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I for one am tired of not fitting in and always being cast out as the loser. I don't see how I can enjoy my life or my future degrees when I am so awkward and disliked by so many people, even on here.

Maybe I am the only one

I give up on people.
 
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Arlene89

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You give up on people? Enjoy YOUR life?

God never gave up on you, and last time I checked, you were bought at a price. It's no longer your life anymore. Lose it, lay it on the altar everyday, give it over to God's hands. Maybe if we all stopped holding on to ourselves, and trusted the potter with our very breath and heart, allowing Him to shape and re-mould us, then maybe we would start seeing ourselves and His beloved people through His eyes and love. Really love. Love like we never expected anything in return.

Just saying.
 
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Rec, I'm sorry to hear that you are feeling this way... I for one always love chatting with you. What specifically makes you feel like an outcast? You are an amazing person with a depth and desire for the things of God that I love. If it's chat... sometimes you just have to stick it out and make yourself heard. The conversation moves quickly at times, so comments can get lost in the shuffle if other things are also going on.

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Arlene89

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Sorry, I've been having a bad day... I was very harsh!

I'm sorry you're feeling that way, but can I encourage you in something? Don't base your life on other people's reactions. Whether you enjoy life or not shouldn't be solely based upon other people's reactions or responses. I see you seem have given up and given yourself over to this mentality and lie about yourself. What if I told you were not disliked? You are rejoiced over.

Don't give the enemy any more room, man. See yourself through God's eyes. One thing I have done that really shaped me was that I loaded the audio book of Ephesians on my Mp3 Player and listened that everyday for over a week.

Sorry again, I should know better then to get too charged up.
 
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Bate

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Reconciled-Ambassador, keep the faith brother.
It may be a mentality that you aren't being loved by others, but I think, have self esteem and confidence in who you are.
 
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Exoaria

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This is our problem. We're always so focused on us.
How can someone else reject me when I'm accepted in Him?
Maybe one day we'll start to take our eyes off of how other people treat us, stop loving our own lives, and start living for other people and understand that God never gives up on us when we turn against him— so if I walk in the light as He is in the light, what reason do I have to feel anything towards someone who turns against me but love?
 

Roh_Chris

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Maybe if we all stopped holding on to ourselves, and trusted the potter with our very breath and heart, allowing Him to shape and re-mould us, then maybe we would start seeing ourselves and His beloved people through His eyes and love. Really love. Love like we never expected anything in return.
Here is where the problem lies - when we read a passage about love or forgiveness, we assume the 'enemy' to be a non-believer. We don't realise that believers are as likely to wrong us as non-believers. So when we are wronged by a believer, we get hurt and upset. Nothing shatters a Christian more than being wronged by a fellow-Christian.

Personally, I have often made this mistake. It has taken repeated blows to make me discard that assumption.
 
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I for one am tired of not fitting in and always being cast out as the loser. I don't see how I can enjoy my life or my future degrees when I am so awkward and disliked by so many people, even on here.

Maybe I am the only one

I give up on people.
I know how that feels and in my case its mostly my awkwardness around people (always timid, shy and nervous) that is the cause of it, besides a lot of other things about me like my lack of finances, being overweight, not having any friends, never making much money, etc.. My family and relatives are all successful so I know what it feels like to be the outsider and one of the reasons I don't have friends is because I'm too afraid to open up to people because I'm afraid they'll reject me or make fun of me.

I have to admit that God has helped me with a lot these past 8 or 9 years (that's how long I've been a believer), and He's lifted me out of a deep pit, but I still have an impossibly long way to go before I can ever say that I've done good with this life that I've been given.

Here are some of the scriptures that give me hope so I can hang on to faith..

Joel 2:25-26 (NASB)
Then I will make up to you for the years That the swarming locust has eaten... You will have plenty to eat and be satisfied And praise the name of the LORD your God, Who has dealt wondrously with you; Then My people will never be put to shame.…


Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV)
11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.


Luke 6:20 (NIV)
Looking at his disciples, he said: "Blessed are you who are poor, for yours is the kingdom of God."


Matthew 5:5 (KJV)
Blessed are the meek: for they shall inherit the earth.

Matthew 23:12 (NIV)

For those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.

John 12:25 (NIV)
Anyone who loves their life will lose it, while anyone who hates their life in this world will keep it for eternal life.

God bless.
 
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Desdichado

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I for one am tired of not fitting in and always being cast out as the loser. I don't see how I can enjoy my life or my future degrees when I am so awkward and disliked by so many people, even on here.

Maybe I am the only one

I give up on people.
I don't know what to tell you, because I don't know you personally.

Part of me feels for you. People are cruel to those are a little different.

Then again, part of me wonders if you need an attitude adjustment. People will accept you if they don't see you accept them.
 

Lynx

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I gave up on people too. Now I do what I have found works for me instead of what everyone else says. I'm a lot happier now, and I have friends too! :D

I am pleased to be the first to officially welcome you to the club Reconciled-Ambassador.
 
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JustAnotherUser

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Join the club, we got jackets.

Honestly, I would rather find peace in solitude than to be something I'm not to gain others approval anyway, and lately I've been learning just that. If people don't like you for any reason or because you don't put in that extra effort to impress anyone then that's their problem.