What are you uptight about?

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Grace-Like-Rain

Grace-Like-Rain

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There a a few things in life where I have to constantly tell myself, "Girl, you need to tone. it. down."

One being my preference that everything I do (for work) meet my idea of professional standards. It makes it so tough to work with other people who aren't so picky about how things look or sound. I hate how uptight I must seem to them, even though I know that my method consistently produces better results.

What are your "uptight" areas in life?
 
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I get very uptight about presentations and any kind of public speaking. I can go from uptight to very critical. I have been a part of so many that I have a set way I want to do them, and a way I think they should be done. If I don't watch myself, I will sit in church and start thinking of illustrations that I would have used if delivering the same message. I really have to pray at times to just enjoy the message, learn from it, and take it in.
 
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I'm uptight about punctuality. I don't like being late, I don't like running late. My husband is slow going when we have to be somewhere and it makes me tense. Sometimes if we have to be somewhere at a certain time, I will tell him a half hour earlier so we aren't late. Since we have two cars I often leave, only to church. I teach Sunday school I like to get there early. I have things to organize. We live two blocks from the church and we've been late, so now I say, see you there and I take the kids and go. He can drive his car or walk.
 
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It kills me to be late for work. It happens... well, maybe once in four years. If I'm running a bit behind I may kill that motor to make up time, but I ain't gonna be late.

Only other thing bugs me is people getting in the way of my work. I have a job to do, they are standing around talking... MOVE IT! There's plenty of space elsewhere to stand and yak about the latest football game.
 
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Jullianna

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It would be easier to say what I'm not uptight about. I'm uptight about my work, anything I study, anything I create, my desk, my purse, my yard, my house, my car, my clothes, my nails.... How much time do you have?

I don't really know whether I'm truly a perfectionist or whether it's because of the perceived expectation others have of me, or because I grew up with a hypercritical mom.
 
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1) my work - i definitely hold myself to a far higher measuring stick on all things related to work. being early/on time for meetings, having my "tasks" done, and often, take on greater responsibilities, and sacrifice a lot to make sure that my client/cohorts are very happy -- i always look at goals as minimum expectations that i plan and prepare to far outpace.

2) communication in general. unless i know you very well, i can be rather perfectionist about concept articulation, word choice, grammar, and even formatting. however, it's pretty much second nature to me, because i've always been that way.

i'm the same way in presentations and events where i need to present or speak. i am always concerned about conveying my message without failing in some obvious and predictable way.

3) the only other thing that can sort of worry me is others' feelings. i can agonize a bit about others' responses, confrontations, and letting someone down. i feel horrible if my actions wound someone, and would do almost anything to prevent that.

i have lived my life mostly trying to be the classic under-promise, over-deliver motto. i hate it when i'm EXPECTED to meet some high standard, and forced into some role or category that feels either challenging or impossible to meet--usually by someone else's perceptions of my abilities. i prefer to set my own challenges (such as volunteer) rather than others placing me in those boxes. that said, i seldom take on things that i'm not confident i can do really well.

while i do have some real perfectionist tendencies, i am FAR from uptight. i could probably give lessons in NOT being uptight. ; p.
 
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Jullianna said:
It would be easier to say what I'm not uptight about. I'm uptight about my work, anything I study, anything I create, my desk, my purse, my yard, my house, my car, my clothes, my nails.... How much time do you have?

I don't really know whether I'm truly a perfectionist or whether it's because of the perceived expectation others have of me, or because I grew up with a hypercritical mom.
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In your case I wouldn't call it being a perfecstionist, more like maintaining a standard of excellence. :) Remember when I said it was one of the things I liked about you? I was being serious. :rolleyes:
 
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Things I'm uptight about...

- People who don't wash their hands after using the bathroom. Ugh! o_o

- Aggressive drivers who cut people off and ride people's bumpers. This isn't NASCAR!! >.<

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Grace-Like-Rain

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Jullianna said:

I don't really know whether I'm truly a perfectionist or whether it's because of the perceived expectation others have of me, or because I grew up with a hypercritical mom.
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I find this interesting, because I also grew up with a hypercritical mom. Or perhaps just a perfectionist herself. She wasn't critical of ME as a person, but of how things should be done. (Must vacuum the same patch of carpet until all the threads stand up straight, must mow the yard twice to catch stray grass, washing the car was a nightmare, haha.)

I've never really thought about how that might play into my personality now.
 
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I'm starting to become somewhat OCD and have to have everything in categories or order, and hopefully i can cure it early as i dont want to be a controlling uptight OCD nazi haha
 
Lynx

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zeroturbulence said:
Things I'm uptight about...

- People who don't wash their hands after using the bathroom. Ugh! o_o

- Aggressive drivers who cut people off and ride people's bumpers. This isn't NASCAR!! >.<

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I dunno, that looks like standard Nashville freeway traffic to me. Just put it in motion at a good bit above the posted speed limit.
 
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I am a planner and get irritated when friends cancel on me or are late, especially to a movie because then I miss previews, don't get a good seat, annoy/disrupt people, etc. On the flip side, I get uptight about friends asking me to do things with them last minute because even though it's nice to be thought of, I'm not a spontaneous person so I don't get the adequate time to plan stuff. Packing is major stress for me!
 
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Oh, speaking of canceling stuff... I really get uptight when I show up at church for choir practice and nobody else comes... "Oh sorry, we canceled that. Guess I just forgot to tell you." And I'm the only one they forgot to tell. One or two times might be understandable but when it happens so often you start to get the feeling you don't really matter, y'know?
 
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I'm generally easy going and very laid back, but some things still make me uptight.

If you don't know how to drive, get off the road. My patience for clueless drivers is non existent.

I like to do things at work a certain way, and get very uptight working with others who do it differently. In my line of work, being sloppy will only cause issues, and it really bugs me when things are done carelessly.
 
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I'm also uptight about...

- People who seem to lack compassion

- People who don't treat others with respect (especially towards the elderly or homeless)

- People who have no manners >.<
 
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Alright I'll be honest here lol.
I guess you can say that one of the most insecure aspects of my personality is the encountering of conflict, and this is something that the Lord is working on in me because well...haha, you can't really get through life without encountering conflict in your day to do situations. I have a tendency to oversimplify, rationalize, and avoid interacting with people, and investing in people because of the whole conflict aspect of friendships and relationships. Sometimes this comes with labeling people or judging because I want to have an excuse on why I should not talk to them.
Another thing I am uneasy about is erratic drivers or impulsive people behind the wheel of a motor vehicle. Let's just say that I have had a lot of 'glad that didn't happen' type of moments because people feel extra comfortable driving in the country.

Also when I worked, I could not stand micromanagers. If it's going to get done, it will get done.
 
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Mine: Ignorance. No compassion for helpless animals. Lack of empathy. Constantly complaining about the same things. Unwillingness to grow/self-develop/explore/become more self-aware. And when people are too uptight about way too much that I cannot feel like I can connect with them with my humour, share a laugh or a smile.
 
Roh_Chris

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Things I am uptight about-

- Work. My profile requires me to put in the best performance all the time. But if my colleagues cannot cooperate with me then it gets difficult for me.

- My mannerisms. I am quite formal even when it comes to friends. And my friends have accepted me this way. You can consider me old-school but I still follow etiquette.

- Dressing. It is not merely a covering of my body. It is an expression of who I am and what I stand for. You can call my sense of dressing as elegant.

I am a perfectionist by nature. I guess that is why I am a meticulous person in general.

Things I am not uptight about-

- Music. I can listen to any song as long as the music is good.

- Food. I love experimenting and trying out everything. Just don't add spice.

- People.

- Travel. I will raise the standards if there are women in the group.
 
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