Hi all, im looking for some advice or scripture suggestions. I have had a history of rejection in my life and had a traumatic breakup with my last bf. I met my current bf a few months ago and for.the first time ever, I instantly felt like wow, this is exactly what I have been looking for, I just gave up on looking for it because I didnt think it.existed. We get along great, he meets all of my needs and desires in a partner, but I just cant shake that fear of loss. Due to his job situation, he may have to move back with his parents who live on the opposite side of the country from me. This has been stressing me out immensely because here I finally find someone I think just might be the right guy, and he may have to move away. I am also concerned that the distance will strain or even end our relationship. Im not sure what to do because my worry over this makes me have more of a hard time enjoying.the relationship. Any suggestions? Please pray for me.
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Hi Lonie. 
The very best advice I have for you is from Philippians 4. The whole chapter might be helpful, but I'll just post the specific part I was thinking of here:
"The Lord is near. 6 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; 7 and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus."
Thank God for the things you do have, thank Him that you and your boyfriend met, and for other good things in your life. And when you catch yourself worrying, tell God what you're worrying about, why it worries you, how you're feeling about it all... and tell Him that you're leaving it in His hands.
There are two or three other verses along the same vein that might help you, too:
"Cast your burdens to The Lord, and He will sustain you."
"...casting all of your care upon Him, because He cares about you."
You can "give" God your worries, in fact not only does He tell us that we can do that... He tells us that we should! There are a few different ways to do that, but just do what works for you. That's the only advice I have, and the only thing that has helped me with worry, aside from asking God to help me trust Him. I hope this helps... and I will pray for you as well.
The very best advice I have for you is from Philippians 4. The whole chapter might be helpful, but I'll just post the specific part I was thinking of here:"The Lord is near. 6 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; 7 and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus."
Thank God for the things you do have, thank Him that you and your boyfriend met, and for other good things in your life. And when you catch yourself worrying, tell God what you're worrying about, why it worries you, how you're feeling about it all... and tell Him that you're leaving it in His hands.
There are two or three other verses along the same vein that might help you, too:
"Cast your burdens to The Lord, and He will sustain you."
"...casting all of your care upon Him, because He cares about you."
You can "give" God your worries, in fact not only does He tell us that we can do that... He tells us that we should! There are a few different ways to do that, but just do what works for you. That's the only advice I have, and the only thing that has helped me with worry, aside from asking God to help me trust Him. I hope this helps... and I will pray for you as well.
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If you can fix it, do.
If you can't fix it, don't.
If you can't do anything about it, don't make yourself miserable dwelling on it. Focus on what you can do and what you do have.
In this case apparently the matter is not in your control. Nothing can be accomplished by dwelling on it, so you might as well enjoy what time you have with him while he's here.
But then... I'm a guy. From what I've observed, women don't just switch off their minds about things they can't change. I don't understand this.
If you can't fix it, don't.
If you can't do anything about it, don't make yourself miserable dwelling on it. Focus on what you can do and what you do have.
In this case apparently the matter is not in your control. Nothing can be accomplished by dwelling on it, so you might as well enjoy what time you have with him while he's here.
But then... I'm a guy. From what I've observed, women don't just switch off their minds about things they can't change. I don't understand this.
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As far as when your biggest obstacle is yourself “If you really want to escape the things that harass you, what you’re needing is not to be in a different place but to be a different person.”
― Seneca
Just out of curiosity, what is his job situation? Also, what is keeping you from moving wherever he moves?
― Seneca
Just out of curiosity, what is his job situation? Also, what is keeping you from moving wherever he moves?
I agree with what Grace said.
These things happen in any relationship. And it could happen to anybody. But as far as long distance relationships are concerned, it is not a big deal. Of course you wont be able to enjoy every evening together but you can save up your money and then spend it on one big date for a weekend. Plus, you have skype and gtalk and so many video calling options that it shouldn't be a problem. You will have to make some adjustments to your activities to accommodate the time difference. As Grace said, if it was meant for you then trust God to make it last. Don't worry about it.
I will pray for you.
These things happen in any relationship. And it could happen to anybody. But as far as long distance relationships are concerned, it is not a big deal. Of course you wont be able to enjoy every evening together but you can save up your money and then spend it on one big date for a weekend. Plus, you have skype and gtalk and so many video calling options that it shouldn't be a problem. You will have to make some adjustments to your activities to accommodate the time difference. As Grace said, if it was meant for you then trust God to make it last. Don't worry about it.
I will pray for you.