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Jake_from_state_farm

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Sometimes I stay up late looking at the stars wondering why...why do all the women I have chosen to be in a relationship with throws me away? why do I always chose to give them my all when I know they give me little. I am tired of all the heart ache and the disappointment. Yet...God says keep looking. How can I be positive about this? I don't know anymore. I am lost in a sea of confusion. I guess I need to start dating christian women... because nothing else is working. SO I tell you... I am looking for something real.. and maybe give me a reason why I should not be so confused.
 
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Jake, stop dating for a while. Focus on other things like school and what god wants you to do. Taking time to focus on yourself now will give you the confidence to not put up with that baloney and finding someone who's caring.
 
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Fenner said:
Jake, stop dating for a while. Focus on other things like school and what god wants you to do. Taking time to focus on yourself now will give you the confidence to not put up with that baloney and finding someone who's caring.
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I am not looking; that's the thing...Women just wind up in my life... and I no longer go to school. Also, I know what I want, i know myself very well. and I am working on what god wants me to do...but I have taken a path that will hinder it for now until I get out of the military, but of course it will not stop me.
 
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Jake_from_state_farm said:
Sometimes I stay up late looking at the stars wondering why...why do all the women I have chosen to be in a relationship with throws me away? why do I always chose to give them my all when I know they give me little. I am tired of all the heart ache and the disappointment. Yet...God says keep looking. How can I be positive about this? I don't know anymore. I am lost in a sea of confusion. I guess I need to start dating christian women... because nothing else is working. SO I tell you... I am looking for something real.. and maybe give me a reason why I should not be so confused.
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Absolutely, you should be dating christian women instead of non-believers. I don't know the state of your spiritual walk, but if you are a believer in Christ, we are commanded not to yolk ourselves to unbelievers. There are a plethora of reasons for this. First and foremost is simply you and any woman who isn't a believer are going to have different priorities. You are also going to have a different value set. This is probably why you are not finding a lot of success.

I know most younger people don't like hearing this, but you are also still on the early part of your dating journey. It takes patience, and it is a growth process. Enjoy your time of fellowship with friends now and learn what you can from mentors. Lean on Christ and He will lead you through it all.
 
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hoss2576 said:
Absolutely, you should be dating christian women instead of non-believers. I don't know the state of your spiritual walk, but if you are a believer in Christ, we are commanded not to yolk ourselves to unbelievers. There are a plethora of reasons for this. First and foremost is simply you and any woman who isn't a believer are going to have different priorities. You are also going to have a different value set. This is probably why you are not finding a lot of success.

I know most younger people don't like hearing this, but you are also still on the early part of your dating journey. It takes patience, and it is a growth process. Enjoy your time of fellowship with friends now and learn what you can from mentors. Lean on Christ and He will lead you through it all.
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The things Is, I have no mentors and I also have no more time to learn... I am suppose to be a "man" well thats what my mother says.. and my walk with god started about four years ago.
 
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I just wanted to say, Hi Jake from State Farm! I've heard a lot about you! Well really only your name from the American channels we get here *waves*
 
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I just wanted to say, Hi Jake from Farm State! I've heard a lot about you! Well really only your name from the American channels we get here *waves*
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Hahaha, hello
 
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Jake_from_state_farm said:
The things Is, I have no mentors and I also have no more time to learn... I am suppose to be a "man" well thats what my mother says.. and my walk with god started about four years ago.
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Mentors can come in all forms and you may have to search them out. There are even some great Godly men here on CC you can turn to who can give you sound advice simply because they have already been through it. That's what we do as brothers in Christ, we lift each other up and not sound like an old geezer but the older guys try to help the younger generation of men like yourself. Learning also comes in all forms. I am not necessarily talking about the classroom.

I understand what your mom is trying to imply by telling you that you are supposed to be a "man." It isn't just a matter of chronological age, but a matter of emotional, spiritual, and mental maturity. Those things come with time and work.
 
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Just because a woman shows up in your life doesn't mean you should date her. Not sure i grasp that logic.
 
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Just because a woman shows up in your life doesn't mean you should date her. Not sure i grasp that logic.
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I didn't mean it like that..
 
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Jake_from_state_farm said:
Sometimes I stay up late looking at the stars wondering why...why do all the women I have chosen to be in a relationship with throws me away? why do I always chose to give them my all when I know they give me little. I am tired of all the heart ache and the disappointment. Yet...God says keep looking. How can I be positive about this? I don't know anymore. I am lost in a sea of confusion. I guess I need to start dating christian women... because nothing else is working. SO I tell you... I am looking for something real.. and maybe give me a reason why I should not be so confused.
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God said that? Definitely confused. If you've been dating sinner girls, I would definitely question your ability to hear God..... & know Him...... just sayin'.
 
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God said that? Definitely confused. If you've been dating sinner girls, I would definitely question your ability to hear God..... & know Him...... just sayin'.
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wait. out of curiosity, what is a "sinner girl"? because that's the only kind i know.
 
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A.... girl.... that's.... not.... a.... christian. K?
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thanks for clearing that up. : )

i was confused by your answer, because i tend to think of us all as sinners, falling short of the glory of God. the only difference between the two is God and forgiveness.
 
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thanks for clearing that up. : )

i was confused by your answer, because i tend to think of us all as sinners, falling short of the glory of God. the only difference between the two is God and forgiveness.
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i enjoy your playful disposition gypsygirl
 
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Can you get me a discount on my car insurance?? :rolleyes:











(just kidding)
 
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I guess I need to start dating christian women... because nothing else is working.

Not necessarily, you need to focus on women with good virtues and moral values. Many of these non-Christian women probably wouldn't have a problem converting to the Christian life if they are in love with their future husband. We all know the story of Ruth, who was a Moabite but married a Jew. Her Jewish faith was tested but she prevailed and later remarried another Jewish man, Boaz, a very wealthy landowner. Boaz was very impressed with her newly elected Jewish faith. Please remember Moabites were greatly despised by the Jews because of their pagan worship & human sacrifices.
 
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Jake_from_state_farm said:
Sometimes I stay up late looking at the stars wondering why...why do all the women I have chosen to be in a relationship with throws me away? why do I always chose to give them my all when I know they give me little. I am tired of all the heart ache and the disappointment. Yet...God says keep looking. How can I be positive about this? I don't know anymore. I am lost in a sea of confusion. I guess I need to start dating christian women... because nothing else is working. SO I tell you... I am looking for something real.. and maybe give me a reason why I should not be so confused.
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(Okay, let me share my thought here and see if anyone else has touched on it already. *scrolls down)
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I am not looking; that's the thing...Women just wind up in my life... and I no longer go to school. Also, I know what I want, i know myself very well. and I am working on what god wants me to do...but I have taken a path that will hinder it for now until I get out of the military, but of course it will not stop me.
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Haha.. (okay, all kidding aside), I think if you gave your all, your everything, then that alone should be your satisfaction whether she reciprocates or not. I know it would be wonderful if she does the same, but at least have no regret or disappointment if you've given your all. AND... focusing on God and dating Christian women should be like a standard practice as commented.
 
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Stephen63 said:

God said that? Definitely confused. If you've been dating sinner girls, I would definitely question your ability to hear God..... & know Him...... just sayin'.
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I ment keep looking for the right one...
 
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