Breakthrough - the cause of relationship difficulties

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greatkraw

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I'm not sure if you are being serious or if you're being sarcastic. If you're being serious, I suggest you read some books on how the female brain works. If you're being sarcastic... well, I don't really have anything to say if you're being sarcastic.
in all seriouness please recommend some:)
 
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greatkraw

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#22
I've been reading about female brains, as you suggested. Interesting reading, but pretty much unsubstantiated nonsense.

I read that all brains start as female brains, and some turn in to male brains at 18 weeks with a testosterone injection. I don't believe it. Brains are brains. This book that everyone keeps talking about, "The Female Brain", I read a couple of chapters. Feminist propaganda.

Women these days in the secular world are taught from a very young age to control men by complaining to them about their actions. Look at Miley Cyrus's song "7 things I hate about you". Seemingly harmless, but she is encouraging young girls to systematically analyse the things they want to change about their boyfriends and convey this to them, preferrably through song.

Look at sit-coms these days. The typical family structure in them involves a dumb fat man as the husband, and a sparkling energetic pretty woman as the wife. The woman spends all her time confusing the man about what she wants him to do. The man spends all his time trying to keep up. The son is troubled, spending all his time in his room wondering why he can't understand women. The daughter manipulates her father into doing whatever she wants him to do. Its subtle, but its madness.

Look at romance movies. The male lead is always a pretty nancy boy, like Hugh Grant or Jude Law. They go to ridiculous lengths to please a seemingly plain woman. Fantasy, but it manifests itself as reality.

Even the 'christian' family drama - 7th Heaven. The wife is a control freak. The husband is a docile doormat who gives in to the stern looks of his wife and sugar-coated manipulative demands of his daughters.

Yes, I am convinced that the western world is being run behind closed doors by a group of socialist feminist women with hyphonated surnames who wear trousers. The end.

way too much truth in this

but

the stuff about how the male brain develops from the female brain is true

some women also end up with a somewhat male brain in some cases

there are a couple of simple tests you can do to determine this
 
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lil-rush

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#23
I've been reading about female brains, as you suggested. Interesting reading, but pretty much unsubstantiated nonsense.

I read that all brains start as female brains, and some turn in to male brains at 18 weeks with a testosterone injection. I don't believe it. Brains are brains. This book that everyone keeps talking about, "The Female Brain", I read a couple of chapters. Feminist propaganda.

Women these days in the secular world are taught from a very young age to control men by complaining to them about their actions. Look at Miley Cyrus's song "7 things I hate about you". Seemingly harmless, but she is encouraging young girls to systematically analyse the things they want to change about their boyfriends and convey this to them, preferrably through song.

Look at sit-coms these days. The typical family structure in them involves a dumb fat man as the husband, and a sparkling energetic pretty woman as the wife. The woman spends all her time confusing the man about what she wants him to do. The man spends all his time trying to keep up. The son is troubled, spending all his time in his room wondering why he can't understand women. The daughter manipulates her father into doing whatever she wants him to do. Its subtle, but its madness.

Look at romance movies. The male lead is always a pretty nancy boy, like Hugh Grant or Jude Law. They go to ridiculous lengths to please a seemingly plain woman. Fantasy, but it manifests itself as reality.

Even the 'christian' family drama - 7th Heaven. The wife is a control freak. The husband is a docile doormat who gives in to the stern looks of his wife and sugar-coated manipulative demands of his daughters.

Yes, I am convinced that the western world is being run behind closed doors by a group of socialist feminist women with hyphonated surnames who wear trousers. The end.
One could say women learned to manipulate men due to the fact that through out history men controlled women. As such, women had to learn how to subtly get men to at least do part of what they wanted. (not saying that is what I believe. Just saying one could say that) The belief is that men like to be in control. That is why it is a common instruction among women to present an idea to a man in such a way that he thinks he came up with the idea on his own.

In any case, women are not taught to control men through complaining. Women realize that men do not respond well to complaining, so why would they base their desire to get things done by complaining? As to the example of Miley's song, that does not prove your theory. It more shows that girls vent by complaining. If someone annoys me, I complain about it. Does that mean I am trying to get someone to do what I want? No. On the flip side, whenever you complain, are you trying to get someone to do what you want?

There are two types of complaining. Formal complaints (such as the sort you might write up and send to a business that did something you do not approve of, or the type of complaint you might file against someone you wish to take to court) and informal complaints (which would be pretty much any complaining you do amongst friends, relatives, significant others. Such as "all my boyfriend ever does is play that stupid Xbox360! It's so annoying").

In general, the gender role is that men get things done by being aggressive and assertive. As such, women had to find an alternative way to get things done for fear of being accused of acting "too manly." When a woman is assertive, she is called pushy. When a woman is aggressive, she is attacked. If you men are going to attack us for acting like you, what are we to do? You took the easier roles to fill, and so women had to blaze their own trail. If you don't approve of the trail, you cannot blame us. Blame your male ancestors for being domineering.
 
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lil-rush

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in all seriouness please recommend some:)
I've never actually read the book, but I have heard Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus does a good job of explaining how men and women's brains function differently.
 
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sunshine_debbie

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Wow, when I read the first post in this thread, I thought it was a joke. I really, really thought that MS was being sarcastic. Guess that shows you just what happens when you dont think things through enough. I am so sorry that in todays day and age, this thread even needs to exist.

Men and women should not talk to much?
Overthinking in a relationship causes divorce?
Men and women who use hand signals and grunts have marriages that last longer.

roflmbo

I have only been married for 12 years so I am not the authority on this matter at all. However, in ANY close relationship, including my relationship with God, I probably talk to much and I definately think to much. I was wondering is there some scripture to back up any of these things that some of these posters have commented on? Just so I can pass the information along to my grunting husband.

Debbie
 

Sharp

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[video]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bU1514VkDkc[/video]

Sorry to post a secular music video, but its relevant to the thread.

In this video girls are being taught to cry and whinge when they don't like some trivial thing that their boyfriend has done. They are taught to "train" their boyfriend into good behaviour by witholding themselves from the boy until he falls into line. Look at Miley singing about deciding whether or not her boyfriend's apology is sincere enough, and on that basis deciding whether to keep him.

"Your friends are jerks. When you act like them, just know it hurts". Oh come on now Miley. You can't expect a guy to be the same around you as he is with his friends. Nothing against Miley, I just think she has come under the influence of feminist forces.
 
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wwjd_kilden

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#28
way too much truth in this

but

the stuff about how the male brain develops from the female brain is true

some women also end up with a somewhat male brain in some cases

there are a couple of simple tests you can do to determine this
I took one once. My brain is 40% male
 
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greatkraw

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#29
is your ring finger longer than your index finger?

give yourself 60 seconds and draw a bicycle - then we can discuss the reults:)
 
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wwjd_kilden

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#30
equally long

okai, done
 
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wwjd_kilden

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#31
soooooooooooooooo?