IS Friendship between man and woman possible

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Shouryu said:
Yes.

I have, like, a billion platonic friends.

Maybe I'm exaggerating. Half a billion.




But seriously, I have so many women friends that I have absolutely NO romantic interest in, it's ludicrous. I collect platonic friends like no one's business. I suppose it's possible that some of them may have romantic leanings towards me, but if so, not many, and not often. *shrug*
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(I apologize in advance however it IS my job to pick on you as much as humanly possible.)
 
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Yes it's possible! But i don't believe best friends can be 100% successful between opposite gender especially when both are in the relationships. Because it'll be hard to maintain it. I'd once tried that, but it didn't work out. Both of our ex's were jelous of the friendships even though our intentions were clear.

If you want to pursue a friendship with an opposite gender, be sure you both know your feelings and intentions. If he/she is in the relationship, don't act like a fool or mess up on their relationship.

If you are on the relationship with whom who has best friend with an opposite gender, i suggest you trust more and respect your beloved and don't let his/her best friend be the reason to give up on the relationship. Be wise on making your decision, pray and trust God in everything you do. God bless!
 
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fourleaf said:
Yes it's possible! But i don't believe best friends can be 100% successful between opposite gender especially when both are in the relationships. Because it'll be hard to maintain it. I'd once tried that, but it didn't work out. Both of our ex's were jelous of the friendships even though our intentions were clear.

If you want to pursue a friendship with an opposite gender, be sure you both know your feelings and intentions. If he/she is in the relationship, don't act like a fool or mess up on their relationship.

If you are on the relationship with whom who has best friend with an opposite gender, i suggest you trust more and respect your beloved and don't let his/her best friend be the reason to give up on the relationship. Be wise on making your decision, pray and trust God in everything you do. God bless!
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I am assuming that this question is directed toward single people who aren't in other relationships. I would definitely not advise being super close friends with others of the opposite gender (hanging out alone, long talks on the phone, etc) when you have a spouse or g/b friend.
 
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Definitely. Even if there are feeling from one side or the other...as long as nobody crosses boundaries then all is well. My bff of 13 years is a male and we have never thought of eachother as more than just friends.
 
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I don't think you could atay best frienda with the oppostie sex over time unless it turns to something more. Even then when you start dating and if you eventually marry, it wouldn't be right for that person to get more or just as much attention as the person you're seeing. Either way, the opposite sex best friend relationship always changes one way or another.
 
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jsr1221 said:
I don't think you could atay best frienda with the oppostie sex over time unless it turns to something more. Even then when you start dating and if you eventually marry, it wouldn't be right for that person to get more or just as much attention as the person you're seeing. Either way, the opposite sex best friend relationship always changes one way or another.
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*Can't stay best friends. Didn't notice the typos til afterwards. Sorry for that.
 
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Depends on the nature of the friendship. If strong boundaries are in place, yes, friendships are fine. I have plenty of male friends, but I don't hang out alone with them or engage in long private conversations over the phone/text. I only interact with them in group environments, but I enjoy our chats and I would definitely call these men my friends. Also, I'm generally friends with the significant other/family of these men rather than just the man.

Ill also note note that my male friends are of all ages. Some are teen boys who are practically like little brothers to me, some are classmates who are my age, some are older men from church who I serve alongside in ministry, some are fathers of children I babysit, etc.

I wouldn't dare completely close myself off to friendships with my brothers in Christ, but I believe healthy, strong boundaries are necessary to maintain propriety.
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I think this explains it pretty well ^

It's sort of like there is a timer, and every time the two people interact the timer starts, and when it gets to zero the friendship is effectively ruined. So guys and girls can be friends for a period of time, but if you interact too much you'll waste all the friendship time and the relationship will try to move itself forward. I think the workaround is to have a whole bunch of different friends and never talk to one person too much, that way you can spread the time out for a long time before slowly drifting apart once you both get into romantic relationships.
 
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Just wanted to add these verses...

1 Timothy 5:1-2:
Rebuke not an elder, but intreat him as a father; and the younger men as brethren;The elder women as mothers; the younger as sisters, with all purity.

So even in God's word it says that pure relationships between men and women are possible.
 
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If a man is spiritually mature and the woman is spiritually mature then they can be friends. They aren't suppose to be led of their own fleshly desires and feelings. If they are led by the Holy Spirit they are brothers and sisters in Christ and in that there is a bonding of Godly love. That love is great and it's not a romantic type of love but a love that Jesus had no matter what sex the person was. He loved men and women. He had friends who were men and women. He understood the love of God and was not afraid to be seen with the opposite sex. Women were drawn to Him by His love that radiated out of Him, just as the men were. The bible talks about the disciple whom Jesus loved, he laid his head on the Lord's bosom. If the church could only understand the love of God and mature to where they could communicate as brother's and sister's in Christ and put away all other desires.....
 
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Absolutely. If both people are on the same page, and are crystal clear about it being a God-honoring friendship, then yes. One of my closest friends is a wonderful sister in Christ. And that's how we see each other - brother and sister in Christ.
And occasional OKCupid sounding board.
 
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I don't keep females as friends. Honestly I don't keep very many people as friends period.
 
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Grace-Like-Rain said:
The way this is worded reminded me of something like, "I don't keep dogs as pets". :rolleyes:
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Honestly, I am very very very very selective on who I call friend. only 5 people have that distinction. none female. I see no reason in having a female as a friend. if it is not relationship into marriage then the ends do not justify the means.
 
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wisebeardman said:
Honestly, I am very very very very selective on who I call friend. only 5 people have that distinction. none female. I see no reason in having a female as a friend. if it is not relationship into marriage then the ends do not justify the means.
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This deserves some serious thought... perhaps even a new thread really.

Even for men who aren't interested in dating or marrying... are female relationships important? Women add softness to the world. Gentleness and compassion and maternal affection. I'm not talking about WOMEN women, but any woman... a mother figure or a sisterly girl or the pastor's wife who makes you cookies when you are feeling down. Aren't these things important even for men who have no interest in romantic love?

Same goes for men. My life would be sad and unbalanced without men in it. Fatherly types and brotherly types and people to look at things objectively and give advice or help me with my lawnmower. The world needs both men and women, and they make one another better.
 
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Likewise there are friends of mine at work and at church who are women. Some are casual acquaintances, some are very good friends. Most of the good friends are the wives of men who are also my good friends. We ask each other's advice about things that are a given person's specialty (mine is computers, chocolate and music) we pick at each other in a good-natured way, we laugh at each other's jokes, etc.
 
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lol... I have real close male friends whom I view as brothers. I have known them for years and I think it's actually a matter of how one approaches a friendship with the opposite sex. In some cases, people find it difficult to have that friendship without falling for the other person but in my case, the thought hasn't really crossed my mind and it's kind of disgusting to picture theses friends in a romantic sense...
 
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Inu said:
lol... I have real close male friends whom I view as brothers. I have known them for years and I think it's actually a matter of how one approaches a friendship with the opposite sex. In some cases, people find it difficult to have that friendship without falling for the other person but in my case, the thought hasn't really crossed my mind and it's kind of disgusting to picture theses friends in a romantic sense...
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But do you know if they want to be more than friends? It's a problem if they want to be more than friends and you don't. Here's a video to explain and it also shows how to know if they actually 'like' you.. :rolleyes: (and its funny too lol)

[video=youtube;HcHBLx4dPog]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HcHBLx4dPog[/video]
 
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