the shallow pool and the deep end

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lav

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sometimes i feel like the singles forum is the land of shallow and the bible discussion is the off the deep end forum.
 
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I prefer to think of them as the land of "take things seriously" and the land of "relax a bit". Both have their seasons. :)
 
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Jullianna

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I think we all feel that way from time to time. Sometimes we are in pondering moods and create ponderous threads. Sometimes we've had enough serious and need to kick back for a season.

Stick around though. You'd be surprised at how deep the water can get in this forum. It is what we make it.

God bless. :)


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Roh_Chris

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Actually I think people in the Singles forum are more balanced. Not too serious about life and not too playful. There are threads where we let loose our craziness but there are some other threads where we have participated in intellectual discussions.

Personally, I would not participate in the Bible discussion forum. Most of the threads are not discussions anymore. They have turned into heated debates with a lot of mud-slinging. From personal experience, debating with a fellow Christian is a waste of time. In the end there is only anger/irritation and neither is edified. You can call me shallow if you want. But I am doing myself a great deal of help by staying away from such forums.
 
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lav

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Actually I think people in the Singles forum are more balanced. Not too serious about life and not too playful. There are threads where we let loose our craziness but there are some other threads where we have participated in intellectual discussions.

Personally, I would not participate in the Bible discussion forum. Most of the threads are not discussions anymore. They have turned into heated debates with a lot of mud-slinging. From personal experience, debating with a fellow Christian is a waste of time. In the end there is only anger/irritation and neither is edified. You can call me shallow if you want. But I am doing myself a great deal of help by staying away from such forums.
oh i don't go to the bible discussion forum either... i'm just quarantined to my room after a recent trauma and am trying to find balanced fellowship (in a safe place, my room) while i wait out the pain that i am enduring.

i was just beginning to participate in life and fully ready to overcome my anxieties and fears and call the enemy a liar for what he's tried to do to destroy my life, and he went for the jugular... so i am just trying to catch my breath and re-gain my composure before i venture out into the world again.

i was feeling so joyful and stable, and then i saw my abuser last monday at my aa meeting. i have been trying to recover ever since.
he is the one that triggered ptsd and instability and anxieties in me that i cannot even begin to describe.

i had prayed for him, it was my way of forgiving him, but i can't say it didn't throw me off to see him there and have to sit across from each other for two hours or more.

the blessing is that it caused me to take my mother to church for the first time.

i need all the support i can get right now, i understand the internet doesn't really substitute for face to face interactions and all...
 

Pipp

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I really don't feel like we are shallow here.... I looked it up just to see if it applies to the people I know.

An example of shallow is a person who only cares about someone's looks and how much money they have.

My friends here aren't like that... and God knows I have no reason to be shallow....

We love you Lav and I'm sorry you feel this way.
 
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lav

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i'm sorry guys... i'm just going through so much.

you can only do so much crying out for help and asking for prayer.

i'm really hurting and having a hard time.
 

Pipp

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*biggggg hugggssss for Lav*

I'm sorry you're having a hard time. You're in my prayers.
 
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waterlily

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oh i don't go to the bible discussion forum either... i'm just quarantined to my room after a recent trauma and am trying to find balanced fellowship (in a safe place, my room) while i wait out the pain that i am enduring.

i was just beginning to participate in life and fully ready to overcome my anxieties and fears and call the enemy a liar for what he's tried to do to destroy my life, and he went for the jugular... so i am just trying to catch my breath and re-gain my composure before i venture out into the world again.

i was feeling so joyful and stable, and then i saw my abuser last monday at my aa meeting. i have been trying to recover ever since.
he is the one that triggered ptsd and instability and anxieties in me that i cannot even begin to describe.

i had prayed for him, it was my way of forgiving him, but i can't say it didn't throw me off to see him there and have to sit across from each other for two hours or more.

the blessing is that it caused me to take my mother to church for the first time.

i need all the support i can get right now, i understand the internet doesn't really substitute for face to face interactions and all...
Heavenly Father, I lift up my sister lav to you. Lord we know when we are isolated and in pain thats when the enemy likes to attack and bring discouragement. Father I ask in Jesus name you show and reveal in your loving kindness your perfect peace and healing touch. Father we take every thought captive to you so that she may experience your joy and hope. Reveal your tender mercies to her in a way that totally overshadows her circumstances right now. Holy Spirit lead her to all truth and break every single lie of the enemy.

Lord bring into her life spirit filled loving people who will minister to her with your love. Lord show her how much you desire freedom for her in every avenue in her life and you wont stop working out good for her. Bless her and shine forth your glory in her life. Show her the wonderful testimony she has in you.

In Jesus mighty name
Amen
 
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Lynx

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My family ain't at the shallow end of the gene pool, but I've been told I'm off the deep end. The Bible Discussion forum is too deep for me though.

What gets me though, is so many of the threads over there start out with such an obvious troll bait. Maybe it's because I was a moderator in a christian chatroom for so long, but I read the first post and think "Trooooooooll!" and I wonder how anyone would fall for such a blatant argument starter... then I scroll on down and read some replies and find people are in fact taking the bait. Actually they fairly throw themselves on the hook. It's like they're saying to themselves, "YAY, another person I can disagree with! BANZAI!!"

Reminds me of a cartoon I once saw:
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So yeah, I stopped looking in on the bible study forum.
 
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i'm sorry guys... i'm just going through so much.

you can only do so much crying out for help and asking for prayer.

i'm really hurting and having a hard time.
I know, Lav. :( You'll be in my prayers.
 
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But for the record.. I stopped going into the bible discussion forum a long time ago. If I ever get a craving for a headache, that's where I'll go..
 

Rachel20

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Lav,

I prayed for you.

Satan comes to kill and destroy, but you can overcome through Christ. God is greater than anything in this world.

God is able and mighty. May He fill you with his peace that passes all understanding. Don't get worried or upset over anything but give it to God. He can take care of it better than you or any of us.


Your sister in Christ loves you!!
 

gypsygirl

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keeping you in my thoughts, and i prayed for you this afternoon. *hugs*
 

seoulsearch

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10 points for the name of this thread, Lav :D.

It made me smile. ;)

I wear very strong prescription glasses and can no longer wear contacts, so all I can do is wade around in the shallow end anyway. :D
 

Roh_Chris

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My family ain't at the shallow end of the gene pool, but I've been told I'm off the deep end. The Bible Discussion forum is too deep for me though.

What gets me though, is so many of the threads over there start out with such an obvious troll bait. Maybe it's because I was a moderator in a christian chatroom for so long, but I read the first post and think "Trooooooooll!" and I wonder how anyone would fall for such a blatant argument starter... then I scroll on down and read some replies and find people are in fact taking the bait. Actually they fairly throw themselves on the hook. It's like they're saying to themselves, "YAY, another person I can disagree with! BANZAI!!"

Reminds me of a cartoon I once saw:
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So yeah, I stopped looking in on the bible study forum.

After reading that I went and looked at some of the threads. You.are.right. Some threads seem obvious troll threads.

Btw, is that cartoon from xkcd? :D
 
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Aya2011

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i'm sorry guys... i'm just going through so much.

you can only do so much crying out for help and asking for prayer.

i'm really hurting and having a hard time.
Cheer up lav! I will pray for you on whatever it is that you are going through.
 
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Tintin

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I used to visit the Bible Discussion forum all of the time, but since Arlene, I've been in the Singles forum far more. Generally the atmosphere is more peaceful and we're like one big family - sharing and supporting each other where we can. I've also become a bit less gung-ho about laying the smack-down on trolls, false teachers, legalistic and judgmental Christians - which is good. But I do miss some of the quality discussions in the Bible Discussion forum. Although, I definitely don't miss the heightened tension and extreme stress created by some of those threads. Maybe we could have some civil biblical creation etc. discussions here in the Singles forum. That would be cool and no admittance for those who thrive on conflict and have to create their own. :)