couple that you respect and want to talk to them in detail about this situation and whether they think the two of you have what it takes to make a cross cultural relationship work.

The other caution I would have is not to let distance and a lack of contact skew your perception of her. It's easy to remember only the good things and forget about what you didn't like so much. It's easy to get lonely when you are in a new place and idealize the people you left behind. Make sure you are not doing that with this girl.

Ok that's the best I've got for you. Hope it helps.
 
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Thanks everyone for your time, effort, advice and opinions.
 
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