Is it wrong to have a preference when dating

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ChristForTheNationsDavid

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Just thought I would see a woman's perspective of what they are looking for in a believer
 
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Raine

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We all have a natural attractiveness to certain types of people... And then there are standards or expectations that we also have in order to protect ourselves and others... So this is a really broad topic at the moment...
 

Desdichado

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Nothing wrong with it. One would be a fool to think they could a sustain a life-long relationship with anyone. There is a reason why they call it chemistry.
 
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JustAnotherUser

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I think to a certain extent, everyone has preferences. Why do you think that we say we want to see certain things within the other in order to find attractiveness towards them?

Physical preferences (assuming that is what you're talking about) may vary and it would depend on the reason you may have that preference to begin with and if it's healthy or not. I don't think that there's anything wrong with having some sort of image you would like seeing yourself paired up with, but don't have high hopes and strictly find that person that may in fact only be nothing more than a mental image *if you go to any specific details as to what you want from them.
 
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I don't get the post really.
Your title suggests you're asking people in general if having preferences is wrong or not. Despite not having a question mark. Since you didn't clarify i'm assuming you meant in seeking out a spouse or general attraction.

But then your post seems to be asking what women are looking for. Again assuming romantically, since you didn't specify except to say 'in a believer' which doesn't really make sense, in and of itself. And, again, missing punctuation.

Care to post more clearly what it is you're asking?
 

Pipp

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everyone has preferences whether they want to admit it or not...
 
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jeremyPJ

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I can't imagine why it would be wrong to have a preference. Enough folks got their mates picked for them centuries ago, I think that's sad.
 

Roh_Chris

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I can't imagine why it would be wrong to have a preference. Enough folks got their mates picked for them centuries ago, I think that's sad.
Meanwhile in some parts of Asia, the family still picks out the mates. I have heard that some Muslim communities also practice this. Apparently the groom and bride do not even meet until after their wedding.

I think one must always have a preference for his/her partner.
 
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Raine

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Meanwhile in some parts of Asia, the family still picks out the mates. I have heard that some Muslim communities also practice this. Apparently the groom and bride do not even meet until after their wedding.

I think one must always have a preference for his/her partner.
My mom is not very happy about some of the dating choices my siblings and I have made and she'll rant to my dad, "We should've just married them off when they were 15 or 16 like how my mom married me off to you! At least we could've picked good husbands for them!" Lol. She's not kidding but I laugh at her when she says this lol.
 
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Aya2011

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I don't find anything wrong with it. I will never again date a non-Christian guy.
 
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Richie_2uk

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Why don't we ask God what preference is suited to each person? and trust his WILL on the matter. Sure we can like or dislike people's preferences, but what does that say about the trust you have in God's will?
 

Roh_Chris

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My mom is not very happy about some of the dating choices my siblings and I have made and she'll rant to my dad, "We should've just married them off when they were 15 or 16 like how my mom married me off to you! At least we could've picked good husbands for them!" Lol. She's not kidding but I laugh at her when she says this lol.
Lol! My parents were "married off" by their parents. According to my mom, dad was too much of an introvert to even talk to her. But I have seen how it has been very difficult for both of them. So I will rather date someone who suits my preference before marrying.

Why don't we ask God what preference is suited to each person? and trust his WILL on the matter. Sure we can like or dislike people's preferences, but what does that say about the trust you have in God's will?
I had a bitter and traumatic childhood because my parents made a BIG MISTAKE in listening to people like you. I will pray for God's will, but if she is not compatible with me, I will not marry her. Of course, I will never know what the future holds. But I would do everything I can to minimize the risk of something going wrong.