Rude-What if he says no?

[Shouryu]

If a father withheld his blessing, I suppose the next step would be to respectfully ask him why he felt that way. Maybe the dad knows his daughter far better than the guy, and may either know she is not ready or may see something in the guy that sends up some sort of red flag. If the father/daughter relationship is close/healthy, the guy might want to give careful consideration to what the father said. If the daughter really isn't ready, the guy should respect that. If the dad is troubled about the guy for some reason, a respectful conversation might clear up some misunderstandings. While I feel the lady should most definitely have a say, her dad's wishes are certainly something to ponder. Marriage is difficult enough without starting out with tension among family members.

JULES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
*pouncetacklehugs*

Missed you so much, Red! Good to see you back. ^_^

 

[PopClick]

I would think that most girls know, deep down inside, if their dad loves them and has had their best interests at heart, and if he has been wise and fair in the past. If he has done all of those things, they should absolutely take his opinion to heart. My own dad and I are so close that we usually get along with the same people anyway. And if he thought I was making the wrong choice about something, I would definitely listen to him. I would want specific reasons why he thought it was a bad idea, though. If for no other reason, the specifics would make it easier to avoid a mistake down the road, with someone else.

In certain circumstances, such as the girl being a Christian while her dad isn't, or if her dad has barely been a part of her life, or if he has consistently shown poor judgment with his own choices, or if he gives a silly reason for not liking the guy, it would be a lot harder to accept his opinion. Ultimately I'd say that it's a case-by-case thing.