Opening the Doors for Guys and Other Fun Things

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Do you find it rude when others open the door for you (answer according to gender)

  • Yes ( I am a man. I don't like it when others open the door for me)

    Votes: 1 3.0%
  • No (I am a man)

    Votes: 16 48.5%
  • Yes ( I am a woman. I don't like it when others open the door for me)

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • No ( I am a woman)

    Votes: 13 39.4%
  • Other opinion

    Votes: 3 9.1%

  • Total voters
    33

Rachel20

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Hey everyone, I am making a poll.


Based on this -

When I was in the USA, I found it very sweet how many of the guys would open doors for the women. It's not something that's very common in my home country.

I felt so inspired by this, that I decided to return the kindness that was shown to me by the men. I would try opening the doors for everyone - both men and women.

In fact, I was so eager to open the doors for others, that at one point I even dashed across the room , slid and opened the door for a man with a child.

He was really bemused and thanked me.


However I then came across this study, done by researchers at Purdue University who found that men who had the door held open for them by another man experienced lower self esteem. Women had no effect on them whatsoever when doors were opened for them.

So I was wondering, directed to everyone, do you find it rude when a woman opens the door for you? Or if a man does it for you, if you're a man?

Posting the poll soon


 
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arwen-undomiel

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I like it and I say thank you, but there is that awkward waiting period if there is a person that sees you coming and decides to wait for you to keep the door open, but you far away enough to make it feel that it's not necessary for them to do so, then it's like ugh...
 
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arwen-undomiel

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When and if I am in a qwerky mood, I'll add in a 'Sir' at the end of it for fun XD
 
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I like it and I say thank you, but there is that awkward waiting period if there is a person that sees you coming and decides to wait for you to keep the door open, but you far away enough to make it feel that it's not necessary for them to do so, then it's like ugh...
I hate the awkward waiting period haha. In general, though, regardless of the gender of the person who opened the door, I appreciate it and I always smile and say thank you.

My fiance likes to open doors for me, but sometimes I'll rush to beat him to it and I'll stand there with a big cheesy grin on my face. He returns the cheesy grin and says "why thank you, you're such a gentleman!"
 

Rachel20

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around here, people don't really open doors for people.
Oh really?

I was surprised at how all the American men were always being so courteous and nice or maybe it was my location.

I can understand if not everyone is that kind.
 
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arwen-undomiel

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There is the two options right- the holding door open: they enter in first; holding door open: you enter first but make sure door is still ajar for them. I do the latter more often for males and other females.
 

Rachel20

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When and if I am in a qwerky mood, I'll add in a 'Sir' at the end of it for fun XD
I hate the awkward waiting period haha. In general, though, regardless of the gender of the person who opened the door, I appreciate it and I always smile and say thank you.

My fiance likes to open doors for me, but sometimes I'll rush to beat him to it and I'll stand there with a big cheesy grin on my face. He returns the cheesy grin and says "why thank you, you're such a gentleman!"

Haha.


I found it really cute when old grandpas do the whole courteous thing. You just want to pinch their cheeks :)
 

Rachel20

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I wonder if men who do get offended by this, have some macho thing going on?

I wish more people opened doors for everybody else.
It's such a simple act, but it's so kind!
 

Liamson

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I typically hold the door open for whoever. But not at church or at the Mall, cause that is pretty much a life sentence of servitude.
 
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biscuit

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#11
So I was wondering, directed to everyone, do you find it rude when a woman opens the door for you? Or if a man does it for you, if you're a man?

In America you have some who like it and others who despise it. Believe it or not! today, I open the door for two women carrying a large item and they looked at me rather nervously. Did they thank me? of course not.

Several years ago, I slipped in a foot of snow and two women came over and pull me up. And yes, I did thank them.
 

Rachel20

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I typically hold the door open for whoever. But not at church or at the Mall, cause that is pretty much a life sentence of servitude.

Haha. I can see that happening! :p
 

Rachel20

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In America you have some who like it and others who despise it. Believe it or not! today, I open the door for two women carrying a large item and they looked at me rather nervously. Did they thank me? of course not.

Several years ago, I slipped in a foot of snow and two women came over and pull me up. And yes, I did thank them.

Maybe the two women today were surprised by your act of kindness and didn't know what to say.

Anyway God sees everything and He rewards us accordingly! Yay!!!



God bless you for helping those women :)
 

Rachel20

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I asked a friend once how he would feel about this, the whole opening doors scenario, and he said it was a petty matter and not worth much consideration. I couldn't agree with him more.


However my motivation in asking this, was to check if in any way I Had committed any social faux pas by eagerly opening doors for others, especially with regards to a western mindset.

By these responses, I am going to continue doing that. Thanks for the votes guys.


yay!!! It's so much fun to open doors for others!!! Woohoo!!!!!
 
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biscuit

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Maybe the two women today were surprised by your act of kindness and didn't know what to say.

Anyway God sees everything and He rewards us accordingly! Yay!!!



God bless you for helping those women :)[/QUOTE

Thanks. America is such a perverted nation that some women see the men as a potential 'opportunist.' They don't want men to do anything for them unless they ask them, for fear of being so-called "taking advantage of."

While there are women who just love the special attention, especially, if he is tall, dark & handsome. LOL!!

I remember reading in the Boston paper about a professional football opening the door for a woman, and she avoided him by using another door. The man was from Alabama where the majority of women expect a man to open the door for them. Some parts of America have a profoundly different culture when it comes down to professional courtesy.
 
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jennymae

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I remember reading in the Boston paper about a professional football opening the door for a woman, and she avoided him by using another door. The man was from Alabama where the majority of women expect a man to open the door for them. Some parts of America have a profoundly different culture when it comes down to professional courtesy.
This is so true. And I do expect a man to open the door, thats just how it should be.
 
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arwen-undomiel

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I think also with how society is, that random acts of kindness don't happen as much as they use to, that everyone seems to have some sort of motive, when certain kind things are done, people are thrown off, they become nervous, and suspicious. For example, the holding door stuff, in the past, I have had guys that have done that just to talk to me, but it's not out of kindness, nor out of genuine interest, but to make some lude comment. So it makes me want to avoid those situations all together. I don't think random acts happen enough anymore, that people are always thinking that everyone has a motive. Too many sales people out there.
 
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Being a native, I try to open the doors for my elders and the elderly in general. That goes for everyone else as well. Some smaller kids have issues with tiny thumbs and little muscles. To me it's just plain courtesy to open the door for everyone else regardless of age, race, and gender.

But not at church or at the Mall, cause that is pretty much a life sentence of servitude.
I like doing the mall. Some people really enjoy the kindness of a stranger. :p
 

Lynx

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I'm in Tennessee, where people hold the door open for people as a matter of course. It's not like that everywhere in the USA though.
 
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Tintin

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No, I don't find it rude or embarrassing. I open doors for anyone (yes, sometimes too early and then it gets awkward). I also don't mind guys or girls opening doors for me. In Australia it seems there's not really a culture of opening doors for people but it really depends more on the individual than anything else.