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asamanthinketh

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We are beings with stages of development physically, mentally, spiritually. If not we would always stay as babies. I have lived with a mother and a stepdad that do not know how to hand kids, teenagers and growing into a young woman. I've been on the earth for 30 years this is true. But I have not grown up healthy and strong because of their lack of understanding of an individual. I could be strong and be a blessing to the world if they would but allow it. This past year and even now God is giving them an opporutnity to see me grow up normally and healthy and I know it and please give them enought faith to and patience and understanding to love me and let me live a healthy life. Especially after all the harm they have done to me already.

This is a new year, hopefully they have not done so much harm to me that I am now garbage and my development is stunted. I don't know what inside them has this insatiable desire to harm and maim. But the Lord did not create this.

GOD hear my prayer. Please.

No wonder they think I'm not normal, it is because I am not. They have not given me the love, faith, or space to grow up healthy and strong, because there is a man waiting for me. They have only sought out there own happiness, acting selfishly, and if they but only gave a little faith to me all would be well.
 
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greatkraw

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ASA, move out.

while you concentrate on blaiming people for where you are now you are not going to recover and grow

you are an adult, focus on God, seek His healing which will involve giving everything to Him and forgiving others and forgiving yourself for where you are now

only THEN can you heal and grow and develop
 
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"if they would only allow it" Well you are 30 years old, and I have a hard time understanding why you would choose to subject yourself to this situation that you are describing. You blame your parents....and they may well treat you badly, however I would say that you choose to live there correct ? Get a job if you don't already, and get your own life... I'm not trying to sound harsh, but you are an adult. Help yourself and get ur own place, and surround yourself with good ppl. Life is about choices, as an adult you choose to allow this situation...choose something else.
 

zeroturbulence

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Aug 2, 2009
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Pray that they will change their thinking. Pray that they will see what they have done to you. Pray that God deliver you from the bonds that they have on you. It is easy for people to say move out but I know that it is not always possible and there may be reasons for you being there with them. Whatever the case, pray and strive to do good in God's eyes. Meditate on His word day and night. Then He will grant your heart's wishes.

"Do not let this Book of the Law depart from your mouth; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful. Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go."
Joshua 1:8-9


Here is a verse to give strength to your spirit. It is one of my favorites:

Why art thou cast down, O my soul? and why art thou disquieted within me? hope in God: for I shall yet praise him, who is the health of my countenance, and my God.
Psalms 43:5

I will be praying for you.

gabriel
 
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Wug

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Well, you seem discontent. Many people are. There are always two ways for a discontent person to become content. Either, A. acquire whatever it is you desire, which I think is freedom, if I interperated that correctly. Or B. choose to be content, by changing the priority of you desires. Most people strive for A., and in your case, I think that would work out best. I moved out of my parents' house, and let me tell you........it rocks. But, if you're unable to move, just choose contentedness over dissatisfaction. It doesn't sound possible but it is. Happiness is a choice, not an accomplishment. I guess following older semantics, joy would be a better word than happiness. But it is very posible to choose to be content.
 
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sportygirl

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I agree parental acceptance is something we are born to want and our parentsare a huge part of our lives. But if you feel they are "stunting your growth" you have to seperate yourself from them at least for the time being give yourself the opportunity to grow in the word of God and then maybe you can come back to them and show them the amazing person you have become. This may help show them that maybe tehy didnt treat you right.

I know people going through this and kids whose parents told them that they don't respect their decesision even to be christian...its not easy, but you have to be the light into their world now.
 
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asamanthinketh

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thank you for having patience and understanding because all the other replys are little arrogant. I have had jobs, just never one that paid me enough to survive on my own in this area of the United States. And just because I live in their house does not mean that they have a GOD given right to treat me like I am the scum of the earth, a punching bag for all their evil thoughts and experimentation. And I have gone out and sought the Lord and given my heart to him and guess what even that backfired. So, just know that on this earth, as life continues on there is heartache and everything does not always get healed. And I don't see any of my "so-called" friends lifting a hand to help me.

For however long I have to live here I just want safety, peace, and maybe a little kindness from them that I have never experienced even as a child. Kids are supposed to be loved.
 

DinoDillinger

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Jul 28, 2009
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If we are counted worthy to suffer as Christ suffered we can rejoice!

Seek God's face. Do not be troubled by evildoers.

This season too will come to pass. Hold fast to the promise.

Whoever desires to be great will be a servant of all.

Pray for those who spitefully use you and persicute you.

God Bless you.