It's Not About The Nail - YouTube
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It's not about the nail.
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Still working on this. When I was a junior in college, God asked me to transfer even though I really didn't want to, and I found out that one of the main reasons that He wanted me to be where my sister was. She went through a hard year dealing with depression and anxiety with school and RA responsibilities going on, and I was able to be there to talk with, or rather listen to, her. I made the mistake many times of trying to fix her problems instead of listening, but over the course of that year I learned pretty well. We had dinners many a time where she spent an hour talking to me while I just sat and listened, and even though it felt so odd to me to just be listening, I knew it was helping her. I still find myself wanting to be a fixer instead of just listening, and my hope is that while I'm working on becoming a better listener, that women will also be patient with men as they attempt to learn how to do that because it doesn't come naturally.
I don't think that's the point of the video, though. I think the point of it was to reveal the stereotype ascribed to women that says not that they are stubborn or ignorant of their issues, but that they are helped more by another person listening to them talk about their problems rather than trying to fix them. Women getting together to "talk about their problems" is actually a cliche idea now I feel like even though the stereotype might not be true for some/many.
There's nothing wrong with that either, btw. The video is just some comedic satire and not meant to bash women. If a person has a problem I want to know how I can help them, and if what will help them is having a listening ear, then that's great. It just doesn't make sense to guys in general because that's not how we're wired, but I like that things generally are that way because it puts guys in a position, especially in the context of a romantic relationship, where they really do have to look past themselves and put their own desires aside to learn how to help and care for their girlfriend/wife.
There's nothing wrong with that either, btw. The video is just some comedic satire and not meant to bash women. If a person has a problem I want to know how I can help them, and if what will help them is having a listening ear, then that's great. It just doesn't make sense to guys in general because that's not how we're wired, but I like that things generally are that way because it puts guys in a position, especially in the context of a romantic relationship, where they really do have to look past themselves and put their own desires aside to learn how to help and care for their girlfriend/wife.
I've seen this before, and I thought it was hilarious, but I relate more with the man than the woman in this scenario. When I'm talking to girlfriends of mine, I try suggesting solutions and they preeeetty much respond exactly like the woman in the video. I understand that sometimes having someone to listen can be the best thing for some people, but it takes a lot of effort for me to stop myself from saying "look, seriously, there is a problem as big as a billboard staring you in the face and if you just did _____ then you wouldn't have all these anxious feelings anymore".
Im still learning how to find the right balance, but I've gotten better. Thankfully, when it comes to my fiancé and I, we approach things like this in the same way, so I appreciate and welcome his suggestions, and he never leaves me feeling like he hasn't listened to me.
Im still learning how to find the right balance, but I've gotten better. Thankfully, when it comes to my fiancé and I, we approach things like this in the same way, so I appreciate and welcome his suggestions, and he never leaves me feeling like he hasn't listened to me.