The Need to be Mr/Ms Right, Whether We are or Not

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Jullianna

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What causes this? I've been reading a lot about this today and most counselors agree that it comes down to fear and/or insecurity. Here are some of the things I've found:

ARTICLES:

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/shift-mind/201103/why-is-it-so-important-be-right

http://www.audreymarlene-lifecoach.com/the-need-to-be-right.html

http://www.angriesout.com/right.htm


Fears that can cause the need to be right:
Fear that I am not measuring up, not okay, not progressing as I should, not applying what I know, not filling my own or others expectations. Fear of being invisible or ignored; fear of being put on the spot, too much in the spotlight when I'd really rather hide.
Fear of being unloved or unlovable; fear of seeing others as unlovable.
Fear of being real, of appearing flawed, fear of letting myself or others down, fear of not being myself — my best self, of not connecting with myself or others or God, fear that if I let my real self out, it will be rejected.
Fear of being misunderstood, not being known; fear of misunderstanding and not connecting with others.
Fear of being alone, abandoned; fear of chaos and crowds.
Fear of being demeaned, talked down to, not valued; fear of not valuing others enough and causing them hurt.
Fear of not being just right, fear of being helpless, fear of being powerless; fear of being powerful.
Fear of being proved stupid; fear of being gifted.
Fear of not being good enough; fear of being inferior.
Fear of not being right, not being validated, not getting what I want.

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Proverbs 11:2
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom.
 
Lynx

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I would say something right about here, but the first post pretty much covered all the bases. :)
 
Desdichado

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I don't want to be the Jesus juker here, but for some people the need to be right ultimately stems from pride. Though I do suppose certain species of pride cause insecurity, leading to more pride, leading to more insecurity.

Okay, the psychologists are right. I'm not. By their logic, my admission of this makes me healthy. Maybe this is how they think they can win debates all the time...
 
zeroturbulence

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Proverbs 9:8 NLT

So don't bother correcting mockers; they will only hate you. But correct the wise, and they will love you.
 
Lynx

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zeroturbulence said:
Proverbs 9:8 NLT

So don't bother correcting mockers; they will only hate you. But correct the wise, and they will love you.
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Translation: Stay out of the Bible Discussions forum. ;)
 
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jeremyPJ

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zeroturbulence said:
Proverbs 9:8 NLT

So don't bother correcting mockers; they will only hate you. But correct the wise, and they will love you.
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This has been proven true, earlier in my own life. Mockers can take you down, if you engage in their game.
SO glad I found the Lord. I can hope the Devil takes the mockers down at their own game!
 
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