Break up diaries...Reasons why someone dumped you or why you dumped someone...

[Tinkerbell725]

Have you been dumped? What was the main reason? Was it third party? He lost the spark? You were so possessive? She is a control freak? How did it happen? Share your story.

Love faded even before it began for me. I was dumped for no reason or explanation whatsoever. He just vanished into thin air like a bubble. Maybe I was attracted to a ghost. lol!

My sister was dumped on a valentines day. Reason: long distance relationship sucks.

 

[blue_ladybug]

1.) Have I been dumped? Yes mam, I have. Four times actually. Once for each of my four stupid boyfriends. LOL.

2.) What was the main reason? To put it simply, they were (and still are) sex maniacs. They love sex from anyone they can get it from. It was'nt really a shock, because most bf's cheat on their gf's anyway!!


Ever since then, I have been single, and I love it. The way I look at it is, they lost the best thing they ever had in me when they cheated. They all went on to other gf's who treated them like crap. Lesson learned on my part, never to be repeated again. I've had my fill of men for a lifetime.

 

[Esanta]

1.) Have I been dumped? Yes mam, I have. Four times actually. Once for each of my four stupid boyfriends. LOL.

2.) What was the main reason? To put it simply, they were (and still are) sex maniacs. They love sex from anyone they can get it from. It was'nt really a shock, because most bf's cheat on their gf's anyway!!


Ever since then, I have been single, and I love it. The way I look at it is, they lost the best thing they ever had in me when they cheated. They all went on to other gf's who treated them like crap. Lesson learned on my part, never to be repeated again. I've had my fill of men for a lifetime.

Most boyfriends do not cheat on their girlfriends. I have a pretty large group of friends and I'd say out of perhaps 30 guys, 3 of them have cheated, and mostly because their relationships were going nowhere.

I've been dumped a fair few times as well but it happens. The first time, she met someone else, the second, we were too immature and fought too much, the third, I came on too strong, the fourth, we were together for three years but we were going separate directions and came to resent each other, the fifth, it wasn't serious for either of us, the sixth, she just ended it out of the blue for apparently no reason at all, the seventh, I'm currently with her and it's probably the first time I've been in a genuinely mutually respectful relationship where I feel comfortable.

It takes time to find someone like that.

 

[blue_ladybug]

1.) Have I been dumped? Yes mam, I have. Four times actually. Once for each of my four stupid boyfriends. LOL.

2.) What was the main reason? To put it simply, they were (and still are) sex maniacs. They love sex from anyone they can get it from. It was'nt really a shock, because most bf's cheat on their gf's anyway!!


Ever since then, I have been single, and I love it. The way I look at it is, they lost the best thing they ever had in me when they cheated. They all went on to other gf's who treated them like crap. Lesson learned on my part, never to be repeated again. I've had my fill of men for a lifetime.

Edit: they are all EX-boyfriends now..lol.. This was back in the 90's not recently.. #haventhadcoffeeyetmybrainsasleep

 

[blue_ladybug]

Most boyfriends do not cheat on their girlfriends.[/COLOR]I have a pretty large group of friends and I'd say out of perhaps 30 guys, 3 of them have cheated, and mostly because their relationships were going nowhere.

I've been dumped a fair few times as well but it happens. The first time, she met someone else, the second, we were too immature and fought too much, the third, I came on too strong, the fourth, we were together for three years but we were going separate directions and came to resent each other, the fifth, it wasn't serious for either of us, the sixth, she just ended it out of the blue for apparently no reason at all, the seventh, I'm currently with her and it's probably the first time I've been in a genuinely mutually respectful relationship where I feel comfortable.

It takes time to find someone like that.

Then the men in your country must be alot more faithful than the ones here in America!! LOL!

 

[Tinkerbell725]

I wonder why those losers are drawn to you miss blue lady bug. Maybe you are too irresistible for them and when they figure out you know better than fall in their trap they flee as fast as they can. Or is it because of your idea that men are all like that they keep coming your way? They say you attract what you think. You are a walking magnet.

I observed two friends of mine who are thrill seekers in terms of relationships. They end up falling for married men. The cycle never ends.

 

[Esanta]

Then the men in your country must be alot more faithful than the ones here in America!! LOL!

Maybe lol I dunno, it's a lot to do with how dating's viewed in different cultures as well. The Americanized view to me can be quite shallow.

 

[Pipp]

Never dumped or been dumped .... I'm on a roll here

 

[blue_ladybug]

I wonder why those losers are drawn to you miss blue lady bug. Maybe you are too irresistible for them and when they figure out you know better than fall in their trap they flee as fast as they can. Or is it because of your idea that men are all like that they keep coming your way? They say you attract what you think. You are a walking magnet.

I observed two friends of mine who are thrill seekers in terms of relationships. They end up falling for married men. The cycle never ends.

What attracted them is the fact that back then, I was very naive and trusting of people. I would give away my last penny to help someone. They took advantage of that, and since I'm the type of person who could care less about having sex, they sought it elsewhere. But also like I said in my previous post, they all craved sex 24-7, and that's not an exaggeration. I never have really cared about having sex, I can definitely live without it. So their nympho lifestyle factors in also.

As for being a walking magnet, I turned off this polar end long ago. LOL.

 

[kenthomas27]

Never dumped or been dumped .... I'm on a roll here

Pipp, you're what I call a passive heartbreaker. Grand Funk Railroad called you mean Miss Treater. It's no fault of your own, but I bet you're the girl this is written about - heart breaker, cake baker. There's a song in this somewhere. I believe it takes a lot for you to realize someone's pining away for you and by the time you do, you've already broken their heart and I think it happens more than you know. Just my take, but you're the music behind those "she don't know she's beautiful" songs.

Now me, on the other hand - everything goes great at first. We go out and have fun and get to know each other and have a few very deep conversations and text each other all the time then it gets to where we just can't see each other enough and then I get comfortable and kinda get laid back with her - you know, take my boots off type of comfort - and all of a sudden she leaves!

I wish I knew the answers....

 

[Tinkerbell725]

Pipp, you're what I call a passive heartbreaker. Grand Funk Railroad called you mean Miss Treater. It's no fault of your own, but I bet you're the girl this is written about - heart breaker, cake baker. There's a song in this somewhere. I believe it takes a lot for you to realize someone's pining away for you and by the time you do, you've already broken their heart and I think it happens more than you know. Just my take, but you're the music behind those "she don't know she's beautiful" songs.



Now me, on the other hand - everything goes great at first. We go out and have fun and get to know each other and have a few very deep conversations and text each other all the time then it gets to where we just can't see each other enough and then I get comfortable and kinda get laid back with her - you know, take my boots off type of comfort - and all of a sudden she leaves!

I wish I knew the answers....


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lol! all this time I thought you were a duck...how come you have hairy feet?

 

[kenthomas27]

lol! all this time I thought you were a duck...how come you have hairy feet?

they're hairy?

 

[JesusLives]

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Anybody have any bobby pins? Hair gel? VO5? First we take the electric shaver and start at the top and go down. Would you like this cut into a pattern or shaved off clean?

 

[CatHerder]

1.) Have I been dumped? Yes mam, I have. Four times actually. Once for each of my four stupid boyfriends. LOL.

2.) What was the main reason? To put it simply, they were (and still are) sex maniacs. They love sex from anyone they can get it from. It was'nt really a shock, because most bf's cheat on their gf's anyway!!


Ever since then, I have been single, and I love it. The way I look at it is, they lost the best thing they ever had in me when they cheated. They all went on to other gf's who treated them like crap. Lesson learned on my part, never to be repeated again. I've had my fill of men for a lifetime.

so most boyfriends cheat on their girlfriends? It looks like you are making a generalization about men based on your personal experiences. I guess it's easier to blame a whole population rather than look inward and explore why you attract such men.

I guess by the same logic you are saying that most women treat their boyfriends like crap?

Blue, since my divorce from a very domineering narcissist, the handful of women I have dated have been sexually aggressive, wanting things that are better reserved for marriage. It never crossed my mind to say that most women, or even just most women in the U.S. are sexually aggressive (and of course, I am referring to the body of believers). Instead of judging half the population, I've looked at why I attract certain women. It just seems healthier and more realistic.

Then the men in your country must be alot more faithful than the ones here in America!! LOL!

No. Sorry. You don't get to bash American men because of your bad decisions.

 

[lav]

i love you Tinkerbell, but the title of this thread makes me nauseous.

 

[love7]

I have never been dumped since I have only been in one relationship.He was a great guy and things where great; but I had to end it; it was wrong.Firstly I was in a bad space;I used him to not feel lonely; I also wanted to just have "that specail person".I was not really attraced to him;but I ignored that because he made me feel beautyful.He went to church but didn't have a personal relationship with God due to his brothers death: he was angry.The greatest reason was not that he is not a virgin;no.It didn't bother me that he was sexualy active and found me sexualy attractive;No.The greatest reason for ending stuff apart from it not being right in Gods eyes is that he did not care enough about me to protect the morals I wanted to keep above the ones he beleived in.He convinced me to do a lot of stuff that are imoral and to enjoy them.I'm so sorry that I broke his heart...honestly I wish it never happened but then again...I learnt lessons I will never forget.

 

[Tinkerbell725]

I have never been dumped since I have only been in one relationship.He was a great guy and things where great; but I had to end it; it was wrong.Firstly I was in a bad space;I used him to not feel lonely; I also wanted to just have "that specail person".I was not really attraced to him;but I ignored that because he made me feel beautyful.He went to church but didn't have a personal relationship with God due to his brothers death: he was angry.The greatest reason was not that he is not a virgin;no.It didn't bother me that he was sexualy active and found me sexualy attractive;No.The greatest reason for ending stuff apart from it not being right in Gods eyes is that he did not care enough about me to protect the morals I wanted to keep above the ones he beleived in.He convinced me to do a lot of stuff that are imoral and to enjoy them.I'm so sorry that I broke his heart...honestly I wish it never happened but then again...I learnt lessons I will never forget.

Its sad that you had to learn it the hard way. But learning is good because if you dont you will keep making the same mistakes. You dont need other people's opinion to feel special. You are special in the eyes of God. That's why He paid a great price to for you. The world is so deceiving we are fooled into thinking we need everyone's approval to feel good about ourselves. This world is fleeting. Believe only in what God says for His word endures forever.

 

[Tinkerbell725]

i love you Tinkerbell, but the title of this thread makes me nauseous.

Sorry about that lav...But please be open minded. We all make mistakes. And the important thing is we learn from them so not to repeat them. I only want to learn from what others had to go through.

 

[lav]

yeah, i don't know... for some reason i always feel that way whether i'm the one doing the breaking up or if it's me who's on the receiving end of a breakup.

even though every one i've been through i'm glad it happened, i just kinda wish those relationships would have never been there to begin with. like you said though, you live and you learn... and i guess that's the point.

i've never belonged with anyone i've been in a relationship with.

 

[Tinkerbell725]

yeah, i don't know... for some reason i always feel that way whether i'm the one doing the breaking up or if it's me who's on the receiving end of a breakup.

even though every one i've been through i'm glad it happened, i just kinda wish those relationships would have never been there to begin with. like you said though, you live and you learn... and i guess that's the point.

i've never belonged with anyone i've been in a relationship with.

We're you involved in a love triangle? I've heard that the secret of a successful relationship is a love triangle. God should be the third party. There are always three sides to every story. His side, her side and God's point of view.