Being for Singles - article

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A married friend of mine posted this article on Facebook today (see link below) in support of all of her single friends. She added a very wise and nice message to it as well about how being married is not a magical cure that will make everything better, and that some people choose to remain single because that is what works for them. That each person should be left alone to live their life how they choose to live it, whether that means being married or being single. It started a great discussion.

I haven't exactly chosen to be single, but I am ok with being single. Society makes us single women and men feel like there is something wrong with us because we are "still" single. And people are always trying to hook me up. The other question I get is, "Don't you want to have kids??" :) Of course I do...but not with the wrong person. And if I don't mean the right man and I don't have children, then there are other things I was meant to do with my life. It's taken me a long time to come to that conclusion, and I'm glad I have. :) Although I'd love to share my ups and downs with someone, I love many things about being single. :) And it will be hard to give that up if that lucky man ever comes along. But for now??? I just love the life that God has so graciously given to me. <3



What are your thoughts? Being for Singles | Singular Magazine
 
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Being single is great for those who enjoy being single. As for myself, I don't know what I want anymore.
 
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I don't think guys have that same pressure on them to get married like women endure. When I am hanging out with my married guy friends, they don't ask me when I am getting married or if I want kids someday. They will talk about their marriages sure, but they don't ask me whether I plan to be single forever. I am not even sure society itself puts the pressure on singles that they should be married like it did maybe twenty years ago. I think the places we still find the most pressure/push for us to be married are in our own individual families and in the church.
 
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Haven't looked at the article yet, i will later. But from what you stated in your post this is kind of what we discuss here all the time. Learning to be content as single, and even try to enjoy it. I think most of the regulars here have figured that out and are, or are trying to, put that into practice. Except for a few it seems. Most of the people that are so desperate are new users, often that don't last once they realize we try to tell them how to be content single, rather than how to get a spouse.
 
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Do you know that being married you could be also single (or singled)?

Here is a picture of what "single" could be. Have a close look and i could tell I see the mother of my ex-wife. She was married and "singled" and now with 12 children.

She is the most alone but, at least, she is working long hours in the fields where she gets corn and several food she works hard to get her home, as a widow.

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I wish she could see this picture I saw in a gallery two days ago. It looks like her! ;)
 
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I'm a single female not by choice. Some people enjoy the single life while others would prefer a life with somebody to share it with. It’s really scary to imagine that you’ll grow old all alone without someone beside you, but sooner or later I know he'll come and if not .. so be!
 
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CountryRose said:
I haven't exactly chosen to be single, but I am ok with being single. Society makes us single women and men feel like there is something wrong with us because we are "still" single. And people are always trying to hook me up. The other question I get is, "Don't you want to have kids??" :) Of course I do...but not with the wrong person. And if I don't mean the right man and I don't have children, then there are other things I was meant to do with my life. It's taken me a long time to come to that conclusion, and I'm glad I have. :) Although I'd love to share my ups and downs with someone, I love many things about being single. :) And it will be hard to give that up if that lucky man ever comes along. But for now??? I just love the life that God has so graciously given to me. <3
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ok, here's the deal, i don't believe that the world puts that pressure on us, i think women do it to themselves.

i used to have this little time-dated roadmap in my head of how things SHOULD go.

well... God eventually broke me of that thinking. expectations largely out of my control and comparing ourselves to others is one of the best ways i know to become frustrated or disappointed in my life. that thinking is incredibly self-focused, by the way.

we have more lofty goals here on earth besides fulfilling our personal to-do list, especially on the timeline that we think we should be arriving at.

i'm totally fine with being a late-bloomer -- i've been one my whole life, in some ways. not everyone values the meandering, scenic route--but i do. it's ok to not be like everyone else.

there's no real time in my life that i can't clearly see God's hand guiding, protecting, and supplying for me. that gives me a lot of peace.

i don't feel like the world is pushing me, or making me feel badly about my life and choices--we do that to ourselves. just stop.

actually, the only people who give me grief about being single anymore are the occasional married couples/friends who "think i would be PERFECT for one of their friends" (who coincidentally doesn't leave the house and spends all his time as a basement-dwelling-gamer superglued to his lazyboy recliner).

and i've pretty much squashed that stuff. : )
 
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