Why are you still single? Answers we wish we could give.

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cinder

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So we all get the question from time to time about why we are single. And although it is a personal and sometimes rude question because we are decent people we feel compelled to answer politely. So it seems that we should have a thread where we can all say what we really wanted to say in response and hopefully the people who ask can come here and read more honest or at least more entertaining answers. So I'll start:

Because people tend to freak out when I tell them I think I'm capable of murder under the right circumstances.

Because I'm too smart to marry a loser like you.

Because the men I connect with best are dead authors.
 

Liamson

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Answer I wish I could give: I'm too picky.



real answer: I'm not ready.
 

Ella85

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How easy is it to get involved with someone without fully considering all the possibilities.
How will they effect my life...
My spirit..

It takes a long time to consider everything.

How many times can one keep going around the merry go round?

The choice is up to my God, He knows better than I do.
 
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INTJer

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#4
I would rather have a quiet evening in my study reading a book than listen to your 80's rock and roll or have to listen to the TV blaring.

I am comfortable not having to talk all the time.

Yes, because I go to a different church than you go to means I am "unsaved." Actually, I am part of an ancient Satanic conspiracy that has to do with the Pope and space aliens - just as you suspected.

To me, the latest music means something recently composed by Arvo Pärt.

I would rather cook a meal to my own liking than go to some crowded, pretentious restaurant.

The car has only 100,000 miles on it - why replace it, it is just getting broken in.
 

Roh_Chris

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What I say - 'I am too busy with my career.'

What I wish I could say - 'Pray tell me, how does my relationship status affect your future in eternity?'
 
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Aya2011

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#6
Cuz everybody's married in my church and the rest are 10 years younger than me.
 
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ww_21

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#7
"Because it's none of your business that's why."

 

tourist

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Mar 13, 2014
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#9
I have only been single for less than 6 months. What I get put to me is "You're not thinking about getting remarried again, are you?" A strong motivating force would have to be loneliness. Yes, it is indeed possible but I am certainly not desperate to do so.
 
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persNickety

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#10
What I have used:
It just hasn't happened yet. And it may not. Doesn't happen for everyone.

Not 100% sure that I want to be married (grain of truth here).



If the person is knows me more- then I may divulge more personal reasons.
 

tourist

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#11
What I have used:
It just hasn't happened yet. And it may not. Doesn't happen for everyone.

Not 100% sure that I want to be married (grain of truth here).



If the person is knows me more- then I may divulge more personal reasons.
Based on my experiences in relationships I would have to say that you are never 100% sure of any aspect of your prospective mate. For someone to get to know you more you must allow yourself to be vulnerable to a certain extent. My best piece of advice when considering a relationship with someone is to stay in prayer with God and allow Him to do the leading. God will not force anyone to start a relationship. You may reach a point where you just have to shake the dice and let 'em fly. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
 
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jer2911

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#12
So we all get the question from time to time about why we are single. And although it is a personal and sometimes rude question because we are decent people we feel compelled to answer politely. So it seems that we should have a thread where we can all say what we really wanted to say in response and hopefully the people who ask can come here and read more honest or at least more entertaining answers. So I'll start:

Because people tend to freak out when I tell them I think I'm capable of murder under the right circumstances.

Because I'm too smart to marry a loser like you.

Because the men I connect with best are dead authors.


1. I reply with a big smile. grinning and smiling at the same time (secret!!!)
2. Asked them at once, "What about your children, are they married?" (divert the attention)
3. Shrug-off shoulders and sing "Only Heaven Knows". One time I'll teach you the right tone.
4. Yes, I'm still single, and you are sin-gle (pronounced it like this), then we are singled-out! Laugh out Loud
5. Ring back your mobile, then pretend you have an urgent call... (Do the best exit!)
6. I am single, but I'm into dating male friends once in a while.
7. Pretend to feel sick and grab a chair trying to sit down. "I'm sorry, I don't feel good." You were saying...?"
8. I have an amnesia for a long time only to find now that I am single. (to get sympathy)
9. Yes, I am single. Would you like to apply?
10. Yes, I'm single, I'm available to do your dishes, laundry, etc. Would that be nice?

If all of the above are not effective. Well this is what I have to post here:

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tourist

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#13
I like response #9. Response #10 is amusing. Perhaps it is a trick question to separate the wheat from the chaff.
 
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Aya2011

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#14
Reply 1: Secret!!!

Geeezz, that should have been my answer.
 
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biscuit

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#15
you are not my type
you are not ready
 

Stuey

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Aug 17, 2009
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Answer I wish I could give: I'm too picky.



real answer: I'm not ready.
=/

I think I've recently came to the same conclusion about myself.

Maybe.

Bleh.
 
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BugeyeSTi

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There's a couple I wish I could say without any repercussions.

- I'm too selfish to deeply care and nurture about another person at this point in my life

- Serious talks about "_____" are not what I want at this point in my life.

- Because I like to spend my own money.

- Women are like wars, there's always another around the corner.
 

Tinkerbell725

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Jul 19, 2014
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Because i believe in miracles? Lol!

Its hard to find a God-centered man, sensitive to others, self controlled, responsible, open and communicative and motivated by principle. They are all probably taken. It would literally take a miracle to find one.
 
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Aya2011

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Because i believe in miracles? Lol!

Its hard to find a God-centered man, sensitive to others, self controlled, responsible, open and communicative and motivated by principle. They are all probably taken. It would literally take a miracle to find one.
I say, keep the faith sistah!