When is it the right time to get a partner?

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troubledgirl

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So I have progressed well in Christianity. I am not a nymphomaniac nor an idolater anymore, but I still need to learn things about Jesus and God. I pray and read the Bible but not everyday, just several times every month and when I can because I am quite busy and I pray when I can and when I have something to tell God or ask Him. I am usually also helpful to people and God wants me to be helpful to people. I also worship God and Jesus by writing few Christian songs and also listening to some Christian music. And I repent my sins and I ask for forgiveness and I try not to sin.

How long do I have to still wait so I can get my future husband? I know what my future husband will look like but when will he come to my life? I am scared that the man of my type will be the last guy of my type in Earth and another girl takes him before me and then there are no guys of my type for me. I am afraid that the very peaceful guy who is older than me and 6'1/185cm tall or more and born again non-denominational Christian and has black long hair and pale or light skin is very rare in Earth and that soon another girl will take the last one... I refuse to be with someone who is not my type because I will feel really fake to be with someone who is not my type and also, God doesn't force anyone to be with someone who is not the person's type at all. I want someone who looks like Ritsu Kisaragi, and not someone who looks like Brad Pitt.

I am serious and honest. And also, don't post any of my contact details or other website accounts here. Please, respect my privacy.
 

Fenner

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There really is no straight answer for this. I guess when you meet the right person.
 
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MissCris

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Not sure how anyone besides you could post your personal information...

Anyway...I hope you find what you're looking for. I promise not to be the girl who takes the last Snape on earth.

Best wishes.
 

ChandlerFan

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To put it really simply, the right time will be whenever God has decided. But for a girl as picky as you, that could be never.
 

hoss2576

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So I have progressed well in Christianity. I am not a nymphomaniac nor an idolater anymore, but I still need to learn things about Jesus and God. I pray and read the Bible but not everyday, just several times every month and when I can because I am quite busy and I pray when I can and when I have something to tell God or ask Him. I am usually also helpful to people and God wants me to be helpful to people. I also worship God and Jesus by writing few Christian songs and also listening to some Christian music. And I repent my sins and I ask for forgiveness and I try not to sin.
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We all struggle at times with our desires to find a mate. Honestly though, I think you need to focus on strengthening your relationship with Christ first. That relationship has to be your first priority. Reading your Bible a couple of times a month and praying when you just have something to say shows you're still at the beginning of your walk with Him. Until that relationship is strong, it is not going to matter what man walks into your life, long hair and all.
 
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kenthomas27

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Well aren't I over here looking like Brad Pitt and feeling stupid....
 
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Not sure how anyone besides you could post your personal information...

Anyway...I hope you find what you're looking for. I promise not to be the girl who takes the last Snape on earth.

Best wishes.
Because in another thread someone found another online account of hers and posted the link.
 

Ella85

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Seriously, men are over rated.. are you sure you want one?

Jks :p

Chill out! Your 18! It takes a long time to find the right guy, the guy who respects you and calls you beautiful are the ones worth keeping. When a guy is able to appreciate you for your beautiful personality and not only your looks then go for it. In the mean time, have fun! Live your life :)
 

tourist

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So I have progressed well in Christianity. I am not a nymphomaniac nor an idolater anymore, but I still need to learn things about Jesus and God. I pray and read the Bible but not everyday, just several times every month and when I can because I am quite busy and I pray when I can and when I have something to tell God or ask Him. I am usually also helpful to people and God wants me to be helpful to people. I also worship God and Jesus by writing few Christian songs and also listening to some Christian music. And I repent my sins and I ask for forgiveness and I try not to sin.

How long do I have to still wait so I can get my future husband? I know what my future husband will look like but when will he come to my life? I am scared that the man of my type will be the last guy of my type in Earth and another girl takes him before me and then there are no guys of my type for me. I am afraid that the very peaceful guy who is older than me and 6'1/185cm tall or more and born again non-denominational Christian and has black long hair and pale or light skin is very rare in Earth and that soon another girl will take the last one... I refuse to be with someone who is not my type because I will feel really fake to be with someone who is not my type and also, God doesn't force anyone to be with someone who is not the person's type at all. I want someone who looks like Ritsu Kisaragi, and not someone who looks like Brad Pitt.

I am serious and honest. And also, don't post any of my contact details or other website accounts here. Please, respect my privacy.
Give the pertinent details of your expectations to God and then trust Him to search and find the man of your dreams and heart's desire. You will be deliriously happy with His choice for you but this may take a little time so please be patient. Your testimony today is is most encouraging compared to the troubles of your past posts. This is a good sign and I thank God for that for you.
 

troubledgirl

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Give the pertinent details of your expectations to God and then trust Him to search and find the man of your dreams and heart's desire. You will be deliriously happy with His choice for you but this may take a little time so please be patient. Your testimony today is is most encouraging compared to the troubles of your past posts. This is a good sign and I thank God for that for you.
Yes, ofcourse I already prayed that I can get a guy with black long hair and that's the guy God will give me. God won't force me to be with someone who is not my type at all. I swear that I will never fall in love with another type of guy. I will always fall in love with someone with black long hair. And it's true because my crushes in my whole life were almost always guys with black long hair, at least nowdays I only tend to fall in love with tall guys with black long hair. I liked the knave of Hearts from the 2010's Alice in Wonderland, then Severus Snape, and then I like Ritsu Kisaragi but Ritsu is not my crush because I avoid having crushes on fictional characters, but I find Ritsu Kisaragi to be the cutest guy from La Corda D'Oro Blue Sky. And when I was 13, I also had a crush on some emo guy with black long hair.
 
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Yes, ofcourse I already prayed that I can get a guy with black long hair and that's the guy God will give me. God won't force me to be with someone who is not my type at all. I swear that I will never fall in love with another type of guy. I will always fall in love with someone with black long hair. And it's true because my crushes in my whole life were almost always guys with black long hair, at least nowdays I only tend to fall in love with tall guys with black long hair. I liked the knave of Hearts from the 2010's Alice in Wonderland, then Severus Snape, and then I like Ritsu Kisaragi but Ritsu is not my crush because I avoid having crushes on fictional characters, but I find Ritsu Kisaragi to be the cutest guy from La Corda D'Oro Blue Sky. And when I was 13, I also had a crush on some emo guy with black long hair.
One thing that you will discover as you grow in your faith is that God changes hearts. In the process of perfecting us, God molds our hearts to match His. As the Bible says, His will is PERFECT. I understand that you have some preferences(we all do), but if you allow those preferences to bias you, they very well may blind you to the perfect path that God wants you to travel.

True joy is heaven. Heaven is conformed to God's perfect will. True joy is being conformed to God's perfect will. It's not an easy process; God tells us to "deny our selves and follow Jesus", but in the end, true joy, true peace, is worth it.

God Bless.
 

troubledgirl

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One thing that you will discover as you grow in your faith is that God changes hearts. In the process of perfecting us, God molds our hearts to match His. As the Bible says, His will is PERFECT. I understand that you have some preferences(we all do), but if you allow those preferences to bias you, they very well may blind you to the perfect path that God wants you to travel.

True joy is heaven. Heaven is conformed to God's perfect will. True joy is being conformed to God's perfect will. It's not an easy process; God tells us to "deny our selves and follow Jesus", but in the end, true joy, true peace, is worth it.

God Bless.
I doubt God would change my preference in men. If He does, then that's pretty much forcing. I don't want God to change me into liking guys who look like Brad Pitt or Channing Tatum. Short hair on guys is overrated and I will always get bored and tired of a guy who has short hair. And then blonde hair on guys is pretty child-like in my opinion, and I got some mental scars from red hair because I remember that there was an Internet sexual molester who had ginger hair and he looked like Ron Weasley too, and brown hair is pretty average, but the darkest brown ever or black hair is the best on a guy because it makes them very mysterious and masculine. I am 5'8 tall, so I would feel like I am a smurfophiliac to be with a guy who is shorter than me and short guys anyway want short girls, and I want the guy to be AT LEAST a millisecond OLDER than me because I would feel like a cougar to be with a guy who is younger than me. Then I don't like it when people play pranks on me and make some surprise parties and party all the time and act like Mad Hatters and laugh all the time about serious things too and tease me and tell or make stupid jokes that anger me or make me sad or upset, so this is why my ideal guy's personality is really peaceful and calm because they respect me. And I am attracted to pale or light skin because I am pale too and I just like pale or light skin for some reason, but I am not racist because I respect races and other skin colors and I respect all people but I like the combination of black long hair and pale or light skin, it makes them mysterious. And it's even pretty normal to want the partner to be the same race. A lot of white people want other white people, and black people want other black people, and Asians want other Asians. It doesn't mean the person is racist because the person wants the partner to be the same race. So please, I hope you don't think I am racist and I hope you don't call me racist. Racist is when a person hates another race person, but I don't hate any people.
 

hoss2576

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Yes, ofcourse I already prayed that I can get a guy with black long hair and that's the guy God will give me. God won't force me to be with someone who is not my type at all. I swear that I will never fall in love with another type of guy. I will always fall in love with someone with black long hair. And it's true because my crushes in my whole life were almost always guys with black long hair, at least nowdays I only tend to fall in love with tall guys with black long hair. I liked the knave of Hearts from the 2010's Alice in Wonderland, then Severus Snape, and then I like Ritsu Kisaragi but Ritsu is not my crush because I avoid having crushes on fictional characters, but I find Ritsu Kisaragi to be the cutest guy from La Corda D'Oro Blue Sky. And when I was 13, I also had a crush on some emo guy with black long hair.
Haven't we gone this route before with your other thread? I hate to inform you of this, but you are still practicing idolatry. Putting this specific type of guy on such a high pedestal, yes, even above God is a form of idolatry. God is not a real big fan of that, and I would consider working harder to put God where He belongs. We all have our physical preferences, but I don't think you will find anyone so locked in to a type that we cannot be responsive to others.

Seriously, you asked how much longer you have to wait? For your benefit, you need to to work on other things if you want to have a good relationship. If you want to be a strong christian, focus on that first.
 

troubledgirl

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Haven't we gone this route before with your other thread? I hate to inform you of this, but you are still practicing idolatry. Putting this specific type of guy on such a high pedestal, yes, even above God is a form of idolatry. God is not a real big fan of that, and I would consider working harder to put God where He belongs. We all have our physical preferences, but I don't think you will find anyone so locked in to a type that we cannot be responsive to others.

Seriously, you asked how much longer you have to wait? For your benefit, you need to to work on other things if you want to have a good relationship. If you want to be a strong christian, focus on that first.
Then you have no idea what is idolatry. First of all, I am not putting any guy above God. It is just that I cannot imagine myself being with a random weirdo who is not my type at all. I will feel so fake being with a random weirdo who is not my type.
 

troubledgirl

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Oh goodness, why is everybody telling me to stop liking black long hair? Does it mean that all of the guys of my type who are Christian are taken? Fine, I'll search someone who is my type but atheist or in a Christian denomination like Catholic.
 
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