Modesty, Modesty... Modesty!

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Calmador

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I just hate how theres a such thing as a bikini... and shorts for women in general are too short. If its 3 inches above the knee... thats far enough. Leggings are trashy. I don't like girls who wear tight clothes. It shows them to be cheap and trashy.

I don't want to marry a trashy woman. I just get so angry that when I meet a girl I sort of like... I later find out she wears things like this. I HATE IT.

What happened to two-piece swimsuits. (sigh) You know I think I'll marry foreign women... I think its an American thing...maybe a Californian thing? Idk. It happens within the church too.

I know I'm ranting but, doesn't one feel like this sometimes?
 

tourist

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I just hate how theres a such thing as a bikini... and shorts for women in general are too short. If its 3 inches above the knee... thats far enough. Leggings are trashy. I don't like girls who wear tight clothes. It shows them to be cheap and trashy.

I don't want to marry a trashy woman. I just get so angry that when I meet a girl I sort of like... I later find out she wears things like this. I HATE IT.

What happened to two-piece swimsuits. (sigh) You know I think I'll marry foreign women... I think its an American thing...maybe a Californian thing? Idk. It happens within the church too.

I know I'm ranting but, doesn't one feel like this sometimes?
No, I do not. "I wish they all could be California girls..."
 

jsr1221

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I went to a Christian college and down the road was the beach. Needless to say, girls would always wear short clothing before heading off to it and even walk back to campus in their bikinis. I agree it's a little upsetting to see. We're supposed to not let our brothers and sisters stray. Something lime that can easily cause one to stumble.
 

Fenner

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It seems that everyone wears a bikini now or strives to be in one. Even when I could wear a bikini I never did. Wasn't my thing. There are those nice two pieces that are longer, I own one. I won't even let my 7 year old daughter wear a bikini. It's a weird world and I don't want a sicko checking out my child. Maybe I'm over protective, but I'm teaching her now that more is better.
 

djness

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How angry are we talking? Like HULK SMASH angry?
 

DuchessAimee

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I understand that you guys feel violated in a way, but you're living in an age where the church is submersed in the culture. If you have a problem with a potential wife wearing a bikini (or the like) in public, talk to her about it. Personally, I don't do stuff like that. My body is for my husband. I plan to walk around the house scantily clad-- for him and until we have kids.




See, a woman should want to wear the clothes you're so against, but in the right context.
 

Fenner

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I understand that you guys feel violated in a way, but you're living in an age where the church is submersed in the culture. If you have a problem with a potential wife wearing a bikini (or the like) in public, talk to her about it. Personally, I don't do stuff like that. My body is for my husband. I plan to walk around the house scantily clad-- for him and until we have kids.




See, a woman should want to wear the clothes you're so against, but in the right context.

I hope you live in a warm climate. :)
 
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Raine

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It bothers me when I see moms supporting their daughters' poor self image. What do I mean by that? Society says beauty is showing off your body and letting people take a peek, so dress like a, b, and c. And some moms attempt to be "friends" with their kids so they buy clothes that aren't modest for their kids. Your kid feels pressured by society to look a certain way to be deemed beautiful. Don't support that! Teach her that her beauty comes from the inside and being modest for her brothers in Christ is even more beautiful than what the world says. This is a beauty valued by the one and only true artist: God.

Thus! I totally support what you are doing fennel with your daughter. :)
 

blue_ladybug

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I went to a Christian college and down the road was the beach. Needless to say, girls would always wear short clothing before heading off to it and even walk back to campus in their bikinis. I agree it's a little upsetting to see. We're supposed to not let our brothers and sisters stray. Something lime that can easily cause one to stumble.

Limes can make a person stumble?! :p ​I will have to avoid limes in the future, lest I should stumble!! :)
 
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emarie

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I just hate how theres a such thing as a bikini... and shorts for women in general are too short. If its 3 inches above the knee... thats far enough. Leggings are trashy. I don't like girls who wear tight clothes. It shows them to be cheap and trashy.

I don't want to marry a trashy woman. I just get so angry that when I meet a girl I sort of like... I later find out she wears things like this. I HATE IT.

What happened to two-piece swimsuits. (sigh) You know I think I'll marry foreign women... I think its an American thing...maybe a Californian thing? Idk. It happens within the church too.

I know I'm ranting but, doesn't one feel like this sometimes?
While I do agree that as Christians we should dress modestly, we shouldn't look down on or condemn anyone that feels differently. One of my dear friends (bless her heart) dresses in shorts that barely cover her rear end and a tight, sleeveless shirt. I talk to her about modesty and try to help her make more reasonable, God-honoring standards, but that is ultimately HER decision. It is HER walk with The Lord and she will be accountable for making others stumble. As Bible-believing Christians, we should be kind and minister to those women who dress immodestly.

But to answer your question, yes. It is disheartening when I see women (especially Christians) who dress immodestly. But that's just my opinion, and I do not judge others. :)
 

gypsygirl

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calmador,

well, i know of a few places where you'll find lots of modesty, and many, many burqas. seriously, though...


if there are women that you know who dress that way and have a good relationship with them, maybe you should share your thoughts in a loving way. have you considered the thought that they simply don't know any better? that they are living what they think is what is expected of them, or the standard for which they measure themselves against?

i wasn't raised with values of modesty, but rather, the opposite. i was taught that it was "stupid to cover up what God gave me". i was that a woman's value is first and foremost, what can be seen.


i would encourage you to think about the fact that girls who dress that way are usually doing so because they've been taught that it is either acceptable, or even ideal. they're trying to measure up to what the world says women should be--to be seen of value by the primary currency our world respects. and once you've been doing that for a bit, you really don't even think about it any more.

when i see women who are walking in walmart with their chest jacked up to their chin and wearing tiny shorts, i say a prayer for them. i actually hurt for them, because i have a notion of what it feels like to be in their shoes, and believe that this is their path to acceptance and value.

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omen are so needy for attention and validation they are seeking it in what is probably the most natural way for them to get it. and the world applauds that. the world not only teaches it, but it has so pervasively made female beauty the measuring stick of women's value, that in this day and age, you have to almost have a rebellious spirit (or a very strong faith) to reject it that path.

if you want to know the truth, it takes courage and a lot of self-respect for women not to play that card in this world--especially for young women who are more subject to peer pressure and the very visually-driven social media-crazy world we live in. it's SO much easier to conform to the worlds' standards, especially if you've experienced that kind of validation before.

as a christian, when i grew in spiritual maturity, i radically changed how i dressed because i know it pleases God to respect ourselves, our bodies and to honor him with our words and actions, show loving support to our brothers, as well as preserve our testimony. today, i cringe when i think about how i used to dress --but that feels like a lifetime ago. but just like you, we are all on a path to becoming more christ-like.

before you get angry next time, please think about the soul of that woman. if she's a christian, she's still learning about spiritual maturity and how to separate from the world and it's standards. i would even challenge you to pray for that woman, because she needs to be viewed through the lens of mercy, grace and acceptance, just like i did, and just like you do.

and if that woman isn't a christian, i hope that you can see beyond her bikini, and see her as a truly lost soul. because if we were all just as lost as she is, the very last thing on our minds would be modesty, and it would be the least of our problems.
 
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Catlynn

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I can't decide whether to comment....or back away slowly...
 

christian74

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I just hate how theres a such thing as a bikini... and shorts for women in general are too short. If its 3 inches above the knee... thats far enough. Leggings are trashy. I don't like girls who wear tight clothes. It shows them to be cheap and trashy.

I don't want to marry a trashy woman. I just get so angry that when I meet a girl I sort of like... I later find out she wears things like this. I HATE IT.

What happened to two-piece swimsuits. (sigh) You know I think I'll marry foreign women... I think its an American thing...maybe a Californian thing? Idk. It happens within the church too.

I know I'm ranting but, doesn't one feel like this sometimes?


You know, just to share my thought right after reading your post is that you might have some issues that you need to deal with.

Too strong of words you are using, especially getting so angry???
I don't think one could and should get angry at women, even if they are wearing trashy outfits.
What about prostitutes walking in the dimly lighted street corner? Do you get angry at them?
What about near-naked girls in porn movies? Do you get angry at them?

Whether they wear trashy outfit or modest outfit, first and foremost, they are God's beloved daughters and you and I should consider that fact solemnly.

Really, it's more of a concern that you get so angry - there's usually an underlying reason why you get so angry for certain things and you should look into that; I am speaking from my personal experience.

God bless.
 

Oncefallen

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Jan 15, 2011
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It seems that everyone wears a bikini now or strives to be in one. Even when I could wear a bikini I never did. Wasn't my thing. There are those nice two pieces that are longer, I own one.
You mean something like this? :p:p

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Tintin

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Oh, just what we need, another modesty thread! Those bad women, yo. Rant, rave, rinse, repeat.
 

jsr1221

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Jul 7, 2013
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Oh, just what we need, another modesty thread! Those bad women, yo. Rant, rave, rinse, repeat.
I don't hear any discussion about guys and modesty. It should go both ways.