Seasonal People

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Grace-Like-Rain

Grace-Like-Rain

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This quote really has me thinking today.

Some people come in your life for a lifetime, some come for a season. You got to know which is which. You gone always mess up when you mix them seasonal people up with lifetime expectations. -Madea

And a bit later, "That person was supposed to come into your life to teach you ONE THING and you went and fell in love."

What do you all think about putting lifetime expectations on seasonal people in your life?
How can you tell when someone is seasonal?
Any tips for enjoying and learning from seasonal people, and not being hurt when they drift away?
Have you ever been the seasonal person in someone else's life?

(I'm not talking about romance necessarily. Just friendships and relationships in general.)
 
Roh_Chris

Roh_Chris

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Grace-Like-Rain said:
What do you all think about putting lifetime expectations on seasonal people in your life?
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I think it is hard to know whether someone is going to be with you for a lifetime or for a season. You can only take it a day at a time and leave the rest to God and the future.

Grace-Like-Rain said:
How can you tell when someone is seasonal?
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I think you will know a person is seasonal when you both start drifting apart after a while. There won't be any hard feelings or fights, you just drift apart.

Grace-Like-Rain said:
Any tips for enjoying and learning from seasonal people, and not being hurt when they drift away?
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Just take it a day at a time. When it comes to people, live in the present moment. When you have an ice cream, you are not going to worry whether you will have an ice cream tomorrow. That's the same with people. Enjoy the present. Leave the worrying to God. What is most important is that you enjoy the present with no room for regrets in the future.

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Have you ever been the seasonal person in someone else's life?
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Yes, I have been a seasonal friend to some people. Eventually we just drifted away, but even today I can just pick up the phone and have an hour long conversation with them. Also, the various stages of life bring many seasonal people into our lives. You would have one circle of friends in school, another in college, another at your workplace, another at church, etc. Only a handful will remain with us all through life's journey.
 
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jogoldie

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I was just talking about this subject with my daughter.....I can remember many seasonal
loved ones.... I first met this woman in california...I was alone out there not knowing
anyone....she lived in the apt next door to me....after meeting her... she came into a situation...
where her babysitter refused to open the door.... she was another neighbor....the poor girl
was on her way to work....so I told her I would be happy to watch her boy.....this incrediable
woman was the one God sent to me so I could find my personnal relationship with Him...
I help her with her son for 7yrs...then when he grew up and didnt need me anymore..
I left california and never to see them again.....she was there for me guiding me carefully..
And there was tears but we both knew it was for a season and God had plans for us....
I will never forget my sister....and I still pray for her....melianie. ..I love you gurl.....
Peace ...jo
 
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Rachel20

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What do you all think about putting lifetime expectations on seasonal people in your life?
How can you tell when someone is seasonal?
Any tips for enjoying and learning from seasonal people, and not being hurt when they drift away?
Have you ever been the seasonal person in someone else's life?
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I cannot tell if someone is seasonal but to enjoy them is to live in the moment. It's to give that burden to God and say, your will be done.

Having a blank mind and no expectations - that's how you enjoy them.

Only when you put lifetime expectations on seasonal people and they thwart them, will you really know they are there only for a season. When you realize that, that's when the drifting begins.


How do we avoid being hurt?

I wish I knew.

Sometimes, the people we meet in our lives are so magnificent, so amazing, so beautiful, that we can't help but love them.

When we form bonds with people, I see it like strings connecting people. The straining of it always hurts.

It's worse when you're more attached to the person than they are to you. For them, the string that connected them to you stretched and stretched and gently broke while for you, it would be a sudden jerk.

It's feels almost impossible to escape a broken heart but the good news is that God is close to the brokenhearted.
Never more in sorrow and loss, is His comfort so precious.

Jesus never leaves us nor forsakes us. When we have Him, it's okay if other people leave :)

We don't really need people who don't have time for us anyway!



 
tourist

tourist

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"It's the time of the season for loving."
 
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Grace-Like-Rain said:
This quote really has me thinking today.

Some people come in your life for a lifetime, some come for a season. You got to know which is which. You gone always mess up when you mix them seasonal people up with lifetime expectations. -Madea

And a bit later, "That person was supposed to come into your life to teach you ONE THING and you went and fell in love."

What do you all think about putting lifetime expectations on seasonal people in your life?
How can you tell when someone is seasonal?
Any tips for enjoying and learning from seasonal people, and not being hurt when they drift away?
Have you ever been the seasonal person in someone else's life?

(I'm not talking about romance necessarily. Just friendships and relationships in general.)
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Can I just say that I LOVE this post? I LOVE THIS POST!!!!!!! ( I assumed permission was granted).
I definitely believe that not all people in your life are meant for a lifetime. Jesus' time on earth with the disciples was for a season. Of course they would see him in glory but the time on earth was set and not meant to exceed the number of years God allowed. They didn't want him to go, but it was meant to be. I have had friends that I had to let go. I often know when a season has passed when we drift away. Then you find them on FB or run into them and you hope to rekindle the level of involvement you once had in their life but it never works. Its not to be. I am always seeking wisdom from seasonal people. I want to know what purpose they served. I try to remain thankful, even things didnt end amicably. I think the seasonal position in someone's life is mutual. If someone is no longer in your life, whether they miss you or not, you still were only meant to be in their life for a time as they were in yours. Wooohooooo, I love this post! I had to say it again.
 
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I have come to the point in my life that unless we're blood relations, I assume that you are only in my life for a season. If you're a blood relative, you're here for a lifetime (mine or yours). I'm not saying that I'm close with all my kinfolk, just that there is a bond there that cannot be broken and that I am always willing to let them pick up right where we left off.

Seasons come and seasons go. I try to make the most of them. Sometimes I'm blessed to discover that certain people, like certain flowers, bloom in my life again after a winter. Other people turn out to be only a spring or only a summer feature. Annuals and Perennials both have their place in the garden of my life. There are even a precious few in my life that seem to be evergreens, and they are cherished deeply.
The trick sometimes is knowing when to uproot a weed and knowing when to cultivate and encourage a wild volunteer.
 
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Abster

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Even loved ones are seasonal. People die.
I enjoyed the weed uprooting and wild volunteer comment... accurate! My season for detailed expression is over for now. Maybe this evening.
 
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Jorina

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Charcoal said:
Seasons come and seasons go. I try to make the most of them. Sometimes I'm blessed to discover that certain people, like certain flowers, bloom in my life again after a winter. Other people turn out to be only a spring or only a summer feature. Annuals and Perennials both have their place in the garden of my life. There are even a precious few in my life that seem to be evergreens, and they are cherished deeply.
The trick sometimes is knowing when to uproot a weed and knowing when to cultivate and encourage a wild volunteer.
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Beautifully said. Thank you.
 
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Abster said:
Even loved ones are seasonal. People die.
I enjoyed the weed uprooting and wild volunteer comment... accurate! My season for detailed expression is over for now. Maybe this evening.
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Does that mean you are not going to give us any more posts of significant depth? :(
 
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Abster

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Does that mean you are not going to give us any more posts of significant depth? :(
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I wouldn't be me if I didn't put thought into my comments. I'm just winding up the work day is all. This evening I will be back at it! :)
 
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heweeps

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I have a seasonal problem. I enjoy being with people temporarily. Extended relationships are really hard for me. I am very extroverted so I form friendships fast and lose interest quite easily. And I'm gone. I don't form emotional attachments.
Honestly, I don't like it coz it ends up hurting people. I do however have a best friend. She's like me so we have a great relationship coz we understand each other and love each other deeply in our own detached way. Truly :)
 
zeroturbulence

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Grace-Like-Rain said:
This quote really has me thinking today.

Some people come in your life for a lifetime, some come for a season. You got to know which is which. You gone always mess up when you mix them seasonal people up with lifetime expectations. -Madea
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Well that there grammars done messed up yo.
 
Lynx

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Ah well. I read the first post and instantly knew what I wanted to say, then I read the second post and Roh_Chris said everything already. Well it saves me some typing. Just re-read what Roh_Chris said and there's what I have to say about the matter. :D
 
Roh_Chris

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Lynx said:
Ah well. I read the first post and instantly knew what I wanted to say, then I read the second post and Roh_Chris said everything already. Well it saves me some typing. Just re-read what Roh_Chris said and there's what I have to say about the matter. :D
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The feline and the bear think alike? That's interesting. Also looks like the feline gave away some likes today. :D
 
Lynx

Lynx

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Didn't George Washington say to beware of those? Oh wait... that was entangling alliances.
 
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